coworker enquiring about sexuality

sniggings

Southend1 wrote: »

Yes, I have read that thread. I meant you were making a joke but it wasn't in very good taste, IMO considering the context in which you mentioned it.

you lost me now? how did I make a joke in bad taste?

I was simple saying, a gay person will let you know if they want to, no need to ask, someone on here said they had someone come out on day one, so I gave the example that gay guy from here, chooses to do it that way too, nothing bad tasteful about that.

Southend1

AP007 wrote: »

ouch violence will get you no where

Nor will telling people to f*** off.

AP007

Southend1 wrote: »

Who's hot and not. Marriage, kids, what you did at the weekend......

Gay people can get married and funnily have kids.

I worked with a gay man once who was once married to a woman and had two kids! I worked with him for 2 years and never knew he was gay.

Yeah cause the straight guy is gonna say at the weekend he shagged his gf :rotfl::rotfl:

Southend1

sniggings wrote: »

you lost me now? how did I make a joke in bad taste?

I was simple saying, a gay person will let you know if they want to, no need to ask, someone on here said they had someone come out on day one, so I gave the example that gay guy from here, chooses to do it that way too, nothing bad tasteful about that.

You implied that gay people should wear a particular item of clothing to identify their sexuality to others. Saying things like that could (perhaps unintentionally) cause a lot of offence.

Denning.

AP007 wrote: »

Gay people can get married and funnily have kids.

I worked with a gay man once who was once married to a woman and had two kids! I worked with him for 2 years and never knew he was gay.

Yeah cause the straight guy is gonna say at the weekend he shagged his gf :rotfl::rotfl:

You seem to have really shallow relationships with people. Do you come across stand offish in real life?

AP007

Denning. wrote: »

You seem to have really shallow relationships with people. Do you come across stand offish in real life?

Shallow? How do you mean?

I don't see how the answer no I don't have a bf or a gf or no I am not married is stand offish

sniggings

Southend1 wrote: »

You implied that gay people should wear a particular item of clothing to identify their sexuality to others. Saying things like that could (perhaps unintentionally) cause a lot of offence.

gay guy commented in this thread, so I used his example here, I think you are over reacting here, it was clearly in reference to a well know example on this forum.

duchy

Southend1 wrote: »

No you don't, but then you either have to avoid a huge number of conversation topics or tell lies!

Like what ?
You must work in a very strange place
Work conversations are work or general conversations
eg "Glad it's Friday" "Do you have X file" "Did you watch Eastenders last night" etc

Not.....Did you have sex last night ?
Was it with a man or a woman ?
I don't discuss sex,politic or religion with people I merely work with...... especially if I barely know them.

I'd have considered this woman's behaviour to be odd and offensive especially as she persisted when the question was dodged. Normal people would take the hint and drop the topic.

I'd probably mention it to her line manager as a bit of an odd occurrence in case there was a pattern to her behaviour.

One job I worked in when I first joined the company I was the only straight person working there. Didn't bother me -or the lads I worked with 0it simply wasn't relevant. The biggest impact it had was if we went to the pub it was usually a gay pub and as I was in a relationship I wasn;tloking to pull at the pub so- so what !

I find people's facination about what sex other people are sleeping with a bit peculiar TBH especially when they don't fancy them. I don't think it's even an age thing-some people are just a bit odd.

Not sure how you "treat someone as straight" surely you treat people as people. Sexuality is one facet of who you are it shouldn't define you/ When I worked for the gay holiday company some of the guys were going to a Gay Pride march -one of the other guys told me he wasn't going as he felt it was too politicized and *to him* being gay didn't define who he was -it was one facet-an important facet but not something he felt deserved any more attention than him being Cornish for example . I agree with him. He was Mark to me- a lovely guy with a great sense of humour-all of which were how I thought of him waaaaaay before the gay matter. I didn't fancy him so I really didn't care what his preference was.

Southend1

sniggings wrote: »

gay guy commented in this thread, so I used his example here, I think you are over reacting here, it was clearly in reference to a well know example on this forum.

I found the suggestion that gay people should be put in a position where they feel they need to wear a particular item of clothing to identify their sexuality offensive.

sniggings

Southend1 wrote: »

I found the suggestion that gay people should be put in a position where they feel they need to wear a particular item of clothing to identify their sexuality offensive.

OMG you are strange, read the thread again and you will see it was in reference to that, I said if a gay person wants to let you know they are gay they will let you know or as in gay guys case wear a t shirt, if that offends you then sorry but that's your problem, as to anyone else it was clear what I was saying.