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ellie99

JKS I don't have any helpful thoughts, but just wanted to say that we understand what you're saying, I'm sure we all have days like you're having today. Hopefully the down feeling won't last for too long.
I'm having a skulking-at-home day...I meant to go into town, but it's so windy and cold I just can't be bothered. I know if I don't get up and do something I will waste another day. I'd have loved to meet you for lunch

From what you say you're missing out on a lot by relying on public transport (or the lack of it!). I don't know if you have a driving licence, but is there any chance you could learn to drive and/or get a car? Or does the cost make that a non-starter?
I've a friend who has just passed her test in her fifties, I applaud her for having the courage.

I never wanted to drive but I made myself in my twenties, I know my life would be very different if I hadn't, living in a rural area. I lived 3 miles from the nearest bus stop, at least it kept me fit pushing a pushchair and child to the bus stop. When second child arrived I decided it was time to get a car, it was hard work pushing two

I have no idea how I would have cleared aunts flat without a car!
Life does seem really hard for people who have to rely on public transport.

I wish I could think of something lovely for you to treat yourself today but my mind is blank. Make sure you have something nice to eat...a nice takeaway maybe?

I feel like chucking stuff out today, so will have a tidy up.
I wish I could get some more days work, I'm much more active and happy the days I'm working.

JustKeepSwimming_2

ellie99 wrote: »

JKS I don't have any helpful thoughts, but just wanted to say that we understand what you're saying, I'm sure we all have days like you're having today. Hopefully the down feeling won't last for too long.
I'm having a skulking-at-home day...I meant to go into town, but it's so windy and cold I just can't be bothered. I know if I don't get up and do something I will waste another day. I'd have loved to meet you for lunch

Thanks Ellie - it's still vile here, so I don't think I'll go out today either. It seems a lot colder here today too, so I'm staying in PJs as they're warmer & I can't justify having the heating on all day.

Medically disqualified from driving some years ago, so that's a non-starter. That's also why I don't cycle, although I wouldn't want to anyway as the roads are too busy for my liking & I'd be too scared.

Life does seem really hard for people who have to rely on public transport.

You are not wrong - especially in places that aren't big cities. I'm going to try & move house when DD & DS have left home, but I'll probably have to wait until I've retired as I can't afford to live in any of the cities that are within commuting distance to my current job. I don't want to leave my job as I love it most of the time, & I work with mostly nice people. I'm also not hopeful of finding a new job at my age & with my health problems. So I'm a bit stuck (for the next 21+ years until I retire :rotfl:)

I wish I could think of something lovely for you to treat yourself today but my mind is blank. Make sure you have something nice to eat...a nice takeaway maybe?

I have a freezer full of nice things, so I won't go hungry:D. I'm not sure what I want to eat though. I'm wondering if this bug is still lingering as things I'd normally fancy are just not enticing me today. I had a small glass of red last night (first in almost a month) but I only had a few sips as it didn't taste right. Most peculiar for me :rotfl: Don't fancy chocolate either. Very odd.

Thanks for your kind thoughts - it really does help to know there are others out there. I doubt I'll speak to anyone that isn't a bus driver/shop assistant etc. all week until DD & DS come back home. And then I'll just be speaking to them, which is lovely but not the same as being with a friend, until I go back to work.

How pathetic do I sound? Sorry all.

Before anyone suggests talking to a real life friend & telling them how I feel - well, I tried it once & I rarely hear from her now :rotfl: so I'm not going to make the same mistake again. I got the impression that I was opening a whole Pandora's box of things that others don't want to think about; a there but for the grace go I kind of thing, in that people my age (46) just shouldn't be lonely, but if they are then there must be something seriously wrong with them & its their own fault they're lonely, so run, now, in the opposite direction.

Probably not explained that very well (but I know what I mean ). Off to make another brew - that usually helps. Then I may watch some rubbish TV.

Hope all are having a good day, & my moaning hasn't bought you down too much.

ellie99

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Don't fancy chocolate either. Very odd.

Oh dear, you're obviously not fully recovered if you can't manage chocolate

I've depressed myself by putting my nicest clothes back in my bedroom after moving the furniture...none of them fit!!! All bought when I had a partner and I went out at weekends and wanted to look nice. Just one size too small and I don't want to part with them...but I'll be sick of looking at them by the time I lose the weight (which is definitely not happening at the moment )

Fergawdssake...it's snowing now, I thought it was meant to be spring!

Byatt

Its blowing a hoolie here too...what's that saying about March?

Jks, you don't sound pathetic...you should hear me when I'm in full mode! I think on here we have a glimpse of our mood/world which can seem as if we are always in that mood/world, but being able to say it, just helps, I find, to somehow help me carry on.

And My Boy Cat often wanders off when I'm talking...although he does give good

head bops. (Tried to get those words on one line...:o ) Oh and he slept on my back last night, first time in ages.

