Engagement Ring After Split?

jammy78

Smashing wrote: »

Out of interest, how long had you two been together?

Nearly 3 years. Been engaged about a year!

It was living together that really killed us! Thus we have a house togther that needs sorting.......... :eek:


I just don't think it is right, I saved up for that ring (for a long time) and now say in a year or so she needs some money to help with another deposit (for example) - there is a few grand just sitting in a box!

jammy78

newcook wrote: »

why is it your fault???

Simple - we don't get on and it is all my fault!

newcook

do you still live together???

if you do, sneak into her room while she's asleep and take it off....!!!!

jammy78

newcook wrote: »

do you still live together???

if you do, sneak into her room while she's asleep and take it off....!!!!

Wish I could, she has gone back to her parents!

But she has left loads of her clothes........... no ring, no clothes? Is that to childish?


It is a flat no to me getting the ring back........ I've just been told!

pinkshoes

She accepted the ring and agreed to marry you, so if she no longer wants to marry you, then she should give it back. She's being extremely selfish and greedy not giving it back, especially as she's probably aware how hard you worked for it. Either joke to her that so long as she keeps it, that means she must love you and will still have to marry you (!), or you could take the value of the ring from the sale of the house!! Or if you wanted to be really petty, just take some stuff of hers of equal value and sell them!!I suppose you could try taking her through the small claims court over it?!?!

katiekittykat

jammy78 wrote: »

She has ended it!

I want it back but she is saying no because i gave it to her and it means a lot?

in that case she should give it back!

Kimitatsu

Jammy 78 - move on

You have no legel right to the ring under English Law so you are just winding yourself up over it. Move her stuff out of your flat, and hold your head up high with dignity. The more you get wound up the more she wins because she feels she still has a hold over you.

Move on find someone else and forget about her, she is not worth your time.

[Deleted User]

Since I've just sploshed over 4K on a shiny ring for my fiancée, its something I had thought about (but not worried about). We'd decided that it would depend on the circumstances of the split. If I left her, she keeps it (also includes if I cheat) and the same would go for her.

Chances are, she'd want to keep it either way though...

newcook

if its so she can sell it to get a deposit on a place, sell her stuff on ebay to recoup your costs!!!!

another thing to try (if you get on with them) is to speak with her parents and tell them how unreasonable she is being - they may be able to talk some sense into her

newcook

I have just read one of your other threads - tell her to keep the ring and do the hell she wants with it so long as she signs the papers removing her from the mortgage papers. tell her you wont be buying her out either.