OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

moneyistooshorttomention

I remember that comment too, the "Stop looking and He will turn up" one. I'm old enough now to know that wasn't true at all. :rotfl:

Mind you, considering the other extreme of "Determined to be married regardless" and I can recall a friend who thought like that....and look what she turned out married to in the end:eek::eek:_pale_. As in "Seriously NOT good news for anyone"...

Am so glad I took the view that "If he turns up he turns up and :beer: and if he doesn't, then never mind....".

The only comment I would make about the "When you stop looking..." type comments is I guess its a sort of nod of acknowledgement of it being just down to sheer pure good luck (or otherwise) if you meet him" and I'm personally a bit cynical about there being much "good luck" floating around in that respect or any other...

BookWorm

Good evening everyone :wave:

Sorry for being MIA much of last week. End of March / start of April is our busiest period at work and I just didn't have the time or energy to be online as well.

I also decided to take myself off at the weekend to visit my folks. They live a couple of hours away and it was good to have a change of scenery after such a busy week.
Had a wander round a craft fair on Saturday and it really was a lovely way to pass a couple of hours. Also have some yummy things to eat too. The most novel one is Vanilla curd - anyone else have had some? I've no idea if it will be nice lol

Off to catch up and see what I missed..... :cool:

Unless of course someone wants to give me a recap tee hee

BW

mum2one

A good catch up - hope everyone ok, I've just realised another fab reason to being single, I can sleep in what I want...

Just come back from weekend caravan by Blackpool - warm quilts no heating in bedroom, on 2nd ngt - slept in two-ies - lovely and warm.

Got to get hold of window bloke this week - then start the ball rolling xx

nicki_2

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Ah yes, Nicki - because as we all know you'll find someone when you stop looking; they'll just appear, as if by magic (or so my married friends tell me...)

I'm about 10 years older than you, but with a DD the same age & that's a whole other minefield to consider with respect to dating :eek: so I'm thinking along the same lines & waiting till my 2 fly the nest (if they can ever afford to ) before I seriously think about dating. But I'll be 52 when DS is 18 & if I'm too knackered now to put the effort into finding a date I can't see how I'll feel more like it by then :rotfl:

Considering my local Asda is filled with students or pensioners I hope I don't bump into any prospective boyfriends in there :rotfl::rotfl: I've already done the maths and realised that I'm old enough to have a child at university which has seriously put me off even the "oh, he's alright on the eyes" when I'm in there shopping :o Thing is until very recently I felt like I was still in my early 20s, now all of a sudden I feel much older and the only thing I can think of that's changed is I've signed up for POF and started casually looking at dating.

As for my friend, who DD thinks is wonderful, well he's looking less and less desirable as time goes on. Things that I used to find 'cute' (for want of a better word) are now starting to aggravate me and I'm finding him less appealing as time goes on. :rotfl: Or maybe its just that this has been going on for nearly 3 years now and that little voice in the back of my mind is saying "seriously? Just move on, he's a [insert insult of choice]." Our mutual friends say we have some sort of chemistry they've not seen in others before, you can almost see the fireworks when we're together and 3 years ago they were saying what a wonderful couple we'd make, how right we are for each other. But they've changed their tune to "kick him to the kerb" and from my persepective right now, this whole thing is feeling like someone trying to put on a normal fireworks display at the bottom of the Atlantic

Oh well, I have plenty to keep me occupied this month between birthdays, Easter holidays and work, I'm busy until the 28th as when I'm not working or have DD home, I'll be running errands or cleaning the house. Men, instead of going on the back burner, can go to the back of the pantry and stay there along with the meat slicer and food processor :rotfl::rotfl:

calicocat

Just popped in for a quick read before work......

Cant say i've ever seen any blokes to wipe me off my feet in Asda....but maybe i'm in the wrong area....lol.

To be fair i'm not entirely sure I could be bothered even if I did...I am maybe destined to stay a singlie now.


Well....planted some more spinach after last lot got trashed by the Asbo-cat....had a whole load of new plant/shoots yesterday.....

All now pulled out, chewed, eaten,or flattened......by asbo-cat again., after making star shapes in the conservatory in the sun. I am clearly not destined to eat home grown spinach, and should have known I was doing it for the cat really. Still.....not that it matters I suppose. you learn something new all the time I guess as I didn't know cats like spinach.....lol.

If this behaviour continues her name may change to popeye.

Hope everyone is fine and dandy.

metherer

Evening folks. Sorry I've been MIA, but I've just had a week and a half of not being a single. It was rather fun.

We were introduced (via facebook messaging/text) through a mutual friend. He had asked her if she had any single friends who might be interested, and she's right, I was!

Texted the Tuesday, (8 hours marathon) then first date Wednesday (was meant to be Thursday but he brought it forward) and then stopped at his 4 times over the next week. Watched films/documentaries, cooked, and just enjoyed each others company.

Was fun, but his anxiety issues unfortunately meant he couldn't relax and enjoy the whole having a girlfriend thing. I'd let him set the pace too, as I knew about the issues before I met him. So, he was honest with me, and we called it off. Real shame, as he is a lovely bloke. So, that's that. We're going to try and get to know each other as friends, and there has been a lot of friendly inter county banter (He's Lancashire and I'm Yorkshire) and in a way it is easier as neither of us has any expectation of it leading anywhere.

