The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

permanentlystressed

Been lurking.feeling desperate as need to give up. Get home from work and simply lack willpower. Wake up early hours: heart pounding,feeling grotty and ashamed. Need to simply not drink at all,rather than attempt to cut down. Why can't I see sense? Perhaps de lurking will help

Slowdown

permanentlystressed wrote: »

Been lurking.feeling desperate as need to give up. Get home from work and simply lack willpower. Wake up early hours: heart pounding,feeling grotty and ashamed. Need to simply not drink at all,rather than attempt to cut down. Why can't I see sense? Perhaps de lurking will help

Hi
I know that feeling all too well. It definitely helps being on here, everyone is very supportive even when you fall off the wagon like me this weekend!

I drank on fri, sat and sun! But mostly in moderation.

That takes me up to 10/14 I think. I'll have to go back and check and change that if I need to.

Didn't drink last night as felt a lot happier. Got some work stress out of the way, all 3 kids have exams this summer and they are now underway and DH had a clear scan at the oncologists. 3 years since last occurrence so looking good. All worth smiling about.

I hope everything is going well for everyone else.

Kind regards
Slowdown:)

graemecarter

permanentlystressed wrote: »

Been lurking.feeling desperate as need to give up. Get home from work and simply lack willpower. Wake up early hours: heart pounding,feeling grotty and ashamed. Need to simply not drink at all,rather than attempt to cut down. Why can't I see sense? Perhaps de lurking will help

I have will power in quite a few areas of my life. However, where alcohol is concerned I have none at all. Even though I used to say to myself "I won't drink tonight, I won't drink tonight" I'd find myself with a drink in my hand an hour later....
And when I had one drink, I had another, and so on.

When I tried to give up on will power alone, I could only manage a few days without booze before I'd convince myself that I was ok and could have a drink.
So I needed to get help for giving up, and I have to abstain totally. It's not always easy, but it's a damn sight easier than drinking and wanting to drink.
Good luck - if this thread doesn't do enough for you, please seek outside help.

nellis10

4/14! No alcohol last night. Weekends are my weakness.

maman

permanentlystressed wrote: »

Been lurking.feeling desperate as need to give up. Get home from work and simply lack willpower. Wake up early hours: heart pounding,feeling grotty and ashamed. Need to simply not drink at all,rather than attempt to cut down. Why can't I see sense? Perhaps de lurking will help

It has to help, no need to be out there on your own.:) The thread is about giving up and cutting down so room for everyone. I think the best advice I can give is to try one AF night and build from there. It won't be easy but you'll feel good about it. Most of us have used distraction as a technique to get started: have a soft drink alternative, plan an activity, go to bed early whatever it takes to take that first step.


Great news for your DH slowdown.:)


I'm planning another today and claim my first smiley this month.


7 AFDs please Shaggy.

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

Now on 19 AFDs to yesterday.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

Slowdown wrote: »

DH had a clear scan at the oncologists. 3 years since last occurrence so looking good.

Fantastic :T

shaggydoo

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sukeyboo

permanentlystressed wrote: »

Been lurking.feeling desperate as need to give up. Get home from work and simply lack willpower. Wake up early hours: heart pounding,feeling grotty and ashamed. Need to simply not drink at all,rather than attempt to cut down. Why can't I see sense? Perhaps de lurking will help

Welcome to the thread permanentlystressed :hello:
You have made the first step by posting and there is plenty of support on here as you have probably seen whilst 'lurking'.

Slowdown wrote: »

Hi

Didn't drink last night as felt a lot happier. Got some work stress out of the way, all 3 kids have exams this summer and they are now underway and DH had a clear scan at the oncologists. 3 years since last occurrence so looking good. All worth smiling about.
Slowdown:)

Great news slowdown :T

nellis10 wrote: »

4/14! No alcohol last night. Weekends are my weakness.

Oh me too nellis - weekends are never AF although the amount I consume now has gone down.

I was AF last night so that makes 5/12 for me please shaggy.

Have a great day everyone

mummy2threeboys

hi to permentlystressed sending you loads of love xx
And slowdown brilliant wonderful news!!

8/21 did share wine on sunday with hubby would have got through 3-4 bottles during the day between us, but we shared just one fizzy lower percentage 5.5% it was a champagne sparkling one so felt like a treat..and i woke up wonderfully on monday..no drinking monday. If i can continue with that id be very happy!