MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

sunshine_1988

Walking - do you live near to a hospital? I only ask as on our hospital grounds is a nursery which offer shift pattern places. Its predominantly for the shift workers at the hospital but is open to all.
Not sure if its a common thing but perhaps worth a look?

Continual diamomd - thanks for the link, that is so lovely made me well up too

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Bangton

walking regards the 4 month regression we've started to come out if it around 22 weeks. It showed no sign of let b up and then one night we woke at 1am thinking 'what the hell!!' He's slept through for a week and then we've had some tough nights for the last 3. He is currently being weaned though and I felt that actually was helping him sleep better ( although in my case little one was definitely hungry in the night). The last 3 days I've struggled with his weaning as he's seemingly rejecting veg and only wanting fruit. So it's all been hit and miss tbh and it's defo a coincidence that again he's up in night. Weaning was going fab til then. As bad as it sounds though when he slept through rather than refreshed I felt grim and headachey. As soon as he's had bad nights I feel fine (once I've woken properly! !)

lao_cat

Walking hugs for lo being out of sorts! I found that really working on C naps has made a big difference to how in grumpy he is. It is super hard bit I time outings and errands around his nap times so he naps before hand on the way or on the way back. His wake time on average is between 2-3 hours and I do absolutely anything to make sure he naps so buggy, sling, car seat, rocking or feeding. It can take a combination of all of these at times but it has made such a difference to us. I still struggle with trying not to over schedule our days his wake time is the max time we can be out unless there is a way I can put him to sleep.

As for the nighttime sleep it went to pot around 16 weeks and even now at almost 7 months he can be up every 2 hours so in those nights we cosleep as otherwise I am completely wrecked. I would keep a detailed log of his eating, napping and moods for a few days to figure out what works best for him.

Nutella congrats on having your offer accepted fingers crossed this one goes smoothly for you all

CD what a lovely article sorry you having problems with getting the days you want in work. My work have completely screwed me over and have now promoted my maternity cover over me when I return and didnt even have the guts to tell me. So am furiously job hunting hoping to find something else before I am due to return on the 1st of may

Bangton

I second what laocat says with naps. I'm the same. . Anything to get lo to nap 2hrs after waking from last nap. He's terribly cranky if I go longer but now I can confidentally say he's only crying because he's tired (very occasionally hungry if mummy hasn't watched the time). You may find him easier once his naps get better. I stressed so much over naps but it paid off because touch blumming wood he drops off better than he used to. Having said that I don't think I'll ever have a baby I just pop in cot and let drift off! ! Then again as I'm seeing from meeting other mums babies are so different. .. and ever changing!

Bangton

CD .. love the link. I'll read that at 1am!!!

lazywife

Bangton, I agree with that. If T's had a full night, I feel groggy and he's more full of beans, I like a slightly sleepy baby, so we can both have a nice rest later in the day
Feeling a little low, MIL has just had a chat about T going into nursery and that I have to make sure he progresses and it's soooo expensive. Basically undertones that I should stay at home. I may be a bad mother, but I'm quite looking forward to going back to work 3 days a week. Grrrr can't win.

Lily, sorry to read your news, big hugs. And big hugs for you too Saf, must be a tough weekend for you.

Good luck with the return to work situation cd, hopefully they'll realise they don't want you on a Friday after all.

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continualdiamond

Thanks everyone re my work. I still haven't heard anything from them.

I'm now toying with the idea of going back later.....I caught up with my friend from work on Friday for a coffee, we used to do this every Friday when we finished work so was nice to slip back into an old habit. Anyway she was telling me that my cover has found a new job and starts after Easter, I asked what was happening from Easter until May 1/2 term (that's when I'm due to go back) and she seemed to think they'd just get a supply in. So poor class has a supply TA for 5 weeks and then get me for 7.5 weeks and then the school year has finished.

