OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

greenbee

I wasn't much of a runner - started couch to 5k last May and now run up to about 10k (I suspect if I didn't always have time constraints I might be able to go further, if not faster...). The hardest thing is getting out there, then keeping going after the first couple of minutes. After that, bizarrely, it's stopping that's the problem. Probably to do with adrenaline - and maybe a reluctance to get back to work!

mum2one

Hope everyone ok, sending big hugs...

re the fostering.... thats an amazing thing to do, a lot of good points have been covered, the car is an absolute must.

Years ago, (30 yrs....) our ex neighbour fostered for a couple of yrs( thou in all honesty it was more money side of things ), she did 4 sets of fostering, from a teen boy, a 16 yr girl, (coming out of the system), then a brother and sister.

She found it rewarding but as she it was hard dealing when the went

From the other side of the coin I couple I knew via an old job, they had 3 kids taken into care (back now), they were kept in same school, saw the parents under contact, and kept clubs, it was good the were able to stay local.

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Things seemed to have settled down here, some gd news from the consultant my appointment are now fortnightly, and my dressing changes from ever other day to twice weekly and no packing... so its a big step in right direction.

easter holidays here.... DD at opticians this morning, got to back next week to get her frames as there changing the range, then family meal (early bday treat) and we had a £10 voucher..

DD gets her last bit of her Xmas prezzie - a meercat experience.... cant wait shes taking dad with her, do the both of them gd... he finishes his chemo tomorrow.

xx

JustKeepSwimming_2

Byatt wrote: »

I never lived alone until 2008/09. Like you Ellie, parental home, married then later a child. I have always needed alone time to recharge...I get very tired being in company no matter how much I enjoy the company.

The worst part of living alone? For me it's the day to day intimacy of talking about your day or planning dinner...watching tv together.


The plusses are that I can eat when I want, read in bed till the early hours, not get dressed for days...:rotfl:

I don't always cook proper meals, and until the last year or so, would often live off snack foods. I used to enjoy cooking but when divorced I lost all interest in food, so as long as it filled me up I didn't care what it was.

I enjoy cooking much more but I still have made up meals no one else would eat, based on appearance :eek:

Those kind of meals are standard in our house Byatt - I'm not great on presenting beautifully cooked foods :rotfl: Most things are caramelized, but you can hide a lot with gravy or a spicy sauce. If it's really bad I make it into a pie with pastry just over the top.

Puddings (if we have them which isn't that often) can often be things in custard. Bet you all can't wait to come to mine for tea

I don't really enjoy cooking on any level & if I'm on my own I tend to survive on toast or porridge, or on a good day I'll throw stuff into the slow cooker & make a bizarre curry that DD & DS wouldn't eat.

Totally agree with your comments about alone-ness. It took me some time to realise that it was fine to need time alone to recharge (although jolly difficult when you have kids). I assumed it meant that there was something wrong with me that I didn't want to be with perfectly nice people all of the time; like I must be missing some social gene.

BookWorm wrote: »

I've woken feeling very low today...all I want to do is go back to bed and hide away from the world...

I had set myself a goal to lose a stone in weight by Easter and as of today I've reached that target (so beaten it by a week) and even that isn't enough to make me feel less

Do you ever get days when all you want is a hug?

Bit late BW but have a dodgy :grouphug: & a :coffee: Well done on the weight loss, a stone is a lot so you have much more willpower than me.

springdreams wrote: »

I envy the single parents who get some me time when their offspring are off visiting the ex. This never happened with my DS as my ex skipped the country shortly after we parted so that he did not have to do the weekend and holiday parent thing, or pay child support so it has been just DS and I for nine years now.

Fortunately he is starting to socialise now, and spends many Saturday afternoons playing football at a local 5 a side with his friends, so I won't see him until about 6ish tonight.

I know I'm incredibly lucky that ex does some parenting & has a well paid job so that his maintenance is a fair amount - I know I'd just have to cope if he didn't, but I'm relieved I don't have to. I'm in awe of full time single parents. I suppose one of the only pluses are that you don't have to listen to your ex telling you want a failure as a mother/person you are at regular intervals :rotfl:

I used to take a Westie for walks for my neighbour - he used to have baths most days as he loved them, but was always foraging when out, so he was know as the Wesh Highland Off White by most people.

Greenbee - I'm in awe of your running. It's not for me

Hope all are enjoying the w/e. I'm feeling a bit rubbish, but don't know why :think:. The weather is horrid, so I won't venture out (buses are almost non-existent on Sundays here). I did go for breakfast in a cafe yesterday, but felt a bit lost in all the noise - it's always really busy so people are in & out all morning looking for seats as the food is fab. I was the only singlie in there, & I found it a bit overwhelming, which I've never felt before, & I was glad to leave & come back home. I could go to the local pub for Sunday lunch, but I just don't want to go alone today. Not sure what's up with me

I'll make another brew & watch some DVDs now I have control of the remote.

JustKeepSwimming_2

LavenderBees wrote: »

...Well, I am looking into fostering. A complete change of life for me...

Well, I didn't see that one coming :rotfl:

Wow, that would be a complete change of life, & probably forever - I know a couple in the late 60's who fostered a family of 4 siblings (as well as having their own 3 but they have a big house & did it when the rules probably weren't so strict). Fast forward 20+ years & the youngest still lives with them even though he's now 26. One of the others moves back every now & then for a few months, & she's not great with money so the foster parents are still helping her out long after any government support has ended. They can afford to & its worked out well for all of them - it really is just like one big family.

There are quite often open days for potential foster parents in my nearest big city - are there any near you to check out?

I agree with the comments about needing a 4 door car - so much easier for all the stuff you'll be ferrying around :rotfl:

I imagine its wonderful when it all works out, but jolly hard work with some dark moments, but then you know all of that.

Sorry to hear job related problems are still on the horizon - that's rubbish. Take it easy.

Mum2one - great news about your dressing & your Dad's chemo. Hope the meercat day is fun. I'm jealous as I'd love to do something like that.

Right, more tea & toast for me - have a good day all.

BookWorm

JKS - Thanks - hugs of all kind are always welcome. Although not back to normal, I do feel less blue so perhaps the clouds are lifting

Sorry to hear you feel out of sorts. Perhaps you are still recovering from your recent poorlyness?

Shame you are not closer or I could have been persuaded for Sunday lunch out. I love eating out whenever the chance arises

Mum2one - what does a meercat experience involve? Sounds interesting. I'm guessing it's not meeting the ones from a certain tv advert :rotfl:

3forholidays

BW Well done on the weight loss. I always have to keep a close eye on my weight, as having mobility issues, carrying extra weight is not good for me. I do like custard so it might be a bad idea to visit JKS's house!

ellie99

JKS, I too like "things in custard"...any kind of sponge, or blackcurrant jam swirled through it mmm. Those of you who left home in the 70s, do you remember arctic roll in custard? trendy :rotfl:
Can you still get arctic roll nowadays?

And I can't think of a meal which isn't improved by sticking pastry on top
I think we'll be forming an orderly queue for lunch at yours.

What a shame you don't have a convenient single friend who likes Sunday lunch out. It can be hard arranging company at the weekends.

Bigjenny

Artic Roll is called Ice Cream Roll these days
http://groceries.asda.com/asda-webstore/landing/home.shtml?cmpid=ahc-_-ghs-sna3-_-asdacom-dsk-_-hp#/product/910001585091

LavenderBees

Yum! Arctic roll and Angel Delight/Instant Whip were big treats when I was a child....rare treats, but fabulous :j I bet they don't taste as good now with an adult's palate :cool:

Nothing that couldn't be resolved by a hug and a bowl of butterscotch Angel Delight :rotfl:

I've been reading a book about how to mentally and emotionally survive unemployment ....I worry too much about money, it seems...hmmm...nope, I worry about the lack of money :eek:

I'll come out for Sunday Lunch - meetup somewhere like York? :rotfl:

I'm having a very late breakfast, still in my PJs, as have been reading/dozing my morning away, but I can feel it isn't doing my mood any good, so will get dressed, and go for a wee walk, then get some chores done. Sitting around agrees with me less and less as I get older, it seems. Shame...I used to love it!

LB xx

ellie99

Thanks Bigjenny.

Not helpful at all re fostering, but have you seen the advert for some sort of takeaway which has a little boy being fostered? It brings a tear to my eye every time I see it.
He arrives at the couples home, and then you see clips of him growing up (including mum being called into the school :rotfl:). At the end he comes for lunch with his family and there's a new little boy come to stay. That little lad is just lovely.

The other lovely wee boy on the ads just now is the one who says "as clean as gold pants!" He's gorgeous

LB butterscotch angel delight still tastes as good, it pains me to have to share it I love the taste so much :rotfl:

Moving the clocks has thrown my stomach off kilter, the clock says lunchtime but stomach doesn't think so :rotfl: