OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

mum2one

Quiet here, just seem to be on the Xmas sort out, it cards to be sorted and few extra presents to be wrapped.

just seems as soon as it hits Dec even thou being organised, it still seems ah.... xx

Horace

Hello all

Before I start, please excuse any spelling mistakes that might occur (I have blurred vision due to dilating drops). Had my check up at the eye hospital today - no change, take the drops as I am already doing and go back in 4 months. It was suggested that I find a new GP - my current one is just over the border in Worcestershire and it seems that the eye hospital are also getting a bit of grief about my eye drops because they are particularly expensive. Was disappointed at the eye hospital to learn that the receptionists might not have a job because patients are being directed to computer screens to register their attendance - I hate those computer screens and refuse to use them (others are the same).

Blindly went into the city centre to do a bit of shopping on the way home - I visited Primarni to buy a dressing gown and came out with one plus a pair of pyjamas and a pair of slippers. The dressing gown is a nice shade of aubergine and cost me £10 (I thought it was better than buying the one that I have coveted in Marks which is £39), the pyjamas were £7 and the slippers £4. Primarni was packed with shoppers and although I wanted undies - could not be bothered to look or to queue again.

Nipped into Marks where I discovered that I do not yet have the 20% discount but still bought some bits. Came home on the bus - I hate the city centre this time of year because it is full of people who don't know where they are going, will either stop dead in front of you or scrape the back of your legs with their bloomin' pushchairs. It seems that the dreaded market has expanded to with sheds all the way down from Victoria Square to the Bullring.

ellie99

BookWorm wrote: »

Not really just work Is it the weekend yet????

Only 2 days to go Bookworm

Getting to the weekend doesn't bother me, I suppose that's because I don't work regular Monday to Friday hours. I always do Saturdays, sometimes I do 2 jobs on a Saturday. No work on Sundays, but tbh if I don't make an effort to do something nice, Sundays are often quite boring.

When my DSs were children the weekends could make me sad...I could see the other families in the street (all regular 2 adult, 2 children families) going out doing things, and I would feel the pressure of my DSs only having me. I found that couples don't want to spend time with other people at the weekends, they want family time, which is quite reasonable.
It's like that week between christmas and New Year, I'm sure that's the week which can make even the most contented singlie feel a bit lonely, when all their coupled up friends are busy with family.

A few more annoying jobs cleared, beds moved, and more curtains altered. Was tempted to just burn my list this morning :rotfl:
Was held up getting started when the power went off in the house, took a little while tracing what had caused the problem. And of course the fuse box is in the cupboard under the stairs (you know, that cupboard that I swore I would keep empty so I could get to the fuse box easily...) So spent a while sorting out the stuff in the cupboard, and throwing out old paperwork I found in there.

BookWorm

LavenderBees wrote: »

Nope! So get on with your work!

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LB xx

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BookWorm

Flying visit just to say hello... hope everyone ok x

mum2one

Gave up with the Xmas cards got about 20 wrote, having to do mums as well, where poss if I need to send a card off me / dd been adding a smaller one in the envelope.

Supermarket shopping 2mor then Iceland - back to Xmas cards ��

moneyistooshorttomention

...and neatly back round to where this thread all started, ie a Singlie at Christmas...with Lavender Bees' thoughts on that.

Feels like we've all come a long way since then....

It's that family-centred break coming up again and what plans/thoughts does everyone have on that?

Personally, last Christmas saw me "living" in a pretty uninhabitable house whilst mega amount of work was done on it, but at least the central heating was working by then thankfully (if not a lot else) and dust and dirt reigned supreme.

Thankfully, this year, the inside of my house is done (apart from my new kitchen...installation date of which is dependant on finances and who-knows-when-that-will-be) so it will help a lot. Nowt like living in an utter dump for helping to get you down...

Life-wise...I've started to make friends and get involved in various regular weekly activities of one type or another.

So, Christmas will be a good bit better than last year's one was at any rate.

The thing is that many regular weekly activities scale down drastically or stop altogether during school holiday times in this part of the country. I'm used to weekly activities continuing throughout the year pretty much but here they seem to be a lot more family-centred (rather than individual-centred) and that's a problem for a singlie.

Best-friend-I've made here may or may not be that "available" - as currently on tenterhooks waiting for first grandchild to be born back in England (:rotfl:you'll probably hear her whoops across Britain when that grandchild appears....she is, understandably, so excited about it:rotfl:)..

So....well an early New Year resolution being that I guess Christmas period has to be designated basically as "If lots of other people aren't available - ie this family-centred thing they do here - then Catch-Up Time". So plans in train for catch-ups on smaller household jobs/paperwork/etc and am wondering what more "personal" things a singlie living rurally could think of.

What are other singlies thinking of/planning during that "break" time? - particularly those living in these more family-centred rural type areas? Maybe in future years I might head back citywards at this time of year (eg where there seems to be a much higher proportion of singlies and events and things are more balanced-out across the year), but its not a possibility this year one way and another...

mum2one

Weird as last Christmas I took everything for granted, and the year has been a roller coaster of emotions, illness and worry, it makes me realise how lucky I am, yes I may be single, and I will admit that there are lots of times that I miss having that someone to share things with, but on the other side of the coin, I'm too selfish to have someone 24/7, couldn't take on any baggage, although I come with a lot of baggage.
Theres times where I want to say lifes unfair, I dont have my own house, a good job, but I have health (gd days bad day, but get by), I have a lovely daughter, and I dont have to share her custody, and family, although that has been a roller coaster and were still on the rail ride, its made me realise how much I rely on family and they rely on me, If i had moved as i had planned before I had DD, I was due to start a new life in Devon, I wouldn't been able to drop everything and take mum to the hospital.

Its a family Christmas, just the four of us, then New Year, were off for a few days, only 13 miles from home, but going to split it between the 4 of us and then me and dd.

x

mum2one

Digressing help please............

We have had a rotten 24 hrs, Dd came home from school last night, shes had a massive fall out with her best friend, she met her when she moved primary school in yr 5, theyve been insperable in that time, shes had fall outs with other friends before, kids fall in and out all the time, this seems to be like a divorce.

I dont know what exactly happened, but this girl has stabbed DD in the back, shes thrown her family situ in her face, DD has only really trusted this girl, DD was making herself sick this morning in the hope not going to school.

this girl - shes not an angel, her home life is far from the best social services are involved, we have the girl nearly every ngt after school as she hates going home, she describes her dads gfriend as his latest s e x toy......
Her dad thrashed her bedroom when she lost her fron door key, hes thrown her down stairs (school are aware of this), he regulary leaves her short of money on her lunch card, DD has brought her dinner more than once,

yet she has a iphone 5c on contract (shes 11 coming up 12), upgrading to a 6 plus, she has 2 ipads, having a macbook for xmas...

what do I do, I have spoke to he school before about concerns as I check DDs phone and there was screen shots of a conversation with an older man, - need you gu ess the conversation....

Do i let it ride, I dont want to interfere but i need to supprt dd xx

LavenderBees

So, who is having conversations with the older man? DD's friend? Are you sure of that?

My thoughts,if so, are that you probably know what you need to do - ensure the authorities are aware. She sounds a very vulnerable little girl, poor thing, and needs someone to watch out for her and over her. That sounds like you and DD. Is this why they've fallen out?

Please don't stand by and let her be groomed by some bast&rd. She sounds a prime target.

I know it's probably more than you feel you can cope with at the moment, but make the call, and then try to help DD reconcile with this girl. She needs you both, by the sound of it.

Having said that, if you think that there is any possibility of DD being dragged into something "unsavoury", obviously your responsibility is to your DD, but still make the call. If this little girl was my daughter, I would want someone to act to try to look after her.