OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

ellie99

Mum2one that sounds really painful, I hope you recover soon.

Well I went to that well-known supermarket this morning, and the daffodil stand was empty Serves me right for waiting for today I suppose.

I will admit to receiving one valentines card...but not being thrilled about it. Not signed, but I know it's from a male friend. Many years ago we were sort-of, not-very-serious, never-quite-publicly-announced boyfriend/girlfriend. Both had several relationships since then. So why does he send me a card? He's even sent one in the past when he's been seeing someone else, which I think is wrong.

I think valentines cards fall into 2 camps...the ones where you're already together, so it's just an affirmation of being together, and the "mystery admirer" ones, where someone is letting you know they like you. We're in neither of those camps, so what's he playing at? I wonder if he's so sure I won't be getting a card that he's thinking he'll cheer me up with one??? This year I don't even understand what he's written in it, he writes all wobbly so I won't guess it's from him and I can't read part of it!

Ugh, sorry for ranting. I cleared out a lot of paperwork and receipts last night, and I'm feeling grumpy. It was throwing up reminders of my most recent ex and places we'd been together. I prefer not to remember him at all, his photos were burnt long ago

He's the reason I'm so cynical about single men nowadays.

moneyistooshorttomention

I wouldn't do being cynical about men per se.

But then I've always taken the view that maybe my Perfect Match is indeed out there...but born into a different country and/or some time different to when I was (ie will be a good bit older or younger than me) and that that meant there was a very good chance I wouldn't meet Him personally.

Just as well....as I never did....

But I still tend to take it as I just got unlucky and He was born in such different circumstances/agegroup to me that it wasn't going to happen or (me being me and thinking the way I do personally) then maybe He didn't get born this time round but has been "sitting there on a Virtual Cloud and keeping a protective eye on me".

Either way...I'm not going to be that cynical personally...even though I gave up hope on that front some years back.

Byatt

Cheap roses in Ts but not cheap enough for me, half price so £2.50 £7.50 respectively. So I got a reduced dessert instead...well I'm off to the gym tomorrow...:D

Ellie, as my DD got older I would say you don't mind having your Easter eggs after Easter do you...;) The shops seemed to have wised up on over stocking now, sadly...

Mum2one, huge sympathy over the abscess, my DD had one a couple of years ago so appreciate how painful it is. Take it easy.

Ellie, I've cleared my paperwork but know how it can stir things up. I'm not so cynical now however, I've noticed that I'm taking a man's side in various situations off and on now, totally unheard of once upon a time. :cool::cool: I don't believe in perfect matches...I was brought up on the, you'll know the "One" when you meet him...sucks boo to that. There's so many people in the world, why would just one be your Waterloo...as my mother used to say...I just wish I'd had the sense when I was a young 'un...the potential men who wanted me and would have been potentially a "good catch".:eek::D:p as I wasn't smitten, I just wouldn't give them a chance.


My special power, to be invisible...

Horace

Hello all, if I had a special power it would be invisibility and teleportation (I was addicted to watching The Tomorrow People when I was a teenager). The thought of just appearing somewhere else is wonderful.

I am in the doghouse - a friend in America (the makeup artist) is going on a date tomorrow for a belated Valentine so I said that flowers would be too expensive on Saturday and not to send any to his boyfriend and buy them tomorrow instead - well the boyfriend has had a hissy fit that he did not get any flowers. :rotfl: I didn't get any flowers either but you don't see me throwing a hissy fit.:D

Pottered about a bit at home, did not go shopping for bread or carrots because I found some bread in the freezer and I can go without carrots. Mum rang me to wish me well for tomorrow and asked if I needed anything even offering to make me a cottage pie - I declined, I don't need anything as my freezers and pantry are full. Need to do more housework but cannot be bothered. Managed to produce two black bags of waste which have now been put outside, I even got rid of a bag which has holes galore in the lining but despite trying to sew them the material just gives way so it has gone in the bin.

Sorry to hear about the abscess Mum2One. I had one once in a tooth and remember my face swelling up - it really was quite vile.

moneyistooshorttomention

Invisibility would also be a nice one to have, but I'd just settle for:

- total control of my body (I've never been able to understand why human bodies have so many "design faults" as many peoples do)

- teleportation

- ability to "manufacture money"

in that order.

Not asking for much am I?:rotfl::rotfl:

I am developing a suspicion that sometimes the "love at first sight/just seen him or her and know they will be spouse" thinking may be for very different reasons to them being The One (though I do believe still in that concept).

