OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

spirit

LavenderBees wrote: »

I'm happy with that definition

I hate spinster, single, singleton...singlie to me sounds fun and happy-go-lucky, feisty and courageous... who made up the word...? contact the OED...:T

I'm definitely of the singlie category then.

I can't think of anything worse atm than having some great smelly bloke planting his ar5e on my sofa and expecting to be waited on hand and foot (on the basis that he is a guest in my house and in his opinion, guests don't have to help :eek:)

Nor do I think it's acceptable for them to bring their washing on a visit to me on account of the fact that my washing machine is better than theirs (not actually true, he was just too stupid to operate it properly) and I happen to have a tumble drier and they don't.

Some of them do still seem to live in caves.

moneyistooshorttomention

LavenderBees wrote: »

I'm happy with that definition

I hate spinster, single, singleton...singlie to me sounds fun and happy-go-lucky, feisty and courageous... who made up the word...? contact the OED...:T

Couldn't swear to it...but I think 'twas I:)

Quick google later...OED = Oxford English Dictionary...ah gotcha:)

Feisty and courageous = yeh...that sounds good.

calicocat

Another vote for Singlie here......sounds way more fun,happy, and alive.

Singleton always sounds like you've been shoved on some shelf by society and are sitting there rotting from the inside, rather than being single could be a choice.

Spinster has a horrid connotation these days too doesn't it, however I read somewhere (maybe even on the other thread?) ...that spinsters were in past times revered as independent women who could financially look after themselves...due to earning money in their own right spinning, rather than any reliance on a husband or other family members.

Well, i'm in bed already reading MSE and watching any crap I like on tv...lol.


Actually I used to read loads.....now I just read this......that's another addiction to add to the list.

flubberyzing

Long-term singlie here!


If someone comes along in the future, great. But I'm not actively looking for anyone right now.
99% of the time, I love being single! I do what I want, when I want. Any mess is my mess. And I just love doing my own thing!

singlestep

BookWorm wrote: »

Hope you can find some time to chill yourself later on

I was fairly busy last night but I decided enough was enough tonight if I was going to make it to the end of the week.

I'm enjoying tea, clad in my favourite warm PJs, chatting via IM to one of the first friends I ever made via the Internet (about fourteen years ago now?). We've never met in person but, if a week goes by where we haven't 'talked' at least 2 or 3 times, then one of us is sure to be on holiday

I see myself as a singlie too, now I know the word! If life has a different plan for me, fair enough, but I'm not counting on it or even actively seeking for things to be different. It's surprising, though, how many people can't really accept it as being how I really feel.

decogecko

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

"Singlie" has just got to be a very descriptive word. That word "singleton" to me denotes someone who regards themselves as temporarily and most unwillingly single (but are still very much on the lookout for The One). "Singlie" means someone who knows very well that they may be single for years or rest of their life and maybe even wants it that way (hard experience won in a marriage or equivalent) and isn't looking for a Significant Other and is getting on with Making A Life for themselves and making the best of and/or thriving on being single. Big difference between the two outlooks imo.

Hi all

Having read the above I realised I belonged on this thread! I'm definitely a singlie.

I'm 32 and live in a happy household of one (plus my two cats, fluffy boy cat & drama queen kitty). I've been on my own for almost 4 years since my OH passed away. I love and miss him as person but not the relationship IYSWIM. Deep down I've always known that if I ever had a relationship like we had that there was definitely no-one for me. This has been very liberating in some respects as I don't have to worry about meeting 'the one'. I've pretty much accepted I won't have children as well.

I'm determined to be as self sufficient as possible in terms of doing my own DIY etc - I can paint, just need to learn how to wallpaper. You tube has been brilliant - it helped me fix my boiler (there was an error code). I'm keeping a look out for courses that teach basic plumbing so that I'm prepared in case anything goes awry.

Thanks for the thread Lavenderbees

Deco x

Squiggly_Diddly

LavenderBees wrote: »

Hello & welcome!

intrigued by your new sociable hobby...????

Thank you - another vote for liking Singlie here too So busy day at work, home to make fajitas for an assortment of teens (one scrounging dinner as she's so poor...lol), two Madeira cakes baked & now some sugarpaste leaves to make!

The new hobby is drumming... There's a local group been around for years, saw them in town last summer & just wanted to join in, then by coincidence a few weeks later they had an opening for new members - so I decided to go for it!! And I absolutely love it, so very therapeutic, good fun & a lovely welcoming group of people (it's quite a family orientated group too). So as well as regular practice sessions we perform at various events... I am an "artiste" now, lol!!

