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OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

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  • Mrs bones
    just had to post to say my DH has terminal cancer, and he has arranged his whole funeral, he said its giving him peace of mind to know I don't have to do more than ring people on his hand written list when he goes..... I personally think it's cos he'sa control freak..... which he admits he is....

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  • moneyistooshorttomention
    moneyistooshorttomention Posts: 17,940 Forumite
    edited 15 January 2014 at 7:43AM
    calicocat wrote: »
    Nice idea, up until you find you need to pay for your care when elderly?...this is also something people (single or not) need to think about now....if you want a choice of where you go that is.

    Come to think of it...that's one of the advantages of being a singlie. That is, there is no-one worrying that they might lose part of their inheritance to a local Council that has decided to take it to pay for a carehome. I won't worry myself about whether there will or won't be an adequate amount of money to hand to "choose my own care home". I made the decision long ago I would never go into a care home anyway...so I'm quite free to do what I please with my assets before and after my demise.:D

    Thank goodness The Last Taboo (ie discussing these matters) is in process of going at last. Goodness knows every other taboo seems to have vanished in recent years (including some that shouldn't imo) and its good that this one is in process of going too and that we can discuss our "practical arrangements" here.

    Not burying my head in the sand...just planning on that "keep £10,000 to one side in case I needed a one-way plane ticket to Switzerland ever". Not being morbid here...just a very practical realisation I simply wouldn't be prepared to cope with having severe long-term illness. I know myself too well to even think of trying to cope if that reared its head ever. I guess that viewpoint comes to many of us who have watched others at close hand coping with severe illness and seeing just how many years it can carry on for....EEK!
  • This has got me thinking that I really ought to get all my paperwork in order before I tackle the general carp that fills the house. I really couldn't expect anyone to come in and start sorting through it all... It does worry me that, as a singlie, at the moment nobody has a clue about my bank accounts, credit cards, insurances etc.

    No work today (don't work Wednesday's, I just :heart2: Wednesdays :rotfl:), so I'll start with the paperwork on the floor under the dining table (ran out of space in what is laughingly known as the "office" :o)

    Wish me luck because this could be quite a challenge!

    Have a good day all x
  • Which, in turn, reminds me that one of the things I need to do is to complete that Lifebook I got from AgeUK. It's a free little booklet that they provided, which they state is "an easy to use and safe method of recording the practical details of your life".

    I've only got as far as glance through it after I had received it from them. But it does seem to cover all the angles.
  • Hello :) Another lurker from the last thread here... I'd like to join as well! 45, been single for 13 years now and like Mrs Bones said, you start getting set in your ways :eek: Whilst in some ways I'd love to find a partner/get married again, I have a feeling I'm too much of a control freak & used to my independence to do so!! However, life can throw all sorts at you!! I like the living in separate houses idea though :)

    My daughters (3) are all older teen/young adult now, two at home but all working &/or at college so we can all be like ships in the night at times. I work full-time in a busy job & was lucky enough to buy my "forever home" a few months ago - so working towards being mortgage free sooner than the current 22 years...
    Generally contented with life, have those occasional moments where I miss having someone special, but just get on with it. Have done internet dating on & off in the past (that was an, um, experience...:rotfl: ) but given up on that really. Found a new sociable hobby & trying to find time to get back into reading/sewing/baking etc as otherwise I just seem to work or come home & go to bed early!!

    Sorry for the marathon introduction - I do waffle sometimes!!
    Live your life until love is found, or love's gonna get you down" (credit to Mika!):p

  • calicocat
    calicocat Posts: 5,698 Forumite
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    Well last night simply re-enforced the whole singlie thing for me.......

    An ex (who I am still friends with, and friends with his girlfriend) , turned up last night. I knew he was coming, but hadn't realised he was staying the night...(he lives further down the country now but still has business up here).

    Anyhow....all this is fine.....but one of the first things out of his mouth when he gets through the door is..."so what's this crap you're watching"......!!!......

    HELLO........rude.....my house......my tv........my tv buttons.......lol.

    The guy reminded me within 3 mins of being in my house why he is ex...and why he will always be ex.


    Yes...being single most certainly has advantages, really if I just had friendly neighbours who were talented (plus cheap) at plumbing, mechanics, electrics, decorating, roofing, general DIY, gardening, .........i'd be sorted.
    Yep...still at it, working out how to retire early.:D....... Going to have to rethink that scenario as have been screwed over by the company. A work in progress.
  • Eenymeeny
    Eenymeeny Posts: 2,015 Forumite
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    Bloomin' heck, just found this thread and it's eight pages long already! Just to let you know that I'm here, and catching up..... :)
    The beautiful thing about learning is nobody can take it away from you.
    Thanks to everyone who contributes to this wonderful forum. I'm very grateful for the guidance and friendliness that I always receive from you.
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  • kacie
    kacie Posts: 901 Forumite
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    Bringing back the holidays topic from the last thread, I'm thinking of maybe doing one of The Sun holidays in future as a cheap getaway, but not sure about going to somewhere aimed at families and being on my own. I'll travel to cities and abroad alone but not sure about this!
  • spirit
    spirit Posts: 2,886 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker Mortgage-free Glee!
    calicocat wrote: »
    Well last night simply re-enforced the whole singlie thing for me.......

    An ex (who I am still friends with, and friends with his girlfriend) , turned up last night. I knew he was coming, but hadn't realised he was staying the night...(he lives further down the country now but still has business up here).

    Anyhow....all this is fine.....but one of the first things out of his mouth when he gets through the door is..."so what's this crap you're watching"......!!!......

    HELLO........rude.....my house......my tv........my tv buttons.......lol.

    The guy reminded me within 3 mins of being in my house why he is ex...and why he will always be ex.

    .


    What a cheeky git! I would have made him watch it, turned the volume up and ignored him whilst I watched it.
    Mortgage free as of 10/02/2015. Every brick and blade of grass belongs to meeeee. :j
  • LavenderBees
    LavenderBees Posts: 1,728 Forumite
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    kacie wrote: »
    Bringing back the holidays topic from the last thread, I'm thinking of maybe doing one of The Sun holidays in future as a cheap getaway, but not sure about going to somewhere aimed at families and being on my own. I'll travel to cities and abroad alone but not sure about this!

    I could be wrong, but I think Byatt may have been on one of these with her adult daughter....if I'm right, she may be along shortly to let you know how her holiday was...if I'm wrong...sorry! :rotfl:
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