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LavenderBees

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

What do the cats think about your cough?

I'm sure it's just coincidence they are sleeping in the spare room at the moment :rotfl:

Well, that's my house with marginally less muck in it...good thing it's my own muck :eek:, now to go and annoy the girls by scrubbing their henhouse. What's the odds that just as I've stripped it, and sprayed it, one of them urgently needs to lay an egg? :cool:

LB xx

BookWorm

Afternoon all

I'm feeling really restless today and can't settle at anything Can't put my finger on to why either....

Byatt

I hate those restless/antsy feelings, sometimes just getting out can help...or cake

Mothernerd, I didn't spot your "bunny rugby" comment, at first...made me Lol.

Jks, I am going to have a bath later in a very large bath here, my bath at home is tiny...so yes white water rafting may well happen! I'm a bit like a baby hippo when I try to get out of the bath...:o

greenbee

JKS - google 'burrito duvet' or similar. It was mentioned on the Kon Marie thread and makes even a kingsize duvet less of a wrestling match...

wannalot

Hello all

I wonder if it's ok to join you on this thread?

I'm single, and now living alone for the first time, after the death of my mother a few months ago. I had looked after her for many years, and I'm now trying to put together a diffferent life for myself.

I miss mum terribly and it is very difficult at times, but I'm trying to look to the future. While mum was still with me, I would occasionally wonder if I would be lonely after she had gone (she was in seriously bad health for a long time).

Actually, I am not exactly lonely now, as I have always been a bit of an introvert, and I like my own space. I have a group of really great friends, and I am fairly happy in my personal life. However, since mum died, i have felt really strange. I don't feel lonely, but i do feel very ALONE. For the first time in my life I have no family around me (my one sibling lives in a different country!), and i am really alone. I feel pretty vulnerable at the moment: what happens if I get sick, or if I am unemployed?

I am trying to become more resilient, but life seems hard. I know that is partly because I am grieving, but i also need to get confidence that i can manage life, and that I will one day again be more comfortable and confident in the world.

I have been reading this thread quite a bit over the past few weeks, and It has been a bit of a comfort to know that you all manage so well in a world which seems tailored toward couples, so I have decided to try posting here a bit too!

ellie99

Bookworm, hope you're feeling more relaxed now.

Tonight I'm...how can I say this in a polite and ladylike way...totally knackered

Have spent hours and hours in the garden, although DS1 did the majority of the work and I did some not-bending bits. He agreed to trim back the ivy and climbing roses on the garage because they were growing like crazy and catching on the washing line. He's a demolition demon, he was up on the garage roof pulling it all off...my "trim" and keeping the nice greenery turned into a "hack everything back to a foot high" :eek: It remains to be seen which plants survive the treatment. I grew the roses myself from cuttings from a plant in my grandmothers garden which was well over 50 years old.

We didn't have time to clear up, so now my little garden is half covered in 2 huge piles of ivy...definitely still in that "worse before it gets better " phase!

Opened my curtains this morning to see an extra car outside blocking mine in. DS2s friend had broken down so abandoned it at my house, so he and DS2 came to repair it. Tried to get them to help in the garden, but no go.

Welcome Wannalot, do keep posting
I'm sure you'll cope just fine, I can only speak for myself, but I think we just deal with things as they come up...a problem appears and we work out what to do about it and just get on with it. I'm full of admiration for posters like Mum2one, Mothernerd and Justkeepswimming who are managing health problems.
I'm trying to train myself not to worry about imaginary problems which might never materialize

Byatt, I knew a lass who was stopped late at night by the police, and was affronted that she was wearings PJs...I think the policemen tactfully didn't comment

mothernerd

Welcome wannalot. Ellie I have spent two hours tackling ivy today but I think mine was probably more overgrown. Finally got to the point where I could saw off a 2 foot length of 6" 'branch' in the middle of the tangle I have been hacking away at for weeks - must have sent 6 or 7 full wheelie bin loads by now. 10 minutes up the ladder usually translates to half an hour to an hour sat at the garden table chopping it small (to get as much as possible in the bin).

The 2' 'branch' cut down into 4 chunky pieces which I used to weigh down the stuff I put in the green bin when it came back from emptying last week and all the other branchy bits went in on top. If I have any energy during the week I will collect all the bits in the back and put them in sacks ready for when the bin is emptied again. My ivy (DS2 let it overgrow when he was renting this house off me) was 10' long plus 6' along the side wall, 12' high, overhanging 6' into my yard and 2' into the backs and over onto the neighbour's yard. Still a bit to do but then it should grow back as neat bi-colour leaves rather than misshapen 6" blobs - hopefully flat against the wall. I don't need it to hide the multi-storey car park any more as the Council has flattened it again.

Other than that, I have had a lazy day.

LavenderBees

wannalot wrote: »

I don't feel lonely, but i do feel very ALONE. For the first time in my life I have no family around me (my one sibling lives in a different country!), and i am really alone. I feel pretty vulnerable at the moment: what happens if I get sick, or if I am unemployed?

I am trying to become more resilient, but life seems hard. I know that is partly because I am grieving, but i also need to get confidence that i can manage life, and that I will one day again be more comfortable and confident in the world.

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Hi and welcome!

I can totally relate to the feeling of being alone, having lost my parents relatively recently, and it has surprised me how that has whipped away a certain level of security that I didn't even realise I had. I realise now I don't have it, though! :cool:

But if you have supportive friends around you, then you will be fine.

You should have confidence that you can manage - sounds like you have managed pretty well when your Mum was ill. I'm sorry for your loss. Big Hug!

You will be fine. I'm sure we all have wobbles of confidence (mine are huge at the moment ), but take baby steps - break each problem down into manageable steps.

Well, I'm also bloomin knackered...have done far too much this weekend but I'm back on top of things...and had a lovely afternoon with the girls free ranging and helping on another lottie (that's the girls helping on another lottie not me ). They got paid in cabbage and sprout tops, so well done the girls! Very MSE :money:

OK, I'm off to bed...I've made it to 9pm....:rotfl:

Night night, All

LB xx

ellie99

mothernerd wrote: »

Other than that, I have had a lazy day.

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Ivy is tough stuff, isn't it? I've no doubts that we haven't killed ours off. I've promised not to let it reach the roof again. It had forced it's way under the garage roof, and also pulled the gutter off. Now the wall is bare I can see that the wood is rotten, looks like another job is in the offing.
I didn't put any in the wheelie bin, I used that for the roses...like you I cut them up small to get more in. I have some more to do tomorrow.
They were laughing at me planning to do the same with the ivy, they said it would take me until about September :rotfl:
I'm hoping DS1 can borrow a trailer from work and clear it in 2 or 3 trips.
Still have the rest of the garden to tidy, hoping this year to dig the nettles out, last year there were nettles taller than me :eek:

i'd like to have a "superpower" like Samantha in Bewitched...I'd have a lovely garden if it just took a wiggle of the nose

mothernerd

Having nettles is supposed to be a good sign, as it means the soil is fertile. They can also be chopped up in a bucket and the resulting liquid can be used to feed the other plants and butterflies like them.