OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

moneyistooshorttomention

Flings aren't for me personally. I just like "proper" relationships and was not best pleased with a couple of men I subsequently discovered had regarded me as a fling:mad:.

It may be a generational thing and not many women in my agegroup "do flings", as we are/were (back when dating) only into "relationships proper".

Personally, my confidence took a distinct knock with those couple of blokes and I felt like giving them a swift kick in relevant part of anatomy (still would if I saw my chance to:rotfl:). A hard swipe round their heads would do as well. I'm not fussy which bit got whacked:p

Anyway, that's one blessing of getting older as I see it...no risk of encountering any more men like that:T. Tell ya...when you have acquired white hair most men look straight past you as a woman and you are well into Invisibility Zone:rotfl:and that has its advantages, as well as disadvantages.

Anyways LB...you tried it re the dating site and you'd have carried on wondering "what if?" if you hadn't. So that's another thing to tick off the list...been there/done that.

calicocat

I've never really been a fling kind of person either, I have always ended up in long term relationships....each to their own I guess though.

LB I hope sparky rings you soon.....he is not allowed to know how old I am....or about the thread!!!......lol.

Anyhow.....he may be going from a 'Darcy'...to a 'Cleaver' already, when txting him about LB...he had forgotten about my doorbell...!!!.......hello....what kind of person does that.....lol.


I think he is also a bit scared of LB.....you know when things get a bit lost in translation??.....well the whole crying in front of electricians thing went a bit 'pete-tong'.....lol. But i'm figuring anyone who has been to Kosovo can surely handle northumbrian women for gods sake...or women in general.


Last shift tonight thank the lord.....i'm on mens wards at the moment due to yet another flipping incident on my ward so I can't be on there......what a breeze in comparison I have to say, it's been a lovely rest this week.


Byatt...I haven't been to see the 'thumbs gang' yet this week as at work...plan to go and see if they are there Saturday.

Byatt

Rats! Just spotted a rat in the chicken run, it's the size of a squirrel!:eek:

The Girls don't seem bothered, but it scuttled off when it heard me although didn't go far, just in the undergrowth.

Will be getting new tyre(s) tomorrow, decided on 2 as I want the spare to be better than it is right now. Expensive business having a car...:cool:

I don't know if I'm a fling type person as it's always been all or nothing for me...would have preferred to be a fling person tbh.

Look forward to the cats with thumbs update Calico. My current puss cat is lovely but doesn't know how to have fun...I'm swinging around a Da B!rd toy and she's all hyper, pupils enlarged, skipping about and then thinks...OMG, what am I doing?! And runs off to hide. :rotfl:

moneyistooshorttomention

Well...I guess workmen get used to all sorts - including crying. They better blinkin' had on the planet I live on, as my main workman had me crying with homesickness in front of him today (nowt to do with his job), but there are aspects to living here that I wasn't aware of/didn't think would apply and I'm struggling at present. Right now - for two pins and a lottery win and I'd buy a house back in home area sight unseen (provided it was in the right area there).

Realistically, though, I know I cant afford My Type of House in "My Area" and that's part/a large part of why I'm here in the first place and I had no option one way and another but to sell the house I had, as it needed just SO much time/money/etc spent on it (on top of what I had already spent when I first got it years ago) and it simply wasn't worth it for a Starter House in an area that was starting to Go Down and I do wonder just how far Down its going to go (though maybe I'm being my pessimistic cynical self and over-estimating my guess on that).

So, today's crying in front of workman resulted in him standing there giving me a long list of reasons why I would feel better soon:cool:.

Anyway, who said Anyone's life is Perfect...so (realistically) why would I expect mine to be? and I'm still getting used to being retired as well (even if Work was a pain to say the least and its a blessed relief to be shot of it, it still takes some getting used to when your time is your own at last).

It will get better. Think positive time and I'll go off and get some music on in a moment and tell myself to be glad I'm gradually accumulating some friends here and look forward to next social outing with one.

