OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

moneyistooshorttomention

mum2one wrote: »

If you contact your local college they do evening courses in basic plumbing, car maintance etc - def worth a try xx

Hmmmm...:rotfl:...laughing here at the thought of me doing a course in plumbing at my local College....as I would probably be surrounded by a group of men young enough to be my son or even grandson:rotfl:. It's one of those thoughts I've had at the back of my mind for a while and the College where I am living now would probably be better-suited than the one in the area I came from:think:

Thinks, at this rate we'll all develop a Thread Checklist:
- make out a will and other Final Day Arrangements
- learnt basic DIY skills
- psyched ourselves up to solo holiday-taking

Have I missed anything?

Any other Useful Skills for Singlies?

LavenderBees

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Hmmmm...:rotfl:...laughing here at the thought of me doing a course in plumbing at my local College....as I would probably be surrounded by a group of men young enough to be my son or even grandson:rotfl:. It's one of those thoughts I've had at the back of my mind for a while and the College where I am living now would probably be better-suited than the one in the area I came from:think:

Thinks, at this rate we'll all develop a Thread Checklist:
- make out a will and other Final Day Arrangements
- learnt basic DIY skills
- psyched ourselves up to solo holiday-taking

Have I missed anything?

Any other Useful Skills for Singlies?

Morning :j

Other checklist items -

Building a friendship and support network
Hobbies - sociable and otherwise

xx

ETA oooo....the personal growth things e.g. posted by GQ....

Lilyplonk

How about adding 'Basic Vehicle Maintenance' to the list - 'vehicle' meaning whatever means of transport you own (car/cycle/scooter/motorbike)

LavenderBees

ooo ooo excited...:j am on a roll now as brain slowly wakes up...

Budgeting for singlies....

Lilyplonk

What about Confidence Building / Assertiveness / Basic Self-Defence.

Some 'Women's Centres' offer that kind of thing - though, of course, I wouldn't want to exclude any 'male singlies' from anything on this thread.

greenbee

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Hmmmm...:rotfl:...laughing here at the thought of me doing a course in plumbing at my local College....as I would probably be surrounded by a group of men young enough to be my son or even grandson:rotfl:.

Apparently these courses rarely attract men - it's usually women who were hoping they'd meet men :cool:

According to my male friends men just 'know' how to do this stuff. Which is utter rubbish... they're just not afraid of making mistakes so they just work on a trial and error basis. Although I've discovered that where I've moved to most of the men have no practical skills (no one knew what to do or had anything useful when a neighbour's fence panels came loose in the wind while she was away... I had to co-opt my dad, who was staying, to help me put it back up...).

RosiePuddingPaws

Love the list making - and all these items are on my list. I like a good list where you can cross things off as you do things, but this list looks like it may hang around for a while.

The will is relatively straight forward to sort, but some of the others will take more effort. I would really like to tackle the holiday alone one this year and i would like to go abroad (even if I can't really afford to!), but it is scary when your confidence is low.

Still, as they say, you eat an elephant one bite at a time so my first bite can be the will and then take it from there.

RPP

moneyistooshorttomention

greenbee wrote: »

Apparently these courses rarely attract men - it's usually women who were hoping they'd meet men :cool:

According to my male friends men just 'know' how to do this stuff. Which is utter rubbish... they're just not afraid of making mistakes so they just work on a trial and error basis. Although I've discovered that where I've moved to most of the men have no practical skills (no one knew what to do or had anything useful when a neighbour's fence panels came loose in the wind while she was away... I had to co-opt my dad, who was staying, to help me put it back up...).

Just "know" right...:cool:. Well...I guess that's us female singlies willing to admit we haven't got a clue...which helps I suppose.

I do ruefully think that it would be useful to have the advantage most men have over us, ie of physical strength. One "male" way to deal with DIY things (from what I've seen recently) seems to amount to using sheer physical strength to do things (shift them around/wedge them in place/etc). Or is that down to fact that I'm now in the land of "Men are tough and still do all sorts of hard physical stuff...and playing rugby....even when they're half-crocked with illness?" Still astonished at seeing them all out there playing rugby even when its cold AND raining heavily AND high wind AND AND AND...._pale_

greenbee

Men are just strange... and I actually know plenty of women who are better at DIY stuff than men. It's just most of us don't get round to learning.

When my brother was putting up some shelves for me, my mum said to my niece (aged 2...) "One day your big brother will be doing this for you". I told my brother that I sincerely hoped not, as I hoped he teach his daughter practical skills as well as his son... Turns out they both use hammers and power drills and pre-school anyway, so maybe I should be getting them to put up the shelves

moneyistooshorttomention

ROSIE

That phrase about "How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time" is the mantra I am living by at the moment.

Another day of work being done on the place and I was more than a little reluctant to get on with a day's supervising/tea-making. Up with that mantra again and:
- first get up
- then have breakfast
etc

I've got as far as getting dressed and my daily checklist of "thoughts on doing the job" ready to go through with the workman for the day. Still feeling extremely reluctant to get on with it and kicking myself into touch to get on with the day. Deep breath/smile on face/he'll be here in a minute:(