The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

sukeyboo

16/15 for me please Shaggy

Have a great bank holiday weekend everyone :j

WantToBeSE

CuppaTea wrote: »

WANT TO BE SE - That is amazing, well done you. I remember you from previous posts and I think that is brilliant you have achieved that. Do you plan to be teetotal now or learn how to moderately drink?

How is your SE business doing, I bet your children are both in secondary now?

Another AF for me tonight, so 17/15 please Shaggy. I'm on a roll at the moment. I am considering what to do tomorrow night. Its Friday night, I'm child free and wondering whether to have a glass or two. But I don't want more than that, do I have the will power to leave the bottle in the fridge. Or shall I carry on as I am and make 7AF's in a row. Decisions, decisions. My aim has always been to cut down and stick to recommended levels, not give up completely. But I am questioning why to have a drink just because its a Friday night and I can. Hmm.......

Honey_Bear wrote: »

After two years I still get a passing thought that a glass of red or a G&T would be lovely and then I remember that, for me, it probably wouldn't be a good idea. That's it. I can live with that.

Huge, huge congratulations on realising it, making the decision, doing something practical about it. It seems like such a huge undertaking to begin with, doesn't it, and then it all falls into place once you start to live in a different way.

And thank you so much for coming back to the thread and saying what you'd done. I often wonder if people who don't post any more are okay and to hear such a great success story is a real treat.

Well done.

Thank you both so much for your congrats

CuppaTea- I don't ever tell myself that I'll NEVER drink again, but I no longer see if as something to look forward to. I really see it as a total waste of money, a drain on my body and mind too.
Maybe at Christmas I'll decide to have a drink, maybe not. I can't imagine I'll bother to be honest. I like to think that I'll be teetotal, but never say never.
I had to pause my SE business in February as my son has some severe mental health problems and also autism, so i am currently his full time carer. But after 18 months out of school, he is going back in September, so i think I'll go back to it.
My youngest is now in the 2nd year of Secondary! I can hardly believe how fast the years go by!
Thank you for remembering us and asking after us

HoneyBear- yes, i always thought it'd be a massive undertaking!
It's funny how i used to wonder what on Earth i would do on a Friday night if i didn't sit as home with a bottle or 2 of wine...well, in answer to that, i just do the exact same thing that i do every other night of the week. My whole life hasn't changed, I haven't changed, i just no longer drink.
I really could not imagine my life alcohol free..and now i am living it!
I didn't want to come back to the thread for a while, as i wondered if by typing 'i no longer drink alcohol' i would be tempting fate! I still do feel a little bit like that really, but i feel strong enough to type it (and say it out loud) and not want to run to the shops for a bottle!!

To those who are struggling like i was, please please don't stop trying to quit.
I cannot even remember the number of times i came on this thread saying i was going to aim low and just try for 10 AF days, and then not even manage 5 that month. I did it for months and months, and even longer than that (but i gave up posting on here because i was fed up of everyone seeing me fail).
One day, you'll get there. Just keep trying, REALLY trying.

Good luck

New_Me

ElusiveLucy wrote: »

Sainsburys sparkling white AF wine. It was actually quite nice. I'm trying the rose tonight but it isn't as good.

Thanks I think I lookedfor that but my local store only had low alcohol sparkling. I'll look again

CuppaTea wrote: »

My aim has always been to cut down and stick to recommended levels, not give up completely. But I am questioning why to have a drink just because its a Friday night and I can. Hmm.......

We were talking about that a couple of weeks ago, why does the weekend deserve/demand a drink? I'm out with friends tonight, so will have some drinks, not decided about Saturday.

I had 2 becks blues last night, and they definately don't agree with me. Switched to low cal ginger beer afterwards, but still woke feeling as if I'd been drinking. DH drinks them, and he is fine, must be just me.

CuppaTea

I wonder if MP is on holiday, which is why he's been so quiet?

EL you are doing fantastic, glad the AF wine is helping.

Probably won't drink tonight, don't have anything in and its to hot to go out.

WanttobeSE, I hope your son enjoys school when he goes back. Are you still a single parent? That's the reason why I remember you, as you posted a lot and encouraged me years ago when my marriage failed and I had two children to think about and work etc. A lot has happened since then. I hope life is treating you better now.

Have a lovely weekend everyone.

PriceySOS

18 please, Shaggy, ta, and target of 22 for September please

Poppety

Well, I managed to stay off last night too so thats2/7 for me. I love the thought of being FB free! Perhaps that would help me be free of some other things too.

I think I may have overestimated my AF days by one as I have remembered that my daughter asked me to join her with a drink of rum she bought back from the Bahamas to celebrate her moving out of home into her new flat this weekend. I'm making a very level headed decision to join her but I'm not going to go over the top. I have a busy day tomorrow and need my wits about me to prepare for an influx of family.

I feel like I've let myself down already but also know that I really want to cut down so will carry on with my pledge and not just give up like I have in the past.

I hope all those trying to stay AF tonight do so without a struggle. And for those of us who don't, I hope we can pick ourselves up again and keep plugging away.

Good luck to everyone.

Kind regards
Slowdown

debjay

21/20 for tonight please.

CuppaTea

18/15 pls Shaggy

I'm going to say 17 for September please. 2 more than my usual 15. A small but hopefully manageable increase.

Barny1979

21/24 AFDs today

KingS6

28/TF for me please