My mother knew she was going to marry my father when she clapped eyes on him. He took a little longer to realise:rotfl:. Do I or don't I think that means they are The One respectively for each other and I'm not sure about that. What I think most likely is they both planned before they were born to meet up and marry at some point and my mother recognised my father when she saw him (yep...I believe personally that people plan the major aspects of their life before they are born). I don't expect everyone (or even that many people:rotfl:) to think the same way as me on that one...:rotfl:

In a very different context, I had a "Recognising It" thing when I saw the house I bought and moved to recently. I know that doesn't mean its The One - because it isn't. I'm not "in love" with this house and doubt I ever will be. But I "Recognised" it when I saw the details. I Recognised it when I viewed it and I Recognised the neighbour (ie Madam Neighbour, aka Major Pain In the !!!) when I spotted her. I've been living with a very distinct sense of deja vu about things ever since I clapped eyes on the place. I knew what the basic gist of the issues I would have with Madam Neighbour would be when I first saw the house details and before I had clapped eyes on little Pain In Butt.

I've had some very odd encounters with this move. Even when I came viewing it and saw the vendor personally I was having a conversation with them at one point and I just knew what they would say next ....and they did....

What I don't know is exactly in what way I am going to be playing a noticeable role in this small community by the time I pop my clogs in years to come. I know I am going to be doing so in one way or another and I think I might see faint inklings of how that comes to pass. Unless I'm much mistaken, I think a heavy hint has been dropped in my direction that I might like to stand for local Council and there's a good chance I'd get in if I do....I'm thinking on about that. It may not have been the hint I think it was. The jury is still out as to whether I will or no if so...it got dropped into the "I'll ponder on that one for a while" pile in my mind.

Horace

Hello Peeps.

I found my way to the community work placement place today without a problem.

I was a bit shell shocked when I got there because the place was horrendous, basically it seemed to be one large room full of people and eventually some were called out for their training and others were just left sitting in their coats. The CEO decided he would shout and curse at the people - the language he used was vile. Myself and a new chap were taken by another worker to have a look around the place and then taken back to the room we first went to and we were dumped in there. We were expecting to have one to one interviews and it didn't really happen. It was raining to everyone was sent home except I refused to go until I had had my one to one.

When I saw the CEO again I told him that I did not expect to be shouted at or sworn at because I would not tolerate it. I told him that he was unprofessional too. I think he was a bit taken aback because I had actually stood up to him. I handed him my CV and then I was asked to go to his office - he took one look at it and we had a chat and the next thing is he offered me a senior administrator position (voluntary at first) and then permanent. I will use it for what I can get out of it because I have no intention of staying there. I am glad that I am staying in the office because I would hate to be out on their projects: litter picking, delivering leaflets or gardening because no PPE is provided and you have to wear your own clothes. Heck they don't even give you a cup of tea or coffee, if you want a drink then you have to go and buy it. Thank goodness I had taken a bottle of water.

moneyistooshorttomention

:rotfl:at the thought of the likely expression on that guys face when you answered back. If he'd been reading your comments on this thread he would probably have thought twice and realised that one was coming:rotfl:

Shouting and cursing at people:eek:. If nothing else - how daft of him is that?! Even though all sorts of shenanigans happen these days to the unemployed by the sound of it - I cant see there would be any potential comeback for complaining about his attitude. I'm guessing what I would have done in those circumstances would be to send in an official complaint letter afterwards detailing examples of his behaviour and querying the suitability of this place as a "work placement". Someone like that would be likely to get my Full Monty "Sharp Elbows and I know whats what and expect to get it" behaviour thrown straight back at them personally. He would be feeling rather sorry for himself if he'd tried that one on me...so I sympathise with you.

Sounds like it might have paid dividends to stand up to him? Fingers crossed. Would this senior administrator position be paid? - or have you just been promoted to a higher level voluntary dogsbody?

What is PPE? I presume its some sort of protective clothing? I guess litterpicking and delivering leaflets is one thing, but I would assume there should be protective clothing for gardening (ie if its anything more than delicately standing by a shrub and lopping it with secateurs....and more likely to be of the "getting down and dirty" variety).

Drinks...just did some strategic hinting in one of my voluntary work things I do by choice that its reasonable to expect we should be provided with drinks. Done and dusted and that will now happen. Though I've had to make the point a couple of times that "being genuinely voluntary work...we can walk any time we please..so...."

