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BookWorm

Well.... was it something I said? :cool:
:whistle:

moneyistooshorttomention

Nope. Guess we must all have been busy yesterday.:)

In my case, the "busyness" was further investigation of nearby big-ger town. Wasn't very keen on that town. Will be off to investigate another big-ger town in the week. One plus point to it, I guess, was a reminder of one of the reasons I'm here. Scene = me sitting there, in come 2 English people and not a scrap of acknowledgement from them that anyone else was there and I might as well have been a picture on the wall, as it wasn't even clear they had seen me. ":(" thinks me. In comes little Welsh woman. Cue for her doing smiles all round and out with friendly general comment and me the only one responding. We sat there in conversation, cue frowns from English person nearby at us:rotfl:.

The plus point here being that I can pretty much rely on any Welsh people nearby for very long at all starting chatting with me, whilst English people nearby (unless used to living in a very Welsh area for a while) probably don't even acknowledge there is another person near them. :think: Oh yes...and remembers one of the reasons I decided to move here...as I'll happily start up chatting with anyone within range in exactly the same way...

So that's one thing that suits me about living here, ie the readiness to have a chat with a total stranger. In England (in my home area anyway), you could be out for a whole day and barely exchange a word with anyone...it doesn't happen like that here:rotfl:

LavenderBees

BookWorm wrote: »

Well.... was it something I said? :cool:
:whistle:

:rotfl:

I've been a bit AWOL as have had an adware virus on my lappy, was driving me mad as every click brought up an ad - anyone want World of Tanks?! Yet another time where, as a singlie, I've felt the weight of the world on my shoulders trying to think how to resolve it without spending too much money.

Finally got time and courage to go over to the dark side of MSE...i.e. the techy section ...and lovely helpful peeps resolved my problem albeit a bit of a fluke. But I have a lovely clean lappy now following the advice given. Have posted a link here in case it helps anyone..especially the freebie malware links.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4926532

My other reason for being AWOL is that I've realised that I spend too much time on a PC or laptop - 13 hrs+ on work days inc evenings :eek:. So, I'm cutting down...and sleeping better...coincidence? My GP reckons not...it was his advice to get off my lappy earlier in the evening, and learn to relax again...I'm trying all sorts to be calmer on evenings. A definite improvement in sleeping patterns, but I'm still mostly knackered...can't quite work that out :rotfl:

I have a nice weekend planned - hairdressers, lunch with a friend, shopping at my fave food store after lunch , and shovelling piggy poo on the lottie tomorrow. :T

I luvs weekends :beer:

Have a good'un everyone. Catch you later

LB xx

moneyistooshorttomention

Lavender Bees

Re the "feeling knackered"...and I'm guessing that you've been running on adrenaline for some time now and it will take a while "re-set that". Add the fact that you aren't able to totally relax/do your own thing yet because of the work you are having done on your house (or, more to the point, the unexpected hassles in the course of it).

We get ourselves mentally geared-up to "That will be over and done with at that point" and then other people cause unexpected hassles sometimes (eg Let Down Merchant Workmen) and, just as we've started "ratcheting down to relax" and we have to "ratchet back up again" a bit whilst the delays/other hassles are dealt with.

BookWorm

Morning everyone

MITSM - I agree - so many places you can go and people seem afraid to speak. I really enjoy visiting 'friendlier' places as I love all that

LB - :T for getting rid of your virus. I think MITSM is right and that it may take a little while for the 'calmness' to return after weeks of heightened stress levels. Keep looking after yourself and it will come

I'm trying to muster the energy to leave the house this morning. Happily wedged to my chair with a :coffee:right now lol

calicocat

LavenderBees wrote: »

:rotfl:

I've been a bit AWOL as have had an adware virus on my lappy, was driving me mad as every click brought up an ad - anyone want World of Tanks?! Yet another time where, as a singlie, I've felt the weight of the world on my shoulders trying to think how to resolve it without spending too much money.

Finally got time and courage to go over to the dark side of MSE...i.e. the techy section ...and lovely helpful peeps resolved my problem albeit a bit of a fluke. But I have a lovely clean lappy now following the advice given. Have posted a link here in case it helps anyone..especially the freebie malware links.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4926532

My other reason for being AWOL is that I've realised that I spend too much time on a PC or laptop - 13 hrs+ on work days inc evenings :eek:. So, I'm cutting down...and sleeping better...coincidence? My GP reckons not...it was his advice to get off my lappy earlier in the evening, and learn to relax again...I'm trying all sorts to be calmer on evenings. A definite improvement in sleeping patterns, but I'm still mostly knackered...can't quite work that out :rotfl:

I have a nice weekend planned - hairdressers, lunch with a friend, shopping at my fave food store after lunch , and shovelling piggy poo on the lottie tomorrow. :T

I luvs weekends :beer:

Have a good'un everyone. Catch you later

LB xx

Lol....i went to the dark side months ago for a mobile problem...the Techies were really good and helpful....admittedly it took a while for me to understand what the heck they were on about.

calicocat

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Lavender Bees

Re the "feeling knackered"...and I'm guessing that you've been running on adrenaline for some time now and it will take a while "re-set that". Add the fact that you aren't able to totally relax/do your own thing yet because of the work you are having done on your house (or, more to the point, the unexpected hassles in the course of it).

We get ourselves mentally geared-up to "That will be over and done with at that point" and then other people cause unexpected hassles sometimes (eg Let Down Merchant Workmen) and, just as we've started "ratcheting down to relax" and we have to "ratchet back up again" a bit whilst the delays/other hassles are dealt with.

Just getting to catch up.


Agree with this however. You need time to come down at some point.

groatie_queen

Been MIA with the lurgy - throat and ears still sore, but managing to pootle about getting things done. My brother's album is now complete, and I am very , very pleased with it - and can't wait to see his reaction in due course. Worth all the trips in and out to the local Boots photo section, as I remembered more and more details which just begged to be included. There are 124 photos in all.

LB, best advice is to be patient with yourself. It took me many months after my mother died, to pick up any energy, I felt tired and flat.

I agree it's probably a good idea to go offline earlier in the evening, and will be doing more of this myself. I'll also be leaving my tablet downstairs to reduce the wee small hours games of Scrabble when I wake up and can't get back to sleep. I'll be having quite an electronic holiday when I'm away, which is no bad thing.

I've done a fair amount of walking today, so an early bath and a curl up with a good book is the plan for the evening. It's so much lighter in the evenings now, if I hadn't walked my little legs off I'd be tempted to have a walk before dark. But that's for another day!

LavenderBees

Thanks, All, I know my inability to relax is not abnormal following 14 months of heightened anxiety and stress. I sometimes wonder if I've forgotten how to relax, or dare not relax for fear of emotions flooding out, but re-learning is what I'm doing. But my goodness, the physical stress symptoms are sometimes bloomin painful - currently really sore shoulders and neck. I need a bloomin good massage.

On the sleeping front, a friend has emailed me a link to a really interesting article, so will post that soon. It explains at some length why using lappys etc at night is not a good thing...I really must get off the internet soon.

I've had a really nice day though - pamper at hairdressers, garden centre visit, lovely long lunch with friend, and a long phone chat with another friend, and emailing yet another, so all very lovely.

And then....well then....I took leave of my senses and this evening have joined a dating site. :rotfl:

Good grief! :eek:

It's all my lunchtime friend's fault

I'm too knackered to put any effort in, and some blokey has already emailed me, but it seems I have to pay out good money to see what he has to say, so I'll wait to see if anyone else gets in touch, and makes it worth a wee spend :money:.

Honestly! :eek: I am so not in the mood to small talk with strangers or try to impress, and I feel fat and frumpy, and tired and so unattractive, and so lacking in any confidence or self esteem, but my friend made it all sound so easy...and enjoyable...and well, I must confess to sometimes feeling lonely even though I'm building a support network of lovely friends.

Perhaps I can just have an internet relationship and never have to get out of my PJs :rotfl:

Oh dear! I suspect tomorrow I'll be unsubscribing. :rotfl:

Anyone else done anything by the end of the day that they would never have dreamed they would be doing when they got out of bed in the morning??

Sorry to hear you're still poorly GQ. Hope you improve soon, but well done on pulling together your lovely family pressie for your brother. It sounds very special, and so full of thought. I wish I had a sibling as thoughtful as you.

G'night all, sleep well

LB xx

ETA - link re resolving insomnia http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2586616/How-super-sleeper-Transform-life-overcoming-modern-malaise-insomnia.html

I need this as have just been winked at by a nice looking blokey in London - absolutely ideal - 300 miles away, so never need to worry about having full makeup on and getting dressed on weekends :rotfl:

How exciting

JustKeepSwimming_2

Playing catch up yet again - it is Sunday & the chores have kept me busy until now when I've finally flopped onto a chair from which I cannot see the washing up or ironing piles :rotfl: I'm blinking knackered already, still have loads to do (bake cakes for a sale on Monday that school let us know about on Friday, sew on Scout badges, ensure DS actually washes himself with soap in the bath instead of just playing, yada yada....).