In terms of hobbies I think it's not always so easy for Singlies to find things they can join in alone. I wanted & needed to find that something - as most of my friends are busy with their own family things, or don't live nearby - otherwise I was finding that the things I like such as reading, sewing, cake decorating don't get me out, I don't drink so didn't want something revolving around pubs, & I didn't want to become a hermit or have to resort to going to the gym which I don't think would have been sociable anyway. And i have no coordination, so dancing wouldn't have worked for me & I would want my own partner to go with...

So by sheer accident something came along & is bringing a range of new experiences & friends, as well as a bit of a stress reliever!!

calicocat

spirit wrote: »

I'm definitely of the singlie category then.

I can't think of anything worse atm than having some great smelly bloke planting his ar5e on my sofa and expecting to be waited on hand and foot (on the basis that he is a guest in my house and in his opinion, guests don't have to help :eek:)

Nor do I think it's acceptable for them to bring their washing on a visit to me on account of the fact that my washing machine is better than theirs (not actually true, he was just too stupid to operate it properly) and I happen to have a tumble drier and they don't.

Some of them do still seem to live in caves.

This had me laughing......an ex of mine used to keep his cat food in the washing machine.....and took his laundry to his mum..!!....at 45..!!
After we had been going out for a few months he asked me if I wanted to move in with him. Now stupidly he asked whilst I was in his house, that was a tip and not clean......I did a 3 second scan of the place and declined stating why.

His reply....."well it wouldn't be like this if you were here"..........lol....and lol again.

My reply......" you have just set the alarm bell off in my head and I fear it will never be switched off, and to be honest any woman who moved in with a bloke of 45 who takes his washing to his mother would need psychiatric evaluation"....i showed him how to operate said rocket science washing machine and went off shopping leaving him to watch it go round.

springdreams

iammumtoone wrote: »

A question to the other single mums on here. Do you work full time? if so how do you find it with your child(ren) being in childcare. I am looking for part time work but there is not much about so have started applying for full time positions. I am not bothered about ds being in childcare full time on school days but do feel for him being left there full time in the holidays (especially the six weeks) as I don't have any relations who could look after him

I'm a single mum too.

I returned to work full time when my DS was 11 weeks old. He went to a child minder, which cost half of my monthly salary. When he started school, his primary school had (and still do but he is no longer in primary school) a breakfast club and an after school club, which he attended. This cost a quarter of my monthly take home pay. I then sent him to holiday clubs, sports clubs and any other club I could find over the school holidays. This cost half my take home pay. I received child care vouchers, which were taken from my pay before I was taxed, which helped alot with the costs. My DS is now 13 and no longer wants to go to after school clubs or holiday clubs, so he now spends time with his mates over the holidays or takes up residence on his xbox.

I have never received any financial contribution for my DS from his dad, so have had to fund all the holiday and after school care myself.

My DS did not alway enjoy going to the after school club, or to the holiday clubs, but he understood that there was no other choice.

LavenderBees

Squiggly_Diddly wrote: »

Thank you - another vote for liking Singlie here too So busy day at work, home to make fajitas for an assortment of teens (one scrounging dinner as she's so poor...lol), two Madeira cakes baked & now some sugarpaste leaves to make!

The new hobby is drumming... There's a local group been around for years, saw them in town last summer & just wanted to join in, then by coincidence a few weeks later they had an opening for new members - so I decided to go for it!! And I absolutely love it, so very therapeutic, good fun & a lovely welcoming group of people (it's quite a family orientated group too). So as well as regular practice sessions we perform at various events... I am an "artiste" now, lol!!

In terms of hobbies I think it's not always so easy for Singlies to find things they can join in alone. I wanted & needed to find that something - as most of my friends are busy with their own family things, or don't live nearby - otherwise I was finding that the things I like such as reading, sewing, cake decorating don't get me out, I don't drink so didn't want something revolving around pubs, & I didn't want to become a hermit or have to resort to going to the gym which I don't think would have been sociable anyway. And i have no coordination, so dancing wouldn't have worked for me & I would want my own partner to go with...

So by sheer accident something came along & is bringing a range of new experiences & friends, as well as a bit of a stress reliever!!

Hah! you don't live next to Calicocat, do you? She's been complaining someone is drumming while she desperately tries to sleep!!

:rotfl:

I was at a NYE parade, strangely on NYE , and the drumming was fab. Really calls to something inside me. Not sure if could do something regularly that made others depend on me being there.

And I live in a teeny terraced cottage, so practice wouldn't be popular!!

ETA you must be co-ordinated or you couldn't drum, methinks. Would love to try it.