Funny thing is, the day we called it quits (last Friday) I had the day off work planned anyway, and Ex (who is still, lets face it, my husband/house mate) went out to buy me chocolate to make me feel better. I had a lovely day, sat in bed watching youtube, eating chocolate, and generally enjoying myself. I should have been packing up belongings to get the house on the market, but really needed a lazy day.

Turns out that while it was a v brief (intense) fling, it gave me a whole bucket load of confidence that I hadn't realised I need. He fancies me, said/proved so, and that seems to have left me on a high. Turnsout I'm not such a troll after all.

My next window of opportunity is Maundy Thursday, when I go down to London for a gig. Can't wait, as I know I'm going to be sharing a table with some fellow Chap-magazine fans. We've linked up through facebook and discussed who will be there.

So, I think thats all that is new here. Hugs to anyone who wants/needs them.

MissShoes

nicki wrote: »

I could fall head over heels with someone I meet in the Asda as we both go to pick up the same bag of apples or something :rotfl::rotfl:

Ha ha- this is what I think will happen to me too! Leads to you scoping out people in the supermarket- dangerous territory!

Just catching on this thread, as a single female in the capital- often feeling like I'm the only one!

JustKeepSwimming_2

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I remember that comment too, the "Stop looking and He will turn up" one. I'm old enough now to know that wasn't true at all. :rotfl:

Mind you, considering the other extreme of "Determined to be married regardless" and I can recall a friend who thought like that....and look what she turned out married to in the end:eek::eek:_pale_. As in "Seriously NOT good news for anyone"...

Am so glad I took the view that "If he turns up he turns up and :beer: and if he doesn't, then never mind....".

The only comment I would make about the "When you stop looking..." type comments is I guess its a sort of nod of acknowledgement of it being just down to sheer pure good luck (or otherwise) if you meet him" and I'm personally a bit cynical about there being much "good luck" floating around in that respect or any other...

I'm old enough too - & I'd hate to be in the predicament your friend was in. I cant decide if I want him to turn up, or whether I'm with Nicki....

nicki wrote: »

...Men, instead of going on the back burner, can go to the back of the pantry and stay there along with the meat slicer and food processor :rotfl::rotfl:

metherer wrote: »

Evening folks. Sorry I've been MIA, but I've just had a week and a half of not being a single. It was rather fun.

Oh, exciting news Metherer - glad your confidence has been boosted by your fling. It is a wonderful feeling to know somebody finds you attractive/interesting isn't it.

Calicocat - I had no idea cats like spinach either, but when I did try & grow my own it was never very successful. I put it down to my black fingers, but maybe I just didn't catch the cat in the act :rotfl:

BW - vanilla curd sounds interesting, but I've never seen it anywhere to try. Let us know if its yummy.

Off to the salt mine for another 3 days, then its half term :j

Byatt

Trying to catch up, the finding a man in a supermarket made me remember one summer, just a few years ago, when I was probably showing a bit more cleavage than I normally would, mostly to keep cool and also I never gave it any thought...I then had elderly men approaching me, following me around the aisles and commenting on what I had in my basket. :eek: I know I'm no spring chicken (notice the chicken theme continuing? :rotfl:), but really...

I'm currently looking after chickens and they are named after famous authors. (the classics).

JKS, thanks for asking,the car had a puncture today...:(...ready to throw the towel in regarding driving. The 12 year old (:p) that came to fix it was very helpful though, we chatted about my Skud and he said that was better than the Ka...which I know/knew...but on the plus side he could get the spare wheel out ok (Ka's have them under the car)...without cutting the frame that held it, as it was easy enough to unscrew the whatsit, inside the boot (my knowledge is lamentable), so he said must have been looked after with services etc. He also said about the rust issue on Ka's and Fiesta's as nowadays rust just doesn't happen. Ka's are notorious for rust. Mine looks pretty good, unless there's something going on I can't see.

Anyway, spare wheel is barely legal so another expense I could do without. I must stop thinking "life's settling at last"...cause "Life" smacks me across the face! :cool:

Calico, sorry about the spinach eating Asbo! How are the Pet Shop Cats?

Metherer, wish I'd had a fling early on, I left it and left it, and just have lost all confidence now. Hope you have a fun time in London.

LIR, love the chicken names. :T

LavenderBees

I had a fling early on and another kind of mid singly time - makes no difference to your confidence in the longer run, imho. It certainly boosts your confidence at the time though, and is a nice distraction for real life.

But methinks, you're either reasonably confident in yourself or not. To me, it's about lack of opportunity, but given the many unsuitable blokeys I've been approached by online , I've realised, I really value my singlie life. If the right Mr Singlie came along, fine, but I've absolutely no desire to have the wrong Mr Singlie just for the sake of it...thank goodness. Have come off website and peace now restored again :T. Mind, I did let a very keen builder go by the way...p'raps I should have cultivated friendship... but that's maybe a bit cynical :rotfl:

Have also sacked inept electrician....still no sign of my shower being replaced, and it's now been about 5 to 6 weeks. Can't see it's going to be easy to get anyone out as they all seem very busy, but am hoping Calico's Mr Sparky will prove to be a hero again. Please, please....even if I have to pay extra for the distance...please, please. I HATE being in this situation...

Hoping to progress hen run this weekend :T

Nae other news from me

Catch yers later

LB xx