It just got me thinking about starting a fresh in Sept, new school year, new class and can settle back into work properly. Plus also I'm loving the time with my LO and the thought of going back it just horrible. It would mean 6 weeks without any pay as my SMP ends of the 5th June.....need to decide soon as looked into it and I can change my mind, but not got many weeks left in order to do it as then you're not allowed to change the date.

Yes babies are all different and ever changing. My LO won't drift off on her own, but I do stay persistent in that I put her down, music mobile on and she has a dummy and then I walk out. She cries (no tears I may add) and makes noises like she's telling me off, but I just continue to pop back in, stroke her hand and say shhhh and then walk back out again. I do that a lot and then eventually don't hear a thing from her and she's gone to sleep.

It's probably been about 2 mths now as well that I stopped having her in the same room as me in the daytime for naps. She goes in her cot (still in our bedroom though). Each day is different, today she had 3 naps, all around 20-30mins, where as the other day she had only 1 nap of like 20 mins.

We used to have to lay on our bed next to her cot and stroke her hand or she'd hold our fingers before she'd fall asleep. Trying to get her out of that habit for when she's in her own bedroom as haven't got a chair or anything to be able to sit next to her cot bed in order to let her hold our fingers. So that is why I have been doing what I mentioned above so we can continue it when she goes in her own room.

However what I have just shared will probably be tested as hubby noticed this afternoon that she has her 1st tooth coming through :eek:. She's 5 mths & 9 days old so didn't expect any teeth yet, not started weaning either. Had just assumed the teeth would come once food is introduced. Its at the bottom, you can definitely feel it as had a little feel whilst she was trying to chew my finger and managed to get a little peak of it when she smiled.

Bangton

CD .. Think we are same here with the teething. It's not the first time we've thought he's teething though! He's at the age of gnawing our hands and fingers at moment and yesterday when he had my finger I could definitely feel something right at the front. I've also noticed his gum has a split in it at the front which wasn't there before. We can only catch glimpses as he won't let us near his mouth to look so I haven't seen a tooth and there's no redness. He's not taking bottles well either. Last night he was terrible ..whingy and upset but he's had broken naps since Friday because my neighbour is having work done on her roof and when that stops the phone rings and the postman clatters the letterbox... Or we are out and he's too nosey! Definitely Overtired now!

minimuffin12

Hey guys! Nutella, congrats on the house!! CD, hope you get sorted with your work request. And wow for teeth coming through, ds has no teeth at over 8mths but chews everything in sight. WOAD, you have loads of time for things to settle, and by the time you go back to work lo will be weaning and milk feeds will be getting less etc. It took a while for is to get into a routine but I think we have finally cracked it just as im about to return to work!
lazywife, dont listen to your mil, im kind of looking forward to finding the old me again and seeing my friends at work but also feel an immense amount of guilt at leaving ds.

ds is settling in at nursery this week and my emotions are all over the place, I cant believe this time has come and im mainly worried about him realising im not there, that bit breaks my heart. Its silly really as his gran is minding him 2 days and the nursery is fab so I know he will be well looked after.

*Nutella*

minimuffin12 wrote: »

ds is settling in at nursery this week and my emotions are all over the place, I cant believe this time has come and im mainly worried about him realising im not there, that bit breaks my heart. Its silly really as his gran is minding him 2 days and the nursery is fab so I know he will be well looked after.

It will take a little while for him to get used to being at the nursery, and for you to stop worrying about him. But getting used to it he will, and one day you'll find that instead of reaching for you and crying when you come to pick him up, he runs away and giggles because he's having lots of fun and doesn't want to go home! My LO absolutely loves her nursery, gets to do all sorts of interesting stuff and is learning new things every day.

Oh, and never underestimate the positive side of going back to work. You can drink hot drinks whilst they're still hot, wear clothes that aren't covered in food stains/milk, have adult conversations about stuff other than sleep/poo/weaning/teething and eat your lunch in peace