OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

mothernerd

I'd love to slack off but fear I have done too much of it recently - I have a fairly high mess tolerance (living with 3 boys for the past 30 years) but I am noticing all the things that need doing. Thinking of giving myself the alternatives of diy at the up for sale house or housework here, see which I want to run away from most. Can partly justify slacking off as each time I do work at the 'up for sale' house, I am too tired to do anything for 2+ days - but where does exhaustion stop and slobbing take over?

mum2one

a lazy afternoon, just watching Mutiny on the Buses, then think go and make some scones...x x

Need2bthrifty

BookWorm wrote: »

Good afternoon

I was being good and getting chores done this morning but now I'm procrastinating....:cool: Anyone wanna slack off with me?

BookWorm wrote: »

:rotfl: Guess that's a no then.... :rotfl:

:hello: I'll, join you now. Haven't been around here for ages, although I do lurk occasionally.

Like you I did my chores this morning and I've just finished picking a couple of lb's of goosegogs. Slacking off now though, sipping an elderflower cordial and listening to sounds of the 70's before I start topping and tailing the little gems.

JustKeepSwimming_2

greenbee wrote: »

Didn't get to see more than the outside from a distance sadly. Just had time for a quick walk and some food, then bed, packing and off to the office first thing. Worked throw till 6pm then went out into the countryside to stay with a friend for the night (and swim in her pool this morning...)

I'm now on a seriously delayed train from Connecticut to Boston. I technically have a free day tomorrow, but need to do expenses and prep for Monday's meetings.

Work has a way of sucking you in, doesn't it? I haven't been inside the Chrysler building, just walked around the outside & spent a lot of time looking at pictures, saying wow...

BookWorm wrote: »

Good afternoon

I was being good and getting chores done this morning but now I'm procrastinating....:cool: Anyone wanna slack off with me?

Would love to but I've been far too slack already :rotfl:

mothernerd wrote: »

...where does exhaustion stop and take over?

Slobbing can be quite tiring too, don't forget. I find that using the same amount of energy/time doing chores feels much more tiring than doing anything else. Weird, huh?

Mum2one - glad you had a lovely holiday :j

For those who suggested internet shopping - I do use every so often, but this time there weren't any delivery slots in my area for 3 days, so I couldn't wait. After the taxi fare though, I wish I had although it was all academic by then . Cab fares round my way are rubbish - went to the train station today (Sunday) & it cost £8.70. The journey from door to door took exactly 5 minutes (traffic was really quiet at 10am). When I first moved in 8 8 years ago it was about £3.50 ish. Anyone else noticed a huge hike in cab fares, or am I just not realising how quickly prices go up :rotfl:

I'll definitely be trying harder to be more organised with food planning & internet shopping (but haven't I been saying that for a while :rotfl:).

Hope all have had a great weekend & dodgy hugs :grouphug: to anyone who'd like one.

ellie99

I'm very late to the party this week

Just been catching up, lots of very thoughtful posts to read, and I feel too inadequate to comment, some of you have had really difficult times to cope with.

Re making an effort...
I think we can sometimes get stuck in a catch-22 situation...we don't feel good about ourselves, so we don't make an effort...so we don't look as well as we could, so we don't feel good...

I've no interest in my clothes at the moment, I never look in that big wooden box (aka the wardrobe) and wear the same few things all the time. I know it's because I've put some weight on, I only like wearing clothes when I'm slimmer...so I know the answer, but so far haven't acted on it.

I also think we can give out vibes that we aren't interested in relationships, or don't think we're good enough for one.
I expect some of us on here would like a relationship, and some aren't bothered. My last 2 long term relationships came about when I was feeling positive and happy and interested in improving my life, and knew I'd like a partner, I think it shows somehow. (and both guys had never seen me in anything girly...no make up, no hair done nicely, no skirts/dresses, no high heels, just basic work gear...and it didn't seem to matter...what shines through about how you feel inside matters more than the clothes)

I read a book which used the phrase "water finds its own level"...
basically meaning if you're not emotionally healthy you're likely to attract others who aren't, and at least if you are healthy and meet someone who doesn't treat you properly, you have the confidence to leave.

At the moment I'm giving out no boyfriend vibes, but quite happy with that, I don't feel like I've got the time to have a boyfriend around. (and is it just me, or does using the word "boyfriend" seem a bit teenage-y for someone in their 50s?)

mum2one

Ellie99 - I'm early 40s and the thought of saying boyfriend feels silly, yet to say partner makes the relationship feel like your about to move in him, there should be a happy medium word....

I was productive and made some cherry scones, nearly all gone now!!

x

Byatt

Ellie, I think you're spot on. I'm definitely giving vibes I'm not interested. I've also noticed that I get more attention when I'm feeling happy and open to people. I've also noticed when I'm like that, it doesn't matter what I'm wearing, my hair is a mess, no makeup etc, I get a certain look from men

I'm not emotionally healthy...right now, so don't want any bastwerds entering my life!


Anyway guys, I'm disappearing for a while from all things internet including FB...so don't worry or miss me too much.

Just need to find a balance right now and not live in the t'webb so much. Be good...xxx

BookWorm

Need2bthrifty wrote: »

:hello: sipping an elderflower cordial

mum2one wrote: »

I was productive and made some cherry scones

Ooooh sorry I missed you... sounds like we could have had a party

I decided to take myself off out for a walk since the weather was nice. Ended up running into some people I know and got talked into heading to the pub. It was a nice afternoon/evening in the way that unplanned meet ups quite often are

CRANKY40

I went to Asda this morning with my two shopping bags....and a sock. I had been intending to put the sock on the stairs so next person going up could take it with them. The look on my face when I was sitting in the car and realised I still had the sock must have been a picture. This is what happens during the menopause right? :rotfl:

JKS if you lived near me I'd have given you a lift. I hate the thought of any of my friends struggling when I have a car. I hate my friends struggling full stop. I'm actually not very good at this MSE thing as I'm always giving away things that the boy has grown out of instead of selling them. Even his shoes go to a lad on the estate who is a bit smaller than him and whose mum is a bit short just now. Maybe I will start by ebaying his shorts from this summer that haven't been worn yet as we haven't actually had weather warm enough :mad:

Take care all of you. I'm having trouble remembering who is doing what. I blame the menopause for that too!

ellie99

How's everyones week going?

i'm so looking forward to getting this week by with, hoping next week will be quieter.

I'd forgotten how hard it is to work full time (usually part time nowadays) and do everything else in the house as well.
I feel like there just aren't enough hours in the day, between working, lots of extra family visiting (which is nice ), solicitors stuff, puppy sitting, and *still* trying to paint the kitchen!
Every time I pick up a paintbrush someone appears wanting something!

I can manage going to work, it's all the stuff which needs done at home which I'm struggling with. A colleague was chatting today about how really busy we are at work just now, and it suddenly struck me...when he goes home all he has to do are the outside jobs like gardening and car washing, he's married and his wife does the indoor stuff. (seriously, he's told me in the past he's hung out washing "for his wife, as she was busy" as though it was a big deal!)

I'm not criticising an arrangement which obviously works for them, I may be a bit green-eyed at the thought of having help

So to all you singlies who have to do EVERYTHING, I applaud you