The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

Honey_Bear

shaggydoo wrote: »

I guess I've been working on this for 18 years! Bit like when I first gave up smoking when I was 20 and I lasted about 2 hours - took me decades after that to completely kick it - I'm a slow learner

But you learned. And I expect you kept looking for ways that would work for you for all that time. Same here about the smoking, btw. I gave up smoking over and over again and then the final time I never went back to it. Much as I loved smoking I always wanted to be a non-smoker - I just couldn't work out how to get from the habit to the lack of the habit and the thought of stopping was :eek:. It takes a bit of doing, but when we get it right, it sticks.

stupotstu wrote: »

I did the quiz Honey Bear. Results as expected. :eek:

So, now you know, and if you've read the commentary around the test and the results you'll now what's in store. I don't envy you. It's a horrible wake up call, but I think the majority of people who do the test are probably secretly a bit worried by their drinking.

There's a blog called A Dappled Path by a lovely, lovely lady called Annie who's been posting for nearly two years about her drinking. My heart absolutely goes out to her because she's really, really battling with the booze habit and she's had more Day 1s than anyone else I've come across. She occasionally password protects it so it disappears for weeks or months and then it reappears. Nothing anyone has ever said to her on the blog appears to have stopped her picking up a glass again, and more than once I've come across people who've tried to offer something and she's taken it the wrong way. (I know, because I was one of them.) My heart aches for her because she so wants to be able to stop.

I worry, Stu, that we might not be making any contribution to helping you change your behaviour so that you can kick the habit. What do you think we could do that might make the difference for you?

stupotstu wrote: »

Best part was I kept saying to myself before the wedding "don't drink Stupot, you'll be a nutter". Minute the champagne came out after the wedding I had one in my hand.

The last night I drank I arrived at the party with a litre of tomato juice, Worcester sauce and as a chaser, a couple of litres of tonic. I wasn't going to drink, either, but just like you the host shoved a glass of bubbly stuff in my hand I decided it would be rude not to. Not the best decision I've ever made.

cathybird wrote: »

Last three nights haven't been AFD for me, getting back into it tomorrow, but the good thing is that I feel I've had enough a hell of a lot sooner than say about five years ago. I seem to always keep it to three. Which is still maybe too much but so much more restrained than I used to be. Onwards and upwards etc.

Fantastic, CathyBird. If cutting down and moderating are possible keep pegging away at it, good on you and well done.

5/30 please, Shaggy.

Arkers

Good Morning Everyone,


Stupot I am so sorry you are having such a torrid time, sending you positive vibes and a dodgy hug :grouphug:. I hope you manage to achieve a balance and get to a place you want to be.


Dizzy, hope you're feeling better soon.


3/20 AFD for me for last night please Shaggy. At my wits end here with lazy teenagers with exams looming please feel my pain and send me some positivity.


On the plus side and slightly off topic, I've managed to weight bear on the scales this morning and have now lost a total of 41lbs in weight. The cutting back on booze is a huge factor in this!!


Arkers x

ElusiveLucy

stupotstu wrote: »

I did the quiz Honey Bear. Results as expected. :eek:

Can someone repost a link tot his test please, I can't find it. Thanks

ManPants

Have woken up happy & sober.
I am smiling on the outside & feeling borderline emotional. Today I am feeling very optimistic.

Thank you Graemecarter for your kind words. Judging by what you & Honey Bear have suggested, i think I may have to go and see my GP to see what is available.

Thanks for the hug Arkers. :-)

I hope that this can be the start of my "dry april". Calling in 2/30 AF for tonight.

SPS X

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

1 more AFD for yesterday.



Shaggyx

Ellsbel

4/20 for today please as wont be drinking today.

shaggydoo

Arkers wrote: »

I've managed to weight bear on the scales this morning and have now lost a total of 41lbs in weight. The cutting back on booze is a huge factor in this!!

Is that a typo? 41 Llbs is amaaaaaaazing

:T:T:T:T:T:T:T

shaggydoo

April:

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF
= 28 days AF

= 30 days AF

= target achieved


Alcohol Free Days

Arkers 3/20

Barny1979 2/24

CathyBird 1 /15

CountingPenniesClaire

CuppaTea /17

Dansmam /20

DebJay 2/20

DizzyImp 3/30

Doshwaster /22

Effyb4

Ellsbel 3/20

ElusiveLucy 4/20

Gabriel

Gien 1/16

Honey Bear 5/30

Mackeroo /10

Maggie

Maman /10

Muser

NewMe 4/20

Piggles /12

Pricey /20

Satchmo 2/25

SandyPan /15

Shaggy 3/17

SmallHoldingSister

Smiley_77 /30

StuPotStu 2/30

WBF /14

Yellowmonkey

Alcohol Low Days

CountingPennieClaire

Debjay

Doshwaster /30

Shaggy 3/22




Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!

shaggydoo

Roll up, Roll up. A New Month, A New Challenge.

SET YOUR

26 days up for grabs!

Everyone Welcome!!!

Arkers

No Shaggy not a typo 41lbs since September, half a stone to go until I hit target!!!
Arkers x