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LavenderBees

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

I won't say that maybe you should have taken longer off work the first time...... I really won't

I hope you do get a chance to have a good rest, & fingers crossed for some sunshine up your way. This virus (although I can't see how we can have the same one) is awful - it has gone through our school with a vengeance & most of the grown ups who've succumbed have been off for well over a week.

Look after yourself.

I've been not really watching Holiday Love Rats Exposed while I've been surfing & paying bills - makes you glad to be single. LB - I hope this isn't why you want a holiday in the sun :rotfl:

Yes, Mum I know I should have taken more time off, but my mood was getting too low spending too much time on my own. I judged that my emotional state needing looking after more than my physical state, and I was right, I'm sure. I just need a rest.

But you know...I've been awake since just after 5am, and although I've just been pottering in my PJs, I feel better, so I've come to the conclusion that it is my work situation getting me down now. I won't go into it on here, but believe me when I say it's all a bit of a mess at work, and I've come to the (belated and possibly very obvious to everyone else) conclusion that it doesn't matter how hard I work or what results I achieve, I am still going to be out of a job at the end of the year/beginning of next year. It's enough to get anyone down, I think.

I'm sailing into my 50s with the prospect of unemployment ahead. :eek:

On the positive side, I think I may try to change direction completely...watch this space. It will take hard work, and I must save save save, and it may not work out, but if I don't try now, I'll regret it, I know.

As for love rats, holiday or otherwise, chance would be a fine thing....:rotfl: On holiday, I just want to sleep , although I have been known to be dancing at 3am...

Enjoy your Fridays.

LB xx

Byatt

Mum2one, sympathies, how upsetting. Yes, I'd complain under these circumstances. I was on Esa a few years ago and having to go to the job centre...it was awful. The job centre person was really nice, just her hands were tied by policy. For instance I had to go on a course that was supposed to be voluntary but you couldn't not volunteer :eek:

The course itself was a complete waste of time...just telling us what we already knew...

Jks it's alright to miss them, but don't let it stop you from doing something for yourself.

BookWorm

mum2one wrote: »

Can I vent - so annoyed - although now sorted - it's unbelievable.

:mad: that they can treat you like that. Def complain hun

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Although they've only been gone for 4 hours, I'm really missing them & feeling sad - I'm not usually like this until they've been gone for at least 2 days. Must still be ill :huh:

Awwww bless you JKS. Def take some time to do something fun/nice/different to normal for yourself

LavenderBees wrote: »

On the positive side, I think I may try to change direction completely...watch this space. It will take hard work, and I must save save save, and it may not work out, but if I don't try now, I'll regret it, I know.

:think: Ooooh sounds interesting... are you able/willing to divulge any more details?

BookWorm

Evening all

My day has been very average...although I did manage to get away a bit early so home earlier than usual which is always nice.
Ready for some chill time. I love Friday nights as the whole of the weekend awaits...

BW

ellie99

Bookworm, do you do lots of fun stuff at the weekends? You look forward to it every week

JustKeepSwimming, I hope you think up a few treats for your time alone...it's not always easy is it, thinking you deserve a treat and not knowing what you want!

I've realised I've never actually lived alone, I went from childhood home to being married, to having children. So lived with just children for a long time, but not alone. I have the occasional week or weekend if I'm away or if DS1 is away, but that's all.

This week DS1 is working away, so have house to myself. What I'm learning is that if I was alone permanently I would have to be a lot stricter with cooking proper meals. I'll cook if someone else is here, but my treat when alone is to be lazy with food...would need to force myself to eat my greens!

What about you, I know some of you live alone, anyone else not managed it like me?
What's the worst thing about it?

Byatt

I never lived alone until 2008/09. Like you Ellie, parental home, married then later a child. I have always needed alone time to recharge...I get very tired being in company no matter how much I enjoy the company.

The worst part of living alone? For me it's the day to day intimacy of talking about your day or planning dinner...watching tv together.


The plusses are that I can eat when I want, read in bed till the early hours, not get dressed for days...:rotfl:

I don't always cook proper meals, and until the last year or so, would often live off snack foods. I used to enjoy cooking but when divorced I lost all interest in food, so as long as it filled me up I didn't care what it was.

I enjoy cooking much more but I still have made up meals no one else would eat, based on appearance :eek:

BookWorm

ellie99 wrote: »

Bookworm, do you do lots of fun stuff at the weekends? You look forward to it every week

Probably not by most people's standards :rotfl: but even on weekends I don't have much planned... I'm just happy to not be at work

sorry for being predictable

BookWorm

Re: cooking whilst living alone...it varies wildly for me.

Sometimes I love it and will happily cook (though usually prefer to batch cook so have home made ready meals where I can) but then I have other times where I really can't be bothered to make more than toast.

I do find that if I have someone else to cook for it does make me want to more generally....

I am trying to be better this year and eat more healthily (or at least less junk/naughty things )

ellie99

BookWorm wrote: »

Sometimes I love it and will happily cook (though usually prefer to batch cook so have home made ready meals where I can) but then I have other times where I really can't be bothered to make more than toast.

I had toast last night, followed by left over angel delight

I wasn't really hungry on account of the chocolate I'd had earlier

I really really need to get back to eating properly!

LavenderBees

Ah, Ellie...your post made me laugh out loud.

Personally, I've never subscribed to the "I'm on my own so not worth cooking for" school of thought. But I also can eat the same thing day after day...luckily, because when I make a Sunday lunch especially chicken, it lasts me for 5 or 6 days (as well as soup stock and sarnies for work lunches.

Definitely the worst part of living alone is being lonely...no one to care if you get home safely, what your day has been like, talking through problems/solutions, sharing the darn chores and bills.

The plus side is no one to irritate you. You can watch what you like on TV, decorate how you like, buy what you like (if you can afford it), do what you like.

I've lived alone about twice as long as I lived with my ex. The living together was sandwiched between two long periods of living alone. Both have pros and cons

My ideal would be a man in the cupboard...so, mostly living alone with the benefits of that, but with a bloke on tap, as it were :rotfl:

LB xx