OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

MummyBobble

So sorry Byatt, it must be so frustrating wanting and trying to help and feeling like you're getting nowhere. Sadly some of us (and I'll include myself) are frequently drawn to destructive relationships, but eventually the day comes when reality hits and you realise you're worth more than what you've got. Hopefully it will come sooner rather than later for your DD.

Seems a bit weird here this morning. DD finished high school yesterday so it's me off to work, DS to school and DD being left sleeping. DD has four more exams next week, and open days at three colleges to go to so it's not quite all over yet.

Even better, it's Friday :j

RosiePuddingPaws

Sorry to hear of your daughter's new partner, Byatt. Glad the bunns are okay but it has to be a worry. Cigarette burns in the duvet, etc., are a big concern (as you know). You've told her support team, so let's hope they can do something useful.

Just finished a good, "light", book. Was it Bookworm asking what we had been reading? Anyway, anyone who wants an easy read, I can recommend Trisha Ashley's "Every Woman For Herself". It is nothing taxing on the brain but good fun.

So glad it is almost the weekend. Seems to have been a hard week this week. Did make myself cut the silage, sorry mow the back lawn, last night, so that is one less chore to fit in at the weekend. The leak in the conservatory is back though - in a slightly different place - so will have to get out my trusty tube of silicon and try and seal up another area I guess.

Well, best go to work and try and manage one more day at the coalface.

Hope the girls are okay now LavenderBees and that fluffy butt has got over being broody.

RPP

if_at_first...

I am sorry but I have to ask!
Are bunns rabbits?


I don't want to be harsh to your daughter but sometimes you can't help people unless they want to be helped. All you can do is make sure you are ready when she needs a shoulder to cry on.


Best of luck though

Byatt

ifatfirst, yes bunns are rabbits

No, not harsh, but DD has special needs so I am more involved than I would be under different circumstances. I'm detaching more however although it may not seem like it.

Calico, if support get involved then they may well have a chat with gf, I would have wiped the floor with her if she had not gone out before I had seen the cigs. :mad: DD has had a cleaner in the past, but because of cost, doesn't anymore...having said that one cleaner took advantage of her, which turned into a sorry mess.

Thanks for the support guys, it just helps to talk to someone, otherwise I would be boiling my head as Calico says. :cool:

I'm hoping for some small compensation for the car accident and plan to go away somewhere where I can "find" myself again, a mad fling wouldn't go amiss either ;)...just seem to have lost my own identity again.

As for books I am reading
Miss Smilla's Feeling for Snow by Peter Hoeg

a Danish writer, and so far very ineresting regarding the details about Greenland and Denmark, which are a real eye opener. Mixed reviews on Ama$on, but so far loving it. The heroine is a singly, and I can relate to her even with the difference in countries.


One scene, she is contemplating suicide (sounds grim but the lead up sets the scene), and everything happens to interrupt her, the door bell ringing, someone shouting through the letter box...she says it's a day for someone tapping on the window, 5 floors up...then there is a tap at the window, the window cleaner, he jokes that he thought he'd better let her know he's there so she doesn't get undressed; she shouts, what are you saying?! you don't want to SEE me naked?? (the implication being that she is too old and ugly)...


Anyway, it is a thriller/murder mystery.:cool:

if_at_first...

On the books - I took an oath not to buy any books this year. I have a good stock though! The last book I read was "Beauty" by Louise Mensch and now I am going to ready Little Dorrit I think. Might change my mind by tonight though - I usually do.

LavenderBees

In my experience of relationships (and I don't just mean partners), most relationships have a destructive element to them to a greater or lesser extent. "Human beans" :rotfl:are generally fairly selfish creatures and some, of course, are more selfish than others or maybe some "nicer people" simply manage to hide their selfishness under a veneer of niceness, for a while anyway...

The stress of any people relationship is exacerbated, in my view, by not being in control of the situation. It possibly helps to remember that we only ever have control of ourselves and our reactions. I have to say I am a great advocate of the "dump 'em and run" theory to remove toxic people/relationships, and I personally feel a million times happier as a result.

Very difficult with a daughter, though, Byatt .

