Married but living separately?

jaylee3

madison-nyc wrote: »

Not quite a huff but not going to discuss details about a subject I didn't post about.


Yet again a post gets railroaded to irrelevance.


I've taken what you have said on board, I've a friend who is a manager in DWP and will speak her tonight to see what the score is. If I'm at fault then I will have to decided how to proceed.

Eh?

Well, whatever you decide to do. Good luck.

themull1

whats to stop any husband or wife 'splitting up temporarily' and waiting for the benefits to roll in? Hey, why not use it as a savings plan?

Pollycat

madison-nyc wrote: »

Not quite a huff but not going to discuss details about a subject I didn't post about.

Yet again a post gets railroaded to irrelevance.

Well, welcome to MSE. :cool:

Do let us know the name of the website you find where everyone agrees with you and all replies stick precisely to the subject posted about. :rotfl:

madison-nyc wrote: »

I've taken what you have said on board, I've a friend who is a manager in DWP and will speak her tonight to see what the score is. If I'm at fault then I will have to decided how to proceed.

That sounds sensible.

Mojisola

madison-nyc wrote: »

Yet again a post gets railroaded to irrelevance.

Here's the relevance - yes, plenty of people live a separated life while still married whether that's through work or not getting on if they share a house. It's a choice people can make if they can finance it themselves.

If a couple who choose to do this can only manage if one of them claims benefits as a single person, it's fraud.

tinkerbell28

It is relevant because if you can only afford to live apart due to a huge wedge of tax credits, well it's not going to work is it?

DWP guidelines are different to HMRC legislation. Under that for tax credits, you're committing fraud.

Personally I would not involve the friend and do that to them. As a DWP employee if you did disclose the situation it's a conflict of interests. They should report it.

Your issue is not necessarily with the DWP as their guidelines are different. As far as tax credits are concerned you're a couple.

madison-nyc

themull1 wrote: »

Not jaylee, the op,whats to stop any husband or wife 'splitting up temporarily' and waiting for the benefits to roll in? Hey, why not use it as a savings plan?

Benefits rolling in? I'm financially worse off on my own with the kids, I'm skint. I would be better off with him moving back in. We are trying to see if we can work it out before making the decision to move back in. I didn't/don't want to rush as it would be unfair all round and especially on the kids to go through another split if we make the wrong choice.


So wind your judgemental neck in!

marisco_2

madison-nyc wrote: »

Not quite a huff but not going to discuss details about a subject I didn't post about.


Yet again a post gets railroaded to irrelevance.

The subject that you are taking such exception to being raised in your thread is actually very relevant to your current living arrangement. Which is why it came up in this discussion. By suggesting that people who have taken the time to try and help you, have purposefully railroaded your thread by having the audacity to raise a pertinent matter, you will only succeed in them not bothering to assist you any more.

Mojisola

madison-nyc wrote: »

Benefits rolling in? I'm financially worse off on my own with the kids, I'm skint. I would be better off with him moving back in. We are trying to see if we can work it out before making the decision to move back in. I didn't/don't want to rush as it would be unfair all round and especially on the kids to go through another split if we make the wrong choice.

So wind your judgemental neck in!

As others have said - we don't think you're doing this deliberately but you could be getting yourself into a bad situation without realising it. We are trying to help!

What you don't seem to be taking on board is that you can be assessed as being a couple even if you don't live together. From the way you describe your lives at the moment, it's likely you would be judged to be a couple.

Pollycat

marisco wrote: »

The subject that you are taking such exception to being raised in your thread is actually very relevant to your current living arrangement. Which is why it came up in this discussion. By suggesting that people who have taken the time to try and help you, have purposefully railroaded your thread by having the audacity to raise a pertinent matter, you will only succeed in them not bothering to assist you any more.

Or empathise or support the OP as earlier replies on page 1 did.

tinkerbell28

I empathise with her, do I or don't I? Shall we look at getting back under the same roof or not?

Lots of people live married and apart or go thought this. So I think the initial posts took the op at face value and didn't think any further.

Now the issue of benefits has come up, which is absolutely fundamental to the initial quandary. Running two houses on significantly reduced tax credits may not be possible. So issue solved. Live together.

Aa married couple who aren't legally separated or seeking to permanently separate, quite the opposite.

Under tax credits at the very least it's a joint claim. So this will have a very big effect on the should we/shouldn't we scenario. As ops not single as far as HMRC will be concerned.

Oh well.