Having to buy your own drinks indeed! Out of benefit money too!! You're speaking to the woman who expects to have drinks at coffeetimes of the "Make a cafetiere of real coffee or mug of herbal tea/it has few minutes brewing time/additions to it come afterwards and No I Do Not Expect to pay over the odds for it" School of Thought LOL. I am grinning visibly at the thought of someone like that being on the end of my "where is the cafetiere please and we'll need some petty cash to buy a bag of coffee" treatment....

moneyistooshorttomention

Now grinning to self after earlier comment re "and the coffee comes from a packet and is made in a cafetiere", as I've duly been out Exploring again today (now the weather is getting better).

Cue = I had 2 lunches and the next time I go to that particular destination will bear in mind the owner of the sole pub there clearly sees no need to update his menu from 1980s style. Result being I asked for wholemeal bread, and got brown bread instead:(. Have now worked out a sliding scale to assess up-to-dateness of pub lunches:

- ask for wholemeal and get brown and a little "fancy" lettuce trim means they've made it to the 1980s

- ask for wholemeal and get wholemeal = they've made it to the 1990s

- ask for bread and get sourdough = Welcome to the 21st century:):T

Main reason for "Oh no...not 1980s" meant I needed a 2nd lunch, as I was still starving hungry after that one.

Never did say that food is a hobby of mine did I? and I like my food fashionable (and thankfully genuinely healthy food is now the fashion:)).

I could see sparks flying if I were there in some of these work placements (or workplaces) somehow...:rotfl:.

Wonders off to investigate the latest fashion....currently smoothie bowls I gather. Lays bet with self that I'll be ordering my first one of those out somewhere in around 5 years time....wonders if I have ingredients to try one out for myself for lunch tomorrow...

EDIT; Hunger satisfied now...and had some food for thought today. Have been talking to some younger people locally and hearing about some of them having struggles to get jobs that are rightfully theirs....because they don't speak a 2nd language fluently (errr...clue being I'm in fairly rural Wales as to what that language is). Quite shocked on their behalf and how shortsighted to make them leave the area (which is what these particular ones will be doing instead of learning another language and...yep...this even includes some of the local ones). So at least that is something most job-hunters aren't having to face. I shall be investigating further here on this topic...I feel quite upset on their behalf.

mishmogs

Hello, can I come and join in please?

My sense of humour and life outlooks seems similar to others on this thread and I feel I might fit in just fine.

Super powers? I would like to be invisible and be able to move items around and generally cause a bit of an annoyance.

I take in long term exchange students as an income as I have chronic fatigue syndrome and would love it to disappear as quick as it came. I have to cook for me so may as well cook and 'keep house' for them too. They are pretty good girls and are not demanding at all.

The pancake mixture is already made and in the fridge for tonight as I have been reminded on a daily basis since saturday that its xx days to pancake day. Lemons, cinnamon, nutella and sugar are all there in readiness. Mushroom strog. for mains with rice and baguette, I know how to keep my guests happy

The sun has shone all day here and I have a line of bedding out so am hoping its nearly dry. That's probably the only downside of having guests, but there we go. We share the bed changing between us. Am lucky this half term, there is rehersals for the school musical from 11 to 4pm every day so the house is quite in the daytime.

Well done Horace for speaking up for yourself. It has to be done and you have a job role which is indoors so fairly warmish, I hope!

A couple of years ago, I discovered a so called bestie having a laugh at my expense with another of her mates, I overheard it all quite by accident and she was soon relegated to casual acquaintance status. Since this incident, it made me reassess a lot of friendships and a lot have not survived. I must have travelled down the road of rediscovery of what I want in life and I have to say, am reasonably ok. I would like a bit more money, am not talking snottery winnings here! and a couple of people who I could rely on, an improvement to health which I am sure will come and a bit more fun.

I too have been a 'forgotten' child. Mother died when I was a teenager and father about 5 years ago and his final wish was that I was not allowed to attend the funeral. Eh? I went anyway and the vicar was embarrassed there was no mention of me and a couple of twice removed rellies also drew breath at what was said from my brothers reading. Am still confused by it all as the old man told me never to darken his door again when I left home at 16 so am at a loss. I did find out I had another older bro. somewhere.... I rarely think about me old da and the last I heard of my bro. he was in some rehab. for drug abuse as he inherited the family piles so to say. Didn't do him much good then.

I don't think you can miss what you never had, as the old saying goes.

So, here's hoping tomorrow is another sun shiny day and with spring round the corner, and pancakes tonight, life is pretty good all in all.

moneyistooshorttomention

Hi Mishmogs, Just popped in to say "Hello":hello:.

Pull up a chair and someone will probably come along and "put the (virtual) kettle on" soon.:coffee: