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ellie99

LavenderBees wrote: »

L I got a bargain at the weekend - a light fitting for my "new" bedroom from Laura A at £175 off because one of the glass shades was missing. I have ordered a replacement shade for £10...:T

I luvs bargains :rotfl:

Wow, that is the bargain of the month :T

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

No sign of the bad things stopping just now either. My latest theory is that my friend with the perfect life, who is just back from her second holiday this year & whose son has just landed a full scholarship to the best school around is having all my good luck as well as her own, & I'm getting all our sh!te.
It's like that advert (was it for yoghurt?)...if someone gets the pleasure, someone else gets the pain :rotfl:


Hope you DS is feeling better - that magic glue is wonderful stuff. We haven't had a casualty run for quite some time thankfully
You should never say that out loud JKS!

Love the colours you've chosen & all this talk of decorating does make me keep looking around my own house & wishing I could just get a team of men in to do it all for me :rotfl:

You don't need a team of men JKS, you just need me and LB :rotfl:

Just preparing for another day doing hospital visits, DM is there today as well.

LavenderBees

My bargain light looks fab, too....the electrician came this afternoon to do things like that, so even though the house is a tip and covered in plaster dust, I keep looking at my new light :rotfl:

Humans? Sorry JKS, forgot to say - I liked it...and yes, no doubt I'll not be able to watch it all as it will frighten me too, it looks like it will be really good :eek:

Well, I'm scrubbing tonight - my bedroom is my own again, but obviously only after a bloomin good scrub. I hope to be getting the pusses back tomorrow evening which is 5 days earlier than expected :T and so means a little bit extra in the much depleted contingency pot.

Hope all has gone ok at the hospital, Ellie.

LB xx

ellie99

LavenderBees wrote: »

Hope all has gone ok at the hospital, Ellie.

LB xx

Mmm, not really. Aunt has passed away, not much to say, she was very old, didn't have much quality of life (couldn't walk, eat properly, turn over in bed, that sort of thing) and it was expected, so it was not a surprise.

It will seem heartless to say it today, but the bit I'm dreading is trying to sort out her extremely messy affairs (I'm an executor).
She had asked us to sell her house...the housing market here is very slow, so I was amazed to do a viewing and get a good offer within a week of putting it on the market...we were due to complete this Friday, so the sale will now collapse. We were so close to not having to take care of an empty house in a different town!

I'm telling myself to stay calm and everything will get done in time.

Spent some time at the care home packing up her things, will wait until DSs are around to move it though. Unfortunately we can't wait until the weekend because the council give 3 days to clear a room, then the payment stops, and obviously the room goes to someone else. Hopefully will get back there tomorrow night.

mum2one

Ellie - so sorry to hear about your Aunt, you take care xx

nuatha

ellie99 wrote: »

It will seem heartless to say it today, but the bit I'm dreading is trying to sort out her extremely messy affairs (I'm an executor).
She had asked us to sell her house...the housing market here is very slow, so I was amazed to do a viewing and get a good offer within a week of putting it on the market...we were due to complete this Friday, so the sale will now collapse. We were so close to not having to take care of an empty house in a different town!

Pardon the intrusion on this thread.
Check with the solicitor handling the sale, the sale should be able to proceed, though the proceeds will be locked in the estate until probate is granted.
Back to lurking

ellie99

nuatha wrote: »

Pardon the intrusion on this thread.
Check with the solicitor handling the sale, the sale should be able to proceed, though the proceeds will be locked in the estate until probate is granted.
Back to lurking

Thank you.
It is the solicitor who is saying the sale will not go ahead. I have been "googling" and have read that it is possible to apply to the court for a special grant to deal only with the house sale. Whether this applies UK wide or only in England I've not yet discovered, (we are in Scotland). I will certainly ask about it.

nuatha

ellie99 wrote: »

Thank you.
It is the solicitor who is saying the sale will not go ahead. I have been "googling" and have read that it is possible to apply to the court for a special grant to deal only with the house sale. Whether this applies UK wide or only in England I've not yet discovered, (we are in Scotland). I will certainly ask about it.

I've been on the other side of the transaction - if I recall correctly, completion was delayed a week or so, but was able to buy the deceased's house (to the relief of her son). (English Law)
Good luck with it all.

LavenderBees

Thanks Nuatha.

Ellie, I was going to suggest that you go onto the Bereavement forum. I had a lot of guidance and support to help me deal with my family problems and through the executor process. I, too, having lurked and read many threads, believe you can continue selling the house. That's one of your jobs as Executor. But I guess it can be a bit more complicated so best to post specific circumstances.

Really sorry to hear about your Aunt

LB xx

JustKeepSwimming_2

ellie99 wrote: »

Mmm, not really. Aunt has passed away, not much to say, she was very old, didn't have much quality of life (couldn't walk, eat properly, turn over in bed, that sort of thing) and it was expected, so it was not a surprise.

It will seem heartless to say it today, but the bit I'm dreading is trying to sort out her extremely messy affairs (I'm an executor).
She had asked us to sell her house...the housing market here is very slow, so I was amazed to do a viewing and get a good offer within a week of putting it on the market...we were due to complete this Friday, so the sale will now collapse. We were so close to not having to take care of an empty house in a different town!

I'm telling myself to stay calm and everything will get done in time.

Spent some time at the care home packing up her things, will wait until DSs are around to move it though. Unfortunately we can't wait until the weekend because the council give 3 days to clear a room, then the payment stops, and obviously the room goes to someone else. Hopefully will get back there tomorrow night.

Even though it was expected & even though its what most people would think would be for the best at her stage (talking logically I mean & taking all the emotion out of it which is impossible to do but IHYKWIM) its still rubbish. Have a dodgy hug Ellie :grouphug:.

I don't think it sounds heartless at all to say you're dreading sorting out her affairs - who wouldn't be? Even if it was all beautifully arranged & catalogued it would still be a daunting task, so don't be hard on yourself. I was executor for my Dad (sole executor naturally, everything I do is on my own :rotfl:) & I found it hard going even though his affairs were relatively simple. It helped having something orderly to do though - not sure how I'd have coped with having to clear it all in 3 days though; that does seem harsh on grieving relatives although I can see that they need the room....

nuatha wrote: »

I've been on the other side of the transaction - if I recall correctly, completion was delayed a week or so, but was able to buy the deceased's house (to the relief of her son). (English Law)
Good luck with it all.

I remember something similar happening to a colleague a few years ago (England though) - they were distraught as they thought they were going to lose their dream house, but it did all go through even though it took extra time (6 - 8 weeks I think).

Will be thinking of you Ellie. You too Horace. I had a difficult phone call with Mother tonight - she's had another fall, but won't discuss either stopping one of her medicines or reducing its dose with her GP in case "it upsets the Doctor" (I could hear the capital D loud & clear). She also won't ask to complete whatever paperwork she needs to do to allow the GP to talk to me about her as she "doesn't do forms". Then she gets cross & tearful when I can't sort out her problems & accuses me of not caring :wall:

Its a hideous (avoidable) accident just waiting to happen & I'm dreading the consequences. So I've taken solace by crawling into a bottle of Merlot (only a 185ml one :whistle:) & will no doubt feel a little shabby in the morning. But its my day off, so it'll be a lovely day of rest - oh, wait; DD is off with a horrible chest infection, so I'll be playing nurse all day along with the frankly ridiculous list of chores

LB - send your men down South please. Maybe one will be capable of making the odd cup of tea for me if I ask nicely (then tell him how to do it, twice :rotfl:) Hope the new job is going well.

LavenderBees

Morning, All

JKS, hugs to get you through today...and not just today...Your Mum sounds difficult to cope with at the best of times, but also from her perspective, it can't be easy to be becoming frail and needing to rely so much on others etc. I was lucky that when this happened to my lovely Dad, we were a match made in heaven as far as agreeing on the way forward and helping each other through. But even so, I know he struggled to ask for help/accept he needed it. It's a tough time, and I wish you luck in helping your Mum. You can just keep chipping away, don't let her guilt you (you know you have tried, and that's what you have to live with), and you have a greater duty to look after your children (IMHO).

Well, "My Team" are nearly finished now, so will be up for grabs by the highest bidder soon :rotfl:. I scrubbed my bedroom and put the curtains up/made the bed last night, but it is now full of living room "stuff", so am still in huge upheaval. The living room will be finished today, and that's the builder/plasterer finished. Then just the joiner to come and fit my new bedroom door/skirting board/hang my new garden gate. :T

I've decided to have a towel rail installed in the bathroom for heat and usefulness, but that will have to wait until I am able to check if I have any money left (I feel perilously close to bankruptcy , especially as there are some problems at work with my new business area paying my salary next week...luckily, my old business area are still able to pay me :eek:. Of all the months to have a potential hitch in pay...:eek:).

Right, on with the day. Have a good'un. Nearly the weekend!

LB xx

ETA Turns out today isn't the last day for the plastering...there will be finishing off to do tomorrow . Still going to get the pusses tonight though