Engagement Ring After Split?

*Louise*

It should really be given back - especially if it was really expensive, or a family heirloom or something.

Tbh....what woman wants to keep a ring that symbolises a failed relationship?? It would probably never be worn and it's a bit cheeky to flog it and keep the money.

Mind you - if the bloke had cheated on me, or done something else awful, I would keep it just to spite him hehe...:rotfl:

*Louise*

ringo_24601 wrote: »

Since I've just sploshed over 4K on a shiny ring for my fiancée,...

OMG...HOW MUCH???:eek:

I hope she doesn't ever lose it....;)

jammy78

newcook wrote: »

I have just read one of your other threads - tell her to keep the ring and do the hell she wants with it so long as she signs the papers removing her from the mortgage papers. tell her you wont be buying her out either.

Just tried that and was told she would not sign anything without the cash!

Legally where do I stand with changing the locks on the house and throwing out her clothes? Can I get done by the police?

I know i should just forget about the ring but I can't! Simply I have no chance, it's gone!

All this is making me ill!!!! I just want it all over!!!!

newcook

She sounds like a very nasty spoilt b!tch!!!!!
As you are one of the owners you have every right to change the locks for security reasons but she also then has every right to call a locksmith to 'break in' so long as she has proof that she lives there (utility bill etc).
You could perhaps deduct the amount of the ring off the amount you were going to buy her out with. You definately need to get her off your mortgage papers or she will screw you for more and more.
I take it she is still paying part of the mortgage - if not she needs to until it is signed over to you.

Oldernotwiser

It was always accepted that if you (female)decided to break off the relationship you should return the ring, if he breaks it off, you can keep it.

pinkshoes

If she isn't going to give it back, then I'd go with selling all her clothes and other jewelery on ebay!

Or at least print this thread off and show her it!

If she's refusing to give the ring back, she's obviously a very selfish person, and you're much better off without her!

jammy78

newcook wrote: »

She sounds like a very nasty spoilt b!tch!!!!!
As you are one of the owners you have every right to change the locks for security reasons but she also then has every right to call a locksmith to 'break in' so long as she has proof that she lives there (utility bill etc).
You could perhaps deduct the amount of the ring off the amount you were going to buy her out with. You definately need to get her off your mortgage papers or she will screw you for more and more.
I take it she is still paying part of the mortgage - if not she needs to until it is signed over to you.

Yeah I have just found that out! She owes also owes me money for bills from when we were living together.

Tell me about it, I need to get her off quick time as I think she is after more in the settlement!

That is a good idea, I have changed the locks due to security!!!! She can pay for the locks smith to come out!!!! What about her clothes, she has left them behind?

I was under that impression too - about her ending it, so gives the ring back!

I should have had things in place case it did go pair shape but you don't like to think like this!

spamalot

If you really wanted to take it all the way, you could take her to the small claims court. Then she would either have to give you back the ring or the cash value if she wanted to keep it.

An engagement ring is given in contemplation of a marriage, if that marriage does not take place then there is no further formal agreement therefore the ring should be given back.

How much is the ring worth by the way? If it is a large diamond worth a small fortune then I would suggest small claims court, if it is not worth all that much and if you are honest you only want to do it because you're hurting like hell then I would say let it go and move on with your life. If you drag it out now you'll only ending up hurting for longer. Just take it as one of life's lessons!

Good luck Jammy

dianadors

Oh how quickly love can turn sour. I think you should cut your losses, put it down to experience and move on. (you dont get much for a 2nd had ring anyway). Bag all her stuff up, drop it off at her mothers and say "Tara love!". Sort out your house and get on with your life. Sad that its all gone wrong for you, but better now than later down the line.

jammy78

spamalot wrote: »

If you really wanted to take it all the way, you could take her to the small claims court. Then she would either have to give you back the ring or the cash value if she wanted to keep it.

An engagement ring is given in contemplation of a marriage, if that marriage does not take place then there is no further formal agreement therefore the ring should be given back.

How much is the ring worth by the way? If it is a large diamond worth a small fortune then I would suggest small claims court, if it is not worth all that much and if you are honest you only want to do it because you're hurting like hell then I would say let it go and move on with your life. If you drag it out now you'll only ending up hurting for longer. Just take it as one of life's lessons!

Good luck Jammy

The ring cost me 4K and is a single diamond! If I don't get it back it looks like small claims then?!

Thanks for all the advice!!!!