Children and violence

poet123

pinkshoes wrote: »

I certainly wouldn't hit back, that's for sure.

Would you mind answering my questions re your knowledge of the children involved please. I would be interested to hear some background. If you would rather not that's fine.

penguin83

I am another who has told their child to hit back. My daughter was bullied by a boy who made his way around the class hitting, pushing, kicking, biting others in the class. Eventually it came to her turn, we went in to school and the teacher said 'He has always been lively, he doesn't have the best home life' End of conversation. Needless to say the next time he kicked her in the shins, she pushed him and he fell over. He has never bothered her again. The school accepted our stance on the matter but said they didn't condone it. They were not willing to deal with it so it was dealt with. The boy is still terrorising the class but gives her a wide berth. They are in Year 6 now, so a whole school life and nothing done.


My children will be nobodies punch bags.

Lieja

I'm another that was taught to hit back, and I'd teach my kids the same. OH is a bouncer, so it'd be a bit hypocritical to teach anything else!

Everybody has the right to defend themselves against attack, and I'd even go so far as to say that that includes the 'threat' of attack. There is no sense in allowing somebody to hit you first, just so you're 'justified' in hitting back. I do realise that it sounds like a terrible thing to teach a kid, but they've got the exact same rights to self defence.

My OH was involved in an incident before Xmas where a guy bit him on the arm; safe to say the guy came off much worse in the end. Guess who's been charged with ABH? OH was the victim in this case, and just because the guy chose somebody much more capable than himself to pick a fight with doesn't mean OH was wrong to do what he did. The whole thing happened in front of a group of police officers who obviously agreed.

Why would we impose different rules on children?

nickj_2

if schools dealt with bullies then hitting back wouldn't be a problem , as all too often it's the victim who is left to suffer
at the end of the day , it is assualt , just becaause it takes place at school shouldn't make a difference.

Noonar

FBaby wrote: »

I much much prefer to teach my kids to be assertive than that it is ok to hit back. Assertive kids don't get pick on/bullied, yet don't have to be bullied either. I was never bullied nor ever bullied anyone, nor did my parents, nor did my kids. You don't have to be one of the other.

You are wrong, I was a fairly confident assertive child and I was badly bullied. My parents told me not to fight back and to tell a teacher, which I did for quite some time - the bullying didn't really stop all through me senior school years. Years later my Dad told me he was sorry he told me to walk away and wished he had told me to thump them.