OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

Byatt

kacie wrote: »

Bringing back the holidays topic from the last thread, I'm thinking of maybe doing one of The Sun holidays in future as a cheap getaway, but not sure about going to somewhere aimed at families and being on my own. I'll travel to cities and abroad alone but not sure about this!

Kacie, I've done the $un holidays, last year and the year before I think, went with my DD. You may already know this so before I ramble on, the cost of £9.50 (or whatever it is now) is based on 4 people sharing, you each pay that, so if 2 people go it's still 4 times 9.50, so if you're going as a singlie, then it will 4 times 9.50, unless it's changed of course. It was still cheaper than the set price, but you often need to pay for "club cards" to use the club etc, but that info is given in the resorts stuff. I avoided weekends generally as more kids then...so went for the 4 nights/5 days.

If you want to know what the places were like, I can always waffle some more. :D

Byatt

LavenderBees wrote: »

I could be wrong, but I think Byatt may have been on one of these with her adult daughter....if I'm right, she may be along shortly to let you know how her holiday was...if I'm wrong...sorry! :rotfl:

:rotfl:you know me too well...:D

kacie

Yeah I knew I would have to pay for 4 people, but figured it still works out pretty cheap. Good idea about going during the week, hopefully it wouldn't feel so bad about not being in a family unit compared to weekends.

Byatt

kacie wrote: »

Yeah I knew I would have to pay for 4 people, but figured it still works out pretty cheap. Good idea about going during the week, hopefully it wouldn't feel so bad about not being in a family unit compared to weekends.

We had a lovely caravan in Cornwall, about 5 miles from Padstow, I didn't use the club as they didn't allow dogs in, but DD did, very quiet, hardly saw anyone. Another place we went on a weekend and much more children about, and again I didn't use the club but DD did. It was nice though, people chatted, but you can keep to yourself if you want (I tend to)...another place we had a lovely chalet away from the main site, so hardly saw anyone! I really enjoyed all the times we went and would have stayed longer if I could. I found the Mon-Fri much better as you get more time, but also places are open. If you go off peak, some clubs have less going on, but that didn't bother me.

I would happily go on my own, because the sites I went to wouldn't have made me feel left out.

calicocat

spirit wrote: »

What a cheeky git! I would have made him watch it, turned the volume up and ignored him whilst I watched it.

Oh he watched it alright.

Then later on when back in from a quick meal out, he asked what a programme was (as tv was on timer for it and had simply come on).....at this point I asked him if he lived in a cave now or was just purposely deciding to ignore anything new/ what people watch now.



We have been split for years now, and a few years back he was complaining about a girlfriend as she wanted to listen to a different radio channel , and she hadn't returned it to the one he usually listened to when finished.....at which point I told him if that was a major thing for him then he had my best wishes for the future with Any relationship he has.....lol.

LavenderBees

Guess who is a member of the Singlies Onesies Club....??

Yes, Me!! :j

Calicocat obviously needs to be on commission...but that was a lovely surprise from her today!!

Sorry, I've not been on for a while, but I have caught up with all the postings and made notes on what I need to do....so much to do...I feel a bit overwhelmed, tbh, but trying to tell myself baby steps...I can't cover every permutation of event that may (not) happen...so will stop trying!

I love the key cupboard suggestion, and there was something else which completely escapes me at the mo, sorry, am very tired now . I'll have to read back on the thread...but there was something that struck me...:o

To those who are in the middle of cancer problems either your own or partners/family, my thoughts are with you. If you need support, please don't hesitate to let us know on this thread. We're here and listening.

To those who feel a little overwhelmed trying to do it all as a singlie, same message, we're here and listening, and the sheer number of ideas being put forward as solutions, hopefully will mean that you feel less alone and more able to act.

Last night and today, I experienced again how lovely having supportive friends can be. To have people at your shoulder to help you deal with upsetting problems is just the most fantastic feeling. I honestly can't express my thanks to Byatt and Calicocat enough. You are both darlings :A

moneyistooshorttomention

Reinforces my thoughts that does...as to singlies often have a very different experience of Life/very different attitude as to how to tackle lifes problems accordingly/etc/etc.

It ain't just down to singles are noticeably financially worse off than someone in exact same circumstances but half of a couple. Life also comes over very differently to a singlie.

"Singlie" has just got to be a very descriptive word. That word "singleton" to me denotes someone who regards themselves as temporarily and most unwillingly single (but are still very much on the lookout for The One). "Singlie" means someone who knows very well that they may be single for years or rest of their life and maybe even wants it that way (hard experience won in a marriage or equivalent) and isn't looking for a Significant Other and is getting on with Making A Life for themselves and making the best of and/or thriving on being single. Big difference between the two outlooks imo.

LavenderBees

Squiggly_Diddly wrote: »

Hello Another lurker from the last thread here... I'd like to join as well! 45, been single for 13 years now and like Mrs Bones said, you start getting set in your ways :eek: Whilst in some ways I'd love to find a partner/get married again, I have a feeling I'm too much of a control freak & used to my independence to do so!! However, life can throw all sorts at you!! I like the living in separate houses idea though

My daughters (3) are all older teen/young adult now, two at home but all working &/or at college so we can all be like ships in the night at times. I work full-time in a busy job & was lucky enough to buy my "forever home" a few months ago - so working towards being mortgage free sooner than the current 22 years...
Generally contented with life, have those occasional moments where I miss having someone special, but just get on with it. Have done internet dating on & off in the past (that was an, um, experience...:rotfl: ) but given up on that really. Found a new sociable hobby & trying to find time to get back into reading/sewing/baking etc as otherwise I just seem to work or come home & go to bed early!!

Sorry for the marathon introduction - I do waffle sometimes!!

Hello & welcome!

intrigued by your new sociable hobby...????

LavenderBees

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Reinforces my thoughts that does...as to singlies often have a very different experience of Life/very different attitude as to how to tackle lifes problems accordingly/etc/etc.

It ain't just down to singles are noticeably financially worse off than someone in exact same circumstances but half of a couple. Life also comes over very differently to a singlie.

"Singlie" has just got to be a very descriptive word. That word "singleton" to me denotes someone who regards themselves as temporarily and most unwillingly single (but are still very much on the lookout for The One). "Singlie" means someone who knows very well that they may be single for years or rest of their life and maybe even wants it that way (hard experience won in a marriage or equivalent) and isn't looking for a Significant Other and is getting on with Making A Life for themselves and making the best of and/or thriving on being single. Big difference between the two outlooks imo.

I'm happy with that definition

I hate spinster, single, singleton...singlie to me sounds fun and happy-go-lucky, feisty and courageous... who made up the word...? contact the OED...:T

spirit

calicocat wrote: »

Oh he watched it alright.

Then later on when back in from a quick meal out, he asked what a programme was (as tv was on timer for it and had simply come on).....at this point I asked him if he lived in a cave now or was just purposely deciding to ignore anything new/ what people watch now.



We have been split for years now, and a few years back he was complaining about a girlfriend as she wanted to listen to a different radio channel , and she hadn't returned it to the one he usually listened to when finished.....at which point I told him if that was a major thing for him then he had my best wishes for the future with Any relationship he has.....lol.

I like the way you rock n'roll :rotfl::T