But again, as with work problems, and most other problems, people or relationship problems can possibly be kept a little more in perspective by having lots of lovely things in your life that you are in control of - hobbies/days out/planning a holiday etc etc :T

Speaking of which, my own holiday is now only 11 weeks away :T, and I now have 3 failed attempts at cutting back on food and drink just in the last 2 weeks :eek:

I must DO something about my bloomin will power or lack of it....starting Monday....again...:A

On the hobbies front, the fluffy butts (thanks for their new name RRP :rotfl:) are all thriving, now henzilla is no more. Peace is restored, thank goodness. Long may that continue, but at least now, if a fluffy butt becomes broody again, I'll be able to act on it straight away, and lessen the impact on her and the other fluffy butts

Young-Boy-Cat has had a clean bill of health from the vet, so his lack of appetite is being put down to a stress symptom as a result of Sweet-Baby-Cat arriving, and STAYING! :rotfl:But he kept up the not eating just long enough to frighten me into a vets visit (£38...gone just like that) and seems pretty chirpy now, lots of playing with SBC and his appetite is back to normal. :T

This morning, both of them were wanting the same space on the sunny bedroom windowsill, so were scrushed on together (there was about a metre of windowsill to the side of them unused naturally :rotfl:), which resulted in play fighting, much enjoyed by both, to the extent that SBC didn't want to go in the spare room when I went to work, and YBC ran to sit outside the spare room when I closed the door on her. Ever felt guilty? But SBC needs her food during the day, which YBC, and indeed OBC, would snaffle if the door was left open...no choice but to separate them at the moment. But their budding relationship makes me smile

So, at the moment, I am sitting in the office (pretending to work :eek:), and the sun is beating against the window, and tomorrow will be raining.

Ah well, c'est la vie, eh?

My plans for the weekend include an interview with a rep from the Office of National Statistics (yawn), and possibly a car boot sale with Calicocat. If it doesn't rain too much...otherwise, I'm going back to bed with a book, some wine and chocs. The diet starts on Monday :rotfl:

Have a good'un whatever you're planning.

LB xx

Byatt

From before birth I was in a toxic relationship & seem to have been in the midst of them all my life, I have extricated myself from the bulk of my family now, but as you say LB, a DD is different matter, for me anyway, along with the complicated and sad past of my DD.

Anyway, I'm having a nurturing weekend, will make plans to go to HFW's restaurant for my birthday later this month, with a friend, and read my book which is a rarity in that I don't want it to end.

ifatfirst, I just noticed you are living in Belgium! Perhaps you will tell us about life there? I'm getting my books from the "Telephone Box Library" in the village (free), or charity shops for about a £1...it does make for some eclectic reading, often books I wouldn't have normally chosen or been aware of.

The weather is fab here too, I went out without a coat or jacket just now!

calicocat

Where are you going away to Byatt??....are you coming up north again?, would be lovely to see you again as i'm always on ruddy shifts when you come up.

If LB would brave a tent we could go for a camp-out somewhere too......but it isn't looking good as LB asked last time I mentioned tents if there was somewhere to plug her hair straighteners in..........or we could just camp out with the chickens!!!..aka fluff-butts.....lol.


I set alarm for earlier than normal as determined to use hammock, so have had an hour in the garden and some vitamin D....days off look like torrential rain naturally.


If it's teaming down the car boot at Hexham is indoor or there is tynemouth station.....and lunch...deffo lunch.


Work has been fine again so far this week again...so that's good news....tonight to go yet though.

Right off for work....i'm so excited it's my last one for a few days...yay.

Enjoy your friday night peoples.

calicocat

Oh no....i take it all back.

I'm sat in garden for an hour before going to bed seeing as heavens meant to open in a while.....and Asbo is out chasing Bees.

She has never done this before, it must be a sport you take up in old age, and only have an interest in flying ones not sleepy ones in need of sugar......luckily she is pretty useless at it....so far.

BookWorm

Morning all.

Well there was a mahoosive storm happening here when I first woke up around 7am so I went back to bed and just got out of my pit now :cool: Dry for the time being but not sure how long it will last.

Nothing much planned for today other than few errands and the ever present house chores.

So I can live vicariously....anyone doing anything fun today?

RosiePuddingPaws wrote: »

Just finished a good, "light", book. Was it Bookworm asking what we had been reading? Anyway, anyone who wants an easy read, I can recommend Trisha Ashley's "Every Woman For Herself". It is nothing taxing on the brain but good fun.

I'm not sure it was me despite the name However I do love to hear what people are reading and always happy for new suggestions :T

BW