I'm going to get myself a nice Easter Egg, one of those good ones, but cheap...:EasterBun

I need to cull my wardrobe again. It's packed but I only wear a few regular items so really need the space. I usually try things on Ellie just before I go out and then I become one sad, sweaty mess as I find nothing fits! :eek::rotfl:

mum2one

The march saying - in like a lion out like a lamb - think something went wrong sh where!

Another ur older not sure whether another yr wiser- brought dd to blackpool for a short break, we've had rain most of yesterday thou lovely when we set off, today it's been blowing a gust - on the seafront there was sand everywhere.... Off to theatre to night - then nice nightcap back at b&b.

Hope everyone ok xxxxx

LavenderBees

Hey, JKS, it's not moaning to be telling us you're lonely, down, missing adult company, missing the kids, finding it hard to get motivated etc. That's precisely why I started the thread..so we could support each other. At least you know there's someone out there listening (or reading iykwim).

Thanks for the link BigJenny. I might join that thread but at the moment my mind is buzzing far too much. I have spoken with a few agencies, and have a social worker coming to see me next week. On the face of it, there are SO MANY reasons why I am not suitable, and the more I research it, the less suitable I know I am, vulnerable little people need help, not some inexperienced amateur jumping in with 2 left feet....so....don't be surprised if next week, I am saying I have stopped the process. I must be mad to have started it really, but at least I will know for sure and will have tried.

Horizontal snow and hail here at times today - quite dramatic on the 7th floor! Warmth would be lovely...if anyone with any authority on the weather is listening :rotfl:

LB xx

ellie99

Happy Birthday mum2one, hope you have a lovely evening out.

Been watching that programme about the 70s food , they had artic roll

It was painful watching her struggling with the chip pan, lifting the chips out one at a time with a fork! Chips, eggs and beans was an easy throw-it-together meal, I don't think anyone back then would think it was difficult to cook! With white bread and butter, mmm I'm getting peckish thinking about it :rotfl:

Byatt

Chips, eggs and beans was a staple! You should have seen her trying to use a manual tin opener when they were in the 50s. Admittedly her husband does the cooking normally...but it made me :rotfl:

The kids didnt eat for days, the week they were in the 50's! I'm a child of the 50's so it cracked me up.

Just watched a film on iPlayer...a time travelling thing, a bit violent, well whatisname was in it, Die Hard chappie, so no surprise, but interesting concept. I always overload my brain when it's to do with time travel and what would or could happen!

RosiePuddingPaws

Sorry to hear you are feeling so low JKS. I blame the bugs still lingering (you don't want chocolate?!).

When I get low I put on some music and sing (I use the term loosely!) along, although I do this when I'm not low too. Unfortunately we have discord at work at the moment so I've been doing it a lot.

I find it hard to understand colleagues who decide not to talk to someone, unless it is to make some snide comment, just because the boss decided to change procedures and the changes are not approved of. To me (the one given work that someone else used to do), the boss pays the wages so I'll do as he asks. The funny thing is, my colleague will be looking for a lift to work soon and expect me to provide it - I might not be so obliging as in the past!! Still, long weekend coming up so that will be a nice break - even with a list of jobs to do that is getting pretty long. I guess it is too much to hope for a dry warm weekend?

LB - I hope you get the answers you need to make the right decision. It is a very worthwhile endeavour and, okay, they may have issues but surely you get given training to help and if you are a caring person to start with that must give you a good base to work from?

I haven't been watching the cooking programme but chips/beans sound good (forget the egg, they don't like me, but perhaps add a rasher or two of bacon). Unfortunately oven chips are never quite as good as those made in oil. Still, that might be tonight's tea sorted ...

I'm looking forward to the next week or so. I spent my birthday money on Amazon over the last two nights so lots of new cds coming my way. I've added the digital versions to my Ipod already but it is good to have the cd for the car. I love it when I find a new artist or band, although it can get expensive if you want their back catalogue. As much as anything, I just love getting parcels (sad muppet that I am!).

Oh, well, best get to work and see how much longer I'll be talked around ...

ellie99

Byatt wrote: »

Chips, eggs and beans was a staple! You should have seen her trying to use a manual tin opener when they were in the 50s. Admittedly her husband does the cooking normally...but it made me :rotfl:

The kids didnt eat for days, the week they were in the 50's! I'm a child of the 50's so it cracked me up.

Just watched a film on iPlayer...a time travelling thing, a bit violent, well whatisname was in it, Die Hard chappie, so no surprise, but interesting concept. I always overload my brain when it's to do with time travel and what would or could happen!

I only caught a glimpse of the tin opener last night, but it looked like the one I still use, I didn't realise I was so old fashioned :rotfl:

I love books and films with time travelling in them, just don't overthink them!

I put some jeans on today that I haven't worn for months...expected them to be loose...not loose at all :mad: They shrink in the wash, right? :rotfl: