Engagement Ring After Split?

newcook

spamalot wrote: »

If you really wanted to take it all the way, you could take her to the small claims court. Then she would either have to give you back the ring or the cash value if she wanted to keep it.

An engagement ring is given in contemplation of a marriage, if that marriage does not take place then there is no further formal agreement therefore the ring should be given back.

I was going to suggest the small claims but didn't know if I was right in saying it could go there so I'm glad that someone else thought of it aswell!!!

knock it off the money you were going to buy her out with

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*Louise* wrote: »

OMG...HOW MUCH???:eek:

I hope she doesn't ever lose it....;)

4,600 for a single 1ct emerald cut stone, with only 2 tiny inclusions and E colour - on a white gold band.

Thankfully, it's insured in and outside of the house and she wears a 'fake' ring that cost 35 quid when she goes to work (A&E nurse.. doesn't want to risk being attacked for it or loosing it)

It's a drop in the ocean really compared to the 'cost' of buying a new home if we ever split up.

eryn_kathleen

I didn't vote in the poll because I don't think there should be a set rule. As with everything, it depends on the circumstances!

In your case, though, I definitely think she should give it back. I would like to think that if I were in the same situation I would be gracious enough to do that.

grahamliza4

Ex bought me £300 ring - I gave it back when I left as he asked and I didn't want it anyhow - perfect example of his tight-fisted small-minded !!!!!! warped small-man syndrome.

Husband won't tell me how much but had it looked at by mate who works in jewellers and she reckons close to £2k - he spent last of his childhood premium bond thingys on it, shows he thinks I am worth it.

Always wish I'd kept 1st ring as I could've sold it and put the £ to good use!

:rotfl:

Bargain_Rzl

Sorry about your split

From a purely objective point of view, and not unique to your own situation, I'd see it this way.

If I was engaged and the relationship didn't work out, I'd give the ring back.

If I was married and the relationship subsequently didn't work out, I'd see the engagement ring as being mine to keep.

Angel777

hi jammy78, you should get it back, why has she still got it?

jammy78

Angel777 wrote: »

hi jammy78, you should get it back, why has she still got it?

She has still got it probably to sell it on!!

She is never giving it back and now she wants 10k for her share of the house instead of the agreed 7.5K. I have had one lucky escape!

When you thought things couldn't get any worse!

Little_Miss_Saver

I've still got mine but thats only because he refused to have it back.

Don't really want it but can't bring myself to sell it just yet!! Put it away for now until I can decide what to do.

Personally I think it should be given back irrespective of who ended it and how much it cost etc etc

LMS xx

drowningnotwaving_2

Lesson to be learnt - don't spend such ridiculous amounts on engagement rings! And I love the idea that the amount you spend on an ring somehow says anything at all about how much your partner loves you - what a sad and materialistic world we live in. And that point has been proved to be rubbish by OP who spent £4k on engagement ring - didn't make their relationship last did it?

My engagement ring cost very little cos at the time we got engaged we couldn't afford much. I get so sick of my friends who've got engaged since flashing these huge rocks under my nose and bragging how much their fiances have spent on them. Many of them have since been divorced. Hmm.

My husband has proved how much he loves me by staying with me for 14 years despite some really difficult times. He would have been very upset if he knew I'd gone out and tried to find out the cost of my ring - it's totally meaningless. If I'd found out it cost him £50 should I have left him?!!

Anyway, sorry, doesn't help OP - just gets me so cross when people equate the cost of their ring/wedding/presents etc with the amount of love someone is showing. What c**p.

OP, I'm afraid you don't have a leg to stand on. Walk away and next time you get engaged pick a girl who won't judge your love on how much you spend on her engagement ring - that way you're more likely to have a love that will last.

reehsetin

jammy78 wrote: »

She has ended it!

I want it back but she is saying no because i gave it to her and it means a lot?

if shes dumped u shes unlikely to care for you
the ring is a symbol of love, if there is no love why should she want to keep it