And then I'm expected to go to work for another full week :mad:. I would so love a small window of time in my week when someone doesn't demand something from me .

And breathe....

Mum2one - so sorry to hear your sad news, & apologies for my tardiness in sending you a hug. I've just read through the thread for the first time in days & missed all your upheavals. Hope the building work gets sorted out for you too.

Byatt - hope the Ka is suitable & the practicalities of getting it/you back on the road aren't too horrendous.

GQ - hope you're feeling better soon & I echo LB's comment below - I wish I had a sibling (or any family member) who was as thoughtful as you. That photo album is the kind of gift that causes a lump in my throat - it shows how much you think of him, yet I feel a wave of sadness/self pity when I realise there isn't anyone to do that for me. Or that there are even enough photos of me & my family/friends to make up such an album. I bet he'll be delighted with it.

LavenderBees wrote: »

Thanks, All, I know my inability to relax is not abnormal following 14 months of heightened anxiety and stress. I sometimes wonder if I've forgotten how to relax, or dare not relax for fear of emotions flooding out, but re-learning is what I'm doing. But my goodness, the physical stress symptoms are sometimes bloomin painful - currently really sore shoulders and neck. I need a bloomin good massage.

On the sleeping front, a friend has emailed me a link to a really interesting article, so will post that soon. It explains at some length why using lappys etc at night is not a good thing...I really must get off the internet soon.

I've had a really nice day though - pamper at hairdressers, garden centre visit, lovely long lunch with friend, and a long phone chat with another friend, and emailing yet another, so all very lovely.

And then....well then....I took leave of my senses and this evening have joined a dating site. :rotfl:

Good grief! :eek:

It's all my lunchtime friend's fault

I'm too knackered to put any effort in, and some blokey has already emailed me, but it seems I have to pay out good money to see what he has to say, so I'll wait to see if anyone else gets in touch, and makes it worth a wee spend :money:.

Honestly! :eek: I am so not in the mood to small talk with strangers or try to impress, and I feel fat and frumpy, and tired and so unattractive, and so lacking in any confidence or self esteem, but my friend made it all sound so easy...and enjoyable...and well, I must confess to sometimes feeling lonely even though I'm building a support network of lovely friends.

Perhaps I can just have an internet relationship and never have to get out of my PJs :rotfl:

Oh dear! I suspect tomorrow I'll be unsubscribing. :rotfl:

Anyone else done anything by the end of the day that they would never have dreamed they would be doing when they got out of bed in the morning??

Sorry to hear you're still poorly GQ. Hope you improve soon, but well done on pulling together your lovely family pressie for your brother. It sounds very special, and so full of thought. I wish I had a sibling as thoughtful as you.

G'night all, sleep well

LB xx

ETA - link re resolving insomnia http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2586616/How-super-sleeper-Transform-life-overcoming-modern-malaise-insomnia.html

I need this as have just been winked at by a nice looking blokey in London - absolutely ideal - 300 miles away, so never need to worry about having full makeup on and getting dressed on weekends :rotfl:

How exciting

LB - the physical effects of "getting through stuff" are major, aren't they? Bless you, I hope they pass but it may take a while longer than you think, so take it easy on yourself.

When I feel like I need a massage I use something similar to this (have an older model & it wasn't as expensive :eek:) but it is one of the few ways I've been able to reach bits of my back that have been sore. It isn't as good as having someone else do it for you, but helps. Or I stand against a wall with a tennis ball between my back & the wall & move the ball around. Its hilarious to watch, & may provide additional entertainment for your cats as they can join in & chase the ball when it flies away from you :rotfl:

I wouldn't mention that you'd like a massage on the dating site

That is very brave of you to sign up & I hope it goes well for you. My "dating" wasn't very successful, but several acquaintances have done well & met some lovely partners so fingers crossed. I say "dating" as I never actually went on a date :rotfl:.

Quite like the internet relationship idea - then you can do as mum2one & I do...

mum2one wrote: »

... staying with the trouser look (can't be bothered to cream the legs....) thats what I love about being single and winter.... I can skip the odd carpet removal xx