Byatt

Homesickness is horrible MTSTM, can you pop back to your old town/city for a couple of days, to get your "fix" and maybe help put it in perspective. Either you will wish you really were back there, or you will feel, well, it's ok, but I prefer where I am...

I moved to this county with parents who acted impulsively (within 3 months they had decided to move and uprooted us and left family and home of 50/60 years) and who hated it but wouldn't admit it as they saw it as failure, so stayed beyond what was sensible...I of course would have moved back to my home city in a heart beat, and often think if it wasn't for my DD I would move back now. I guess I've never thought of it as home here.

moneyistooshorttomention

That was one of the thoughts my workman was coming out with. He suggested that I should return for a visit after a couple of years here and I would soon "beat a hasty retreat" back to here.

The downside to going back right now (if I could...as I am still in process of Major House Renovation Project) is that if I thought "That's it....spin the clock back" I couldn't anyway. Reason being exactly the same as why I had to leave financially-speaking. MY type of house there costs around £100,000 more than it does here and there isn't any money available to cover that cost (never was/isn't now). There is no arguing with bank balance/savings that dictate "Thou shalt not".

I had no option but to move. I have no option but to stay - bar that lottery win of course:rotfl:.

It's early days isn't it and things will settle once the house and garden are together and I've got more friends here sorted out...

BookWorm

Good evening everyone

It is the weekend yet? The days just seem to get busier and busier at the moment.

JKS - I will have to get back to you re: vanilla curd as I foolishly left it at my folks place. I'm due to go back at Easter though so not too long to wait (assuming they don't scoff it all lol)

mum2one

I think at the moment I would prefer a fling - more to get back into the swing of things, - being officially single for 11 yrs -although when DD was younger and I had a about 5 hols without her, there was a couple of holiday romances, the one bloke still have a natter about once a month on phone (9yrs later).

I did look at free online dating site beginning with z... but just seem to get people from miles away.

I tried a couple of the military pen pal sites - thou after trial period paid a mths membership, turned into 1 contact was a "I want" - what will you send me... the other was a solider looking for a notch for the bedpost - with his words guaranteed pleasure.....

I guess for me if I go out people see the crutches and the plus size figure and run a mile - not the person.

Weird as there was a speed dating event in the local paper grouped into ages (25/40) 41/58 then 58+ - but theres better things I could spend £25 on..

On countdown to hols... 8 days ... xx

calicocat

MTSTM

Ride out the homesick storm....well you have no option really. I also think this probably made worse (if not the cause) being upside down house-wise and the stress of dealing with workmen etc.

I think your blokey is right in that in a couple of years you could go back to the old home and look back and laugh at feeling poo at the moment .

I moved around loads as a kid so I don't think it really bothers me all that much....having said that I have been up north for many years now, so don't know how i'd feel if I left.

Hope you feel better tomorrow.

boddy

Hello everyone. It's ages since I've been on here. I don't know where time goes. Had a bit of family stuff going on with one of the grandsons. He started going down a very wrong path but that's been nipped in the bud and he seems to have settled down again.

It's been a long time since I've dated. Perhaps because I'm a lot older it doesn't seem to bother me much anymore. I'm quite happy with my own company, family and friends. I would rather read a good book. Lol.

Ninja cat Ozzy is very settled now. He has me trained well and I realised recently he has me trained to a certain routine. Made me laugh when I realised. Dogs have owners and cats have slaves.

Good news! My new kitchen is getting started the end of next week. After stressing about when he was actually going to do it now stressing about the upheaval and will it go ok. Most of the stuff is out so will shift more this weekend. Will have the microwave and kettle in the living room. Need to buy some bottled water in case it's needed. Don't know what ninja cat will think. Luckily it's not a big kitchen so shouldn't take long and be done by Easter.

Calicocat I would like to hear how the cats with thumbs are doing. Might have to go see them myself.

Have a good weekend everyone.