Cheery's buttling diary: tea in one hand, plant pot in the other, running shoes on

Cheery_Daff

Goodness me, internet banking is on a go-slow this morning! (rather like me, then :rotfl: )

Taken me AGES but I have managed to sort out the bank after the holidays, and bizarrely it's not looking too bad, which makes me wonder what I've missed out... :rotfl:(actually, just realised I'd put £100 in the wrong column )

But it's still not too bad!

:j :j

So - September...

£254 car maintenance (MOT due Oct? Must check! Everything else done til Jan)
£179 annual bills (house insurance and tv licence due Jan)
£348 house (NEED to sort roof...)
£110 No Quibble fund (only just been so will leave for a couple of months)
-£15 holiday fund but we won't be going again for a while :rotfl:

So the plan for this month... £170 spends as usual, and 10 NSDs - let's be realistic...

Need to go and work out what cash for envelopes

starnac

Morning cheery sounds like you had a nice relaxing holiday. I'm just about to log into internet banking. Hope it's not still slow.

10NSD sounds achievable. Hope you sort out your envelopes

Karmacat

Hi Cheery! My word those prices sound high ... you *can't* be hugely mse with that going on, though it definitely sounds like you did the best you could. Its a holiday, after all, not a penance And you're doing well today if you managed to sort out the bank by the time you posted - well before 9am, lets point out :T (says she, posting at just before 10am )

Cheery_Daff

:hello: Hi both

Had to sort it before 9am - I had an appointment to make a phone call at 9! (although when I rang the lady said she couldn't talk to me after all!) Still, got me up and dressed

Cheery_Daff

Spent a bit today (surprising really as I've barely left the house :rotfl: )

£5 on Slimming World (which now officially doesn't count as breaking a NSD as it's come from an envelope )
£4.50 on cereal bars and raffle (which is not going in the envelope as I can quite easily do without it!)
£6 fruit and milk and eggs (which comes from food budget).

Went for a run this evening which ended up being in the dark - put my running kit on then rang my dad - don't think I've ever talked on the phone to him for more than 10 minutes, but today was over an hour :eek: Hate hearing my parents sounding vulnerable He's on his own, nan has just been diagnosed with dementia, his best pal has just died, he's on the dole and battling with learning to email so he can apply for things and I ended up feeling quite gloomy and sorry for him

However, he didn't seem to be feeling sorry for himself so I should probably just get over myself and remind myself that he is actually only 56 and 106!!

Weirdy weird.

Eventually went out for my run though, just half an hour but quite nice Made some tea and now scoffing a tiny little cake :rotfl:

Hoping tomorrow will be September's first NSD - I'm off on fieldwork, have lunch and snacks packed and all travel is paid for and I'm only out 8.30 til about 6 so no excuses really!

Oooh, and I'm doing my first ever car boot sale at the weekend! :j Quite excited Not expecting to make anything, more doing it to be friendly with a neighbour who I like very much but don't know very well but quite looking forward to it Must find some stuff to sell.. :rotfl:

Karmacat

Sorry your dad's having it tough, Cheery - a dementia diagnosis for his mum is awful, of course, and he sounds like he's got it pretty tough himself. Good that he's not moping, though, and determined to learn email, thats important in today's world, if you need to do anything new at all.

Good luck with the carboot sale! I sat with somebody doing it one time, and if its good-natured, it genuinely can be a lot of fun. Hope you find lots of stuff you want to get rid of

Cheery_Daff

Thanks KC Shall have a rummage for stuff to see tonight. Looking forward to hanging round with the neighbour a bit more!

I think I struggle to see my dad as an adult sometimes - i've always thought of him as a perfectly good natured teenage carefree acquaintance, but not a father... They married at 19 and were divorced again at 24 (when i was 3) and while we did see him every week at his mum's house, he didn't play any role in our upbringing, was often late and more interested in watching the motor racing... Often didn't pay maintenance, leaving my mum really struggling, and seemed to be off on holiday or buying stuff when we were struggling, and when my mum left him he just stopped paying the mortgage and smashed various bits of the house so it got reposessed and my mum didn't get anything at all from it, leaving her living in the council house she still lives in now.

So i struggle with the idea of him even having emotions i confess And i do realise how ridiculous that sounds! I was actually quite shocked by his attitude yesterday, joking but also very negative, not at all willing to try email, 'they' were forcing it on him etc and why didn't they just give him a job? Almost found myself feeling sorry for him having to walk to job club but stopped when i realised it's only 40 minutes walk and the only exercise he gets so probably a good thing!

He's shown almost no interest in his grandchildren and i'm not sure he's even met the youngest who's now 5. Not sure my sister will ever forgive him. Maybe some people are just like that.


So i suppose you might say i have some things of my own to work through there... :rotfl:
Sorry, this is all very heavy for a Tuesday morning!! :rotfl:

Cheery_Daff

Anyway, the sun's shining and I'm on a train and i've already ruined my NSD by buying a Big Issue from the cheery bloke at the train station

starnac

Oh cheery I'm not sure quite what to say about your dad. I had a similar experience with my dad growing up but then he died before I was 13 so nothing more to say about that.

I hope you are okay after the phone call x

Karmacat

I'm not surprised you struggle to think of him as anything other than a teenager! My word ... thats very kind of you to stay with him on the phone for as long as you did. And it doesn't sound heavy, no - just a reality check. I know you have a firm grasp of that, which certainly helps in working through the kind of thing you're facing.

Though you've ruined your NSD hmmm I haven't read the Big Issue in ages - but you have to have something to read on the train

Take care of yourself - big phone calls, car boots, running, long commute day - I expect to hear about some tea and cake somewhere in here :kisses3: