OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

mum2one

had to share this, DD was shattered, so went upstairs about 7pm, on her phone as well, popped head in 8.30pm, she was out for the count, - then 10pm, she comes downstairs fully dressed in her school clothes and asked whats for breakfast I'm starving......

xx

LavenderBees

wannalot wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who replied to my post last night, although I was surprised at the assumption that I am a woman - I am a bloke.

Today has been a bit of a trial at work - I really feel like packing it in at the moment. My colleagues are exceptionally nice,and the company management were lovely when mum passed away, but I can feel the pressure and stress rising again, and it is really getting to me.

I have always said that my colleagues were what kept me at my job, but I don't think that is enough now. I'm low-paid and highly stressed, and mum's death has made me think that life really is too short. I need to think about what i want to do with my life!

I hope you are all doing well today!

Nope - I replied to you like a human being. I don't honestly care what gender you are.

I, too, would recommend you take a little while before making life changing decisions. There is a lot to be said for the structure of the familiar at a tough time. However, good luck with changing your life where you want to. I'm sure it's something lots of us want to do, but it takes bravery and energy. Neither of which I personally have at the moment...but one day...maybe

Mum2One - was you DD not still asleep? How strange! Bet you got a shock.

Beautiful day here....Have a good'un, All

LB xx

CRANKY40

wannalot wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who replied to my post last night, although I was surprised at the assumption that I am a woman - I am a bloke.

I can only see people welcoming you to the thread and offering condolences and hugs. Can't find anyone assuming that you are a woman?

Do you have an alternative plan if you give up your job?

Mum2one that's so funny, I wish I'd seen her face when you told her it was bed time!

It's pouring with rain here. In other news, ds checked our seeds as soon as he got out of bed and the tomatoes and one courgette plant have made an appearance overnight. It's like Christmas every morning looking to see what has turned up overnight :rotfl:

ellie99

mum2one wrote: »

had to share this, DD was shattered, so went upstairs about 7pm, on her phone as well, popped head in 8.30pm, she was out for the count, - then 10pm, she comes downstairs fully dressed in her school clothes and asked whats for breakfast I'm starving......

That's so funny mum2one...did she get her breakfast before she went back to bed?

wannalot wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who replied to my post last night, although I was surprised at the assumption that I am a woman - I am a bloke.

Well I looked back and I can't see one single post which implies gender...maybe you're making assumptions too

Good luck in deciding what you want to do. From experience I will say that decisions made soon after a bereavement may not turn out to be permanent. I made quite stubborn decisions after my DH died, and after about a year I had totally changed my mind again.

My car is all iced up this morning, I thought it was officially spring? :rotfl:

CRANKY40

ellie99 wrote: »

From experience I will say that decisions made soon after a bereavement may not turn out to be permanent. I made quite stubborn decisions after my DH died, and after about a year I had totally changed my mind again.

Ha ha, me too. When the late MrC died I didn't even want too paint over the walls that he had painted in our house. Three years later I put the house up for sale and couldn't wait to move.

ellie99

CRANKY40 wrote: »

Ha ha, me too. When the late MrC died I didn't even want too paint over the walls that he had painted in our house. Three years later I put the house up for sale and couldn't wait to move.

I recall my mother suggesting that I move back into town as it would make things easier for me, and me insisting I was staying in our home in the country...a year later I'm backing down and saying I think it would be easier if I lived in town :rotfl:
I guess we just have to come round to things in our own sweet time.
Now I drive by the house which was meant to be our "forever home" and feel almost nothing.

Byatt

Ah, I made incredibly bad decisions when my husband left, I know he didn't die, but the grief I felt was horrendous. I look back now and think, what was I doing!?! But of course all the chemicals and stress hormones rushing through the body don't help. I guess under the circumstances it's amazing we can put one foot in front of the other.

It's blooming winter here! What happened?

Mum2one I remember getting up late at night and getting ready for school...bless her.

ellie99

Good point Byatt, it's not just when someone dies.
When my ex left I made some big decisions, I even chucked in my job for goodness sake!...because..you know...when you reach 50 it's time to do something new!!! Jeez, what was I thinking, you know how hard it is to find something different in your 50s?

(Actually I made some lovely new friends through it, so not complaining, but I do miss the full time wages)

I have some good news...my DM has finished looking at everything and has agreed I can get in a house clearance/antique dealers firm. So have them booked to look for later in the week before she changes her mind

Todays clearing pleasures included throwing out at least 40 unused diaries, the oldest was 1964....the mind boggles to think that she stored that diary for 50 YEARS! Half a century, and it was never even used!

But the best "yeuch" moment was opening a little cardboard box...and finding someone's old false teeth :rotfl:

Starting to get peckish but can't be bothered moving to feed myself.

JustKeepSwimming_2

Byatt wrote: »

Has anyone used a cross trainer? I have...:eek:....

Now why, just why, would I ever want to?

ellie99 wrote: »

JKS, don't try swinging a cat in your bedroom....I'm sure cat-swinging will be frowned upon on this thread, too many cat lovers here :rotfl:
(whereas bunny rugby is totally acceptable :rotfl:)

Really don't think the cat-that-thinks-hes-mine would stand for it anyway - he's such a tough boy cat that I think I'd come off worse

As the only "child" living in this country, I do wonder what the future holds, and how I'll manage if my parents need more help.
(I will not worry about the future, I will not worry about the future...)

This is my mantra too (along with "This shoite too will pass")

What I notice is that as they cope with increasing medical problems, they support each other every day. How lovely to reach your 80s and still have someone who loves and cares for you
It does sometimes make me feel that I've missed out, not having what they have....

I think your feeling is completely natural, & I sometimes struggle with the whole aloneness of being single. Especially when I'm surrounded by the marrieds...

ellie99 wrote: »

Lavender Bees you have a fine way with words, you describe that "alone feeling" so well.
I can't pretend to know how it feels, having children means they keep me grounded. I'm sometimes the opposite, feeling like there's always someone wanting something and when will I get some time just for me...what's that saying about the grass always being greener...:rotfl:

Yes LB has hit the nail squarely on the head. I sometimes feel more alone when I'm out with my kids than when I'm out alone (not that that happens very often :rotfl:). I suppose it's because it seems to be more obvious to me that I'm the only single parent there, & there is no other person to share in the day from an adult point of view. I'm sure when (if?) DD & DS leave home then I'll feel lonely in a different way.

(My last ex told me he really disliked cats..that should have told me all I needed to know, right? :rotfl:)

Oh yes. He wasn't a keeper. Or even a trier outer.

All quite here, although I seem to have picked up another cold as my nose is streaming again & I feel a bit shivery. I've hardly left the cocoon of my house for 2 weeks, so no idea where that's come from.

Not tried duvet wrestling today - rained on & off so I'll leave it for a bit.

Mum2one - I did grin at your story about your DD getting up for school. Can't imagine either of mine doing it as it takes an age to rouse them both.

JustKeepSwimming_2

wannalot wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who replied to my post last night, although I was surprised at the assumption that I am a woman - I am a bloke...

I think I probably did assume you're a woman, but I don't think that could be picked up from my post. But don't worry - men are allowed & you won't be the only one on this thread.

I do agree with taking time out from making any big decisions. I almost made some dreadful decisions when my ex & I split up - nearly sold my house to move to a different town (thankfully the sale fell through). My dreadful judgement lasted quite a long time, well over a year, as I almost changed jobs (would have been a disaster) & I ended up in another doomed relationship with someone I'd never have got involved with had I been in my right mind.

Or maybe my life is just a train wreck :rotfl:

CRANKY40 wrote: »

...ds checked our seeds as soon as he got out of bed and the tomatoes and one courgette plant have made an appearance overnight. It's like Christmas every morning looking to see what has turned up overnight :rotfl:

Aw Cranky, that's so sweet. Its sad when they lose their enthusiasm for things. DD is going through a major teenage grump & is so scathing & sarcastic about everything, like only a teen can be. Of course when I laugh at what she says, because its genuinely funny not because I'm laughing at her, she goes off in a huff. Looking forward to when the hormones settle down.

ellie99 wrote: »

...I have some good news...my DM has finished looking at everything and has agreed I can get in a house clearance/antique dealers firm. So have them booked to look for later in the week before she changes her mind

Todays clearing pleasures included throwing out at least 40 unused diaries, the oldest was 1964....the mind boggles to think that she stored that diary for 50 YEARS! Half a century, and it was never even used!...

That's great news Ellie :j & good plan for booking the house clearance now. I'm amazed by the diary collection, but somewhat heartened that perhaps I'm not such a hoarder after all

Tomorrow I have to take DD to the dentist, so I'm going to have to, gulp, get dressed & leave the house! I have to admit that I'm not looking forward to going out as much as I thought I would be. It's been great to not have to interact with the real world.

Hope all have had a good day.