MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

lao_cat

So sorry to hear your news lily, hope you are being looked after! Glad to hear clover is doing well!

MV lo is gorgeous, zero advice on the naps we are still all over the place here, c is around the same age. He naps roughly every 2-3 hours and his second nap tends to be longer. He mostly sleeps in his buggy though. We are still bf and his night sleep varies between 2 feeds and 4 feeds depending on the night

continualdiamond

Hugs Lily, take care of yourself.

Fingers crossed for you Nutella. This is what I am scared of with selling, not that ours in up for sale yet but plan to have it up soon just to see if we have any interest more than anything.

Right all I need your advice.....I went to visit work today and just so happened my teaching assistant manager was in (phoned yesterday re part time work and she wasn't in). She told me that at the moment it's looking like I'd be working Wed - Fri.

Not ideal at all for me as my childminder doesn't work Fri. I only found 2 childminders that had spaces from June and both didn't work Fri. Other childminders I found were full. Hubby and I prefer a childminder at the moment given LO age.

So now I'm panicking. Even though it's not 100% I'll be working those days it's still made me panic. Do I look for a different childminder completely, or 1 that can her just on the Friday? Do we go against our decision and opt for a nursery?

Hubby is peeved off to put it lightly. Me not so much because they have at least allowed me to return 3 days a week. A lot of staff work part time at my school due to having children and majority of them have the Thurs/Fri off which is what want as well. Hubby clearly over reacted instantly with saying he was annoyed that my work was being so awkard and that he's tempted I just quit (extremely over the top as no way would I quit, I love my job and worked way to hard to just leave it all behind).

Then he mentioned me going back full time and him leaving his job. Of course this was all said over the phone so not been able to sit down and talk properly yet. I haven't signed my letter accepting that my hours will reduce. I got my letter on Saturday telling me they agreed for me to work 3 days a week and then I'm to sign it if I agree.

What would people do? Unfortunately we don't have the option of family helping us out on the Fri as my family are all back in Australia (my mum actually doesn't work Fri, typical), inlaws work full time, hubby is an only child and doesn't see his aunties/uncles.

Just feel I need a back up plan if I am to work Wed - Fri rather than just leave it hoping it goes my way. I'm even tempted to phone work and say if they could give me Fri off I'll happily have any other day off in the week rather than my 2 days together.

katiechoc_2

Sorry to read that Lily, try and take it easy for little bit.

CD I'm probably not best placed to comment as G isn't in childcare of any sort, but I'd say stick with one carer for the whole time, rather than a different one on Fridays, whether its CM or a nursery. I'd think it would mean LO having to adjust twice to two different places, so the transition would be easier if LO only has one place to get used to. IMO anyway. How would you feel about OH being a SAHD? Do you think he meant it?

We had a failed trip to a new rhymetime at our new local library this morning - most things like that we've been to before we moved were quite flexible and kiddos could wander round and have a dance if they didn't want to stay right by mummy. Not here, everyone just got a seat and sat there, and G really doesn't do staying still very well! So we left after 10 minutes and went to the park where he ran around non stop for 40 minutes!

continualdiamond

My thoughts exactly re having to adjust twice to two different places. I'm so keen on her going to the childminder I found as she got outstanding for her ofsted report and as soon as I walked into her house I just felt so comfortable with my LO going to her.

It's why I stopped looking, hoping I'd get Fridays off.

I wouldn't mind OH staying at home. He earns less than me due to being made redundant just after we found out I was pregnant and then took on a minimum wage job. I kinda as silly as it sounds would be disappointed that I put in all the hard work now whilst on my maternity leave to then never spend anytime with her in the week. Really want to carry on what I've started.

Just wish I knew what was happening rather than it being all up in the air. I have contacted the childminder who has at least recommended a childminder for the Friday and a day nursery. Hate it, hate it, hate it. Going to stress me out now.

Gillyx

I'm of the opinion that I don't think 2 different childcare settings would be bad, providing you were comfortable with both and felt they were the right place for your daughter. Maybe one day at nursery and 2 days at childminders would be good, and maybe eventually your c/minder will have a Friday free or is there any way of your OH dropping Friday, you working say tue, thu, fri, and only paying 2 days child care? Or would that not make financial sense?

Crabapple

CD - like you my work agreed to pt but didn't want me to work the times I proposed. I'd been looking at childminders but because work wanted me to work full days instead of the shorter hours I suggested I had to have a total rethink.

I honestly thought a childminder would be best but I was forced into looking at nurseries, and found one I loved in the 2nd place I visited. I think being in nursery has really benefitted my daughter. So much so that she is still going one day a week now that I am on maternity again. Obviously I have no way of knowing how she would be doing if she had been with a childminder, but what I'm saying is don't rule it out even if it isn't your first choice.

I remember the stress of my plans going out of the window and worrying about my little girl so I do sympathise.

I would suggest visiting some nurseries as well as the other childminder suggested and see what you feel. I'm a big believer in gut feeling on this.

I changed jobs last year and my daughter had to move nursery. I visited two the first time and loved one straight away. This time I went to three and was only alright about one of them. On a random suggestion I went to a final one and that was right immediately. You will know what you are comfortable with.

continualdiamond

The childminder I have at the moment no longer works Fridays. I contacted my childminder asking if it was at all possible to have LO Friday, kinda hoping she wouldn't mind just having 1 child to look after but understandably she said she couldn't provide childcare on the Friday.

Hubby currently has Wed off in the week due to working Saturdays. However I don't think they'd let him have Fridays off as what normally happens is everyone has to work Fri, Sat and Mon and then 2 people are off Tues, Wed and Thurs in lieu of working the Sat.

As it stands OH current job is just a job whilst he looks for something better. His mate kindly gave him the job without an interview etc. As it stands we'd send LO to the childminder on a Wed even though hubby has it off as obviously when he gets a new job most have you working Mon - Fri and don't want the hassle of finding childcare again for the Wed if we opted come June for LO to be at home with OH.

I'm lucky in the sense that current childminder is not charging me for school holidays. So 13 weeks a year I have no childcare costs. At the moment I'm more leaning towards sending LO to a nursery on the Friday, I know I'd be paying for a place so would get charged for the whole year. However when I am on school holidays it wouldn't be so bad to send her to nursery every Friday so I get sometime to myself as well as her still socialising with other children.

Sparkles87

Your LO is gorgeous MV! Lilymay, I remember you from the PG board and yes Becca checked in recently

vic3

Oh lily, I'm sorry. Big hugs. Really glad clover is doing well. Xx

*Nutella*

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Can I just ask following on from veggie thing. Did you ever give your lo follow on milk? I'm reading conflicting things but some sites have suggested it's good for non meat eaters because it's iron rich. Plus let me be honest. .. Id earn advantage card points if I bought that over first milk once he hits 6 months!!

We never did - personally, I think it's a marketing con! I've also heard stories about babies getting constipated from the additional iron that it contains. I give my LO Wellkid multivitamins, which contains 30% of her RDA of iron, plus other vitamins and minerals - might be worth considering? She loves the taste of it!