MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

Bangton

continualdiamond wrote: »

Bangton you must be my twin, lol.

I as well have no one other than my OH to look after LO, well in the week that is. Weeks ago I mentioned to my OH that we could do with some time together and just go out for something to eat and could he see if his parents would baby sit on Sunday (yesterday). They're the only people we have. He never got round to asking them (I'm not that close to them so don't feel comfortable asking) which resulted in me having a melt down.

OH suggested we go out later in the afternoon to get some fitted mattress covers for LO bed. My 1st thought was 'gosh everything I do is related to LO, never anything just for me' and then last night I broke down and had a really good crying telling OH how I felt.

I've had an okay day with LO today, decided to go for a nice walk about 11am and !!!!d walking in the crisp weather with the sun shinning. However I've had my moments saying to her 'just give me 5 mins to myself, let me finish my drink', lol. I have to say these thoughts out aloud sometimes as weirdly enough it just makes me feel better.

Well done Kerri. The 1st time without my OH I didn't make it into the lounge until the afternoon.

Sorry your feeling same cd. Two weeks ago we seemed to be forming a routine which was great as I knew lo would go down in his pram for a nap and I'd get 2hrs to myself but suddenly we are back to napping on me and only me. He's 16 weeks on Thursday. I thought he'd fall into a routine by now. .. Then because he hasnt I blame myself. He does sleep well at night I guess but even then I go to bed unsure if he'll wake in 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8 hrs or even sleep through for 10. If he'll wake for 1,2 or 3 feeds and what time he will get up in morning. I can sort of cope with that but on days when I'm just so tired and he's paddying within an hour of waking I could bawl my eyes out. I haven't felt like this for weeks but suddenly I feel trapped and all the help I had/visitors when he was born have tapered off so it's just me and lo alone all week waiting on tenterhooks to see if we'll get a text from mum, sister or sil to go out for lunch (they all work part time). I know that sounds pathetic. I wanted to go to baby clubs but we only have one car that oh uses for work and nearest club is 40 minutes away on foot. .. and starts at 9.30 so I never make it. so sorry for being woe is me

*Nutella*

Morning ladies

Thanks so much for all your lovely messages re. moving home - much appreciated

It's all systems go here - we accepted an offer on our flat yesterday (£10k above the asking price!), sent off all the paperwork to the solicitors and have our second meeting with the mortgage advisor tomorrow to finalise the finance side of thing. Really, really hope it all works out - the new place is fab Close to shops as well as woodlands, good schools, several train stations and bus routes nearby, and LO can stay at the same nursery until she starts school, as there's a direct train.

Her new favourite expression is 'oh dear!' - she says it approx. 1000 times a day

Lao, glad you like the footmuff

BabaMoose, I think my LO has nightmares - ever since she was tiny she's been waking up in the middle of the night screaming her little head off, and it's really difficult to settle her again - only lots of cuddles will do. She too wimpers in her sleep.

Vic, hope jabs went well.

Sunshine, I'm very impressed with your healthy living efforts - I seem to have gone backwards and have been eating crap again

Hope everyone else is well - I've read back, but my brain has limited capacity at the moment I think! x

Gillyx

Afternoon all. I'd be lying if I said I'd read back but I'll try remember as much as I can.

Nutella Congratulations on the house, that's brilliant news, you will be very happy. I hope the move goes smoothly for you all.

Sunshine We have no immediate plans for #2. A - it'd cost us a lot. B - We don't have the space atm and C - We're having fun just A and I, and I'm not quite ready to upset that balance, we had a turbulent time from 12-20m and I'm not naive to believe we're out of the woods yet, not with the terrible 2's looming.

Amyloofoo How is feeding going now? I can't remember if it was mastitis or thrush but I hope it's cleared up xx

AFM, one week until A's 2nd birthday, eeeek! Having a little party for him on Sunday. He is getting a toy kitchen, which I think he will adore as he is always asking for pots, plates and spoons and making 'din dins' for us all, so excited to see his little face when he gets it. Nothing exciting happening here. Still house hunting which is just turning into a nightmare, nothing cropping up atm and anything that does just seems to go so quickly Maybe I'm just fussy?

katiechoc_2

Wow Nutella £10k over the asking is amazing! Hope your solicitors are quicker than ours *grumble grumble* I've started emailing ours every morning. I figure if I annoy her enough she might annoy the other solicitors too and get everyone so sick of us they do it super quick!

Sorry to hear you're feeling low Bangton and CD. Its hard when you don't have anyone around to meet during the day just to get out of the house. Bangton do you have a library nearer to you? Ours do a couple of things a week for LOs, rhymetime, storytimes etc. Maybe worth a try? I was very lucky with the local meet a mum section on netmums, met one mum through it when G was 9 weeks old and have a good few mums I met through her and still see regularly now.

vic3

Thanks for the wishes oscar and Nutella. The jabs went as well as can be expected. Thomas cried like mad but calmed after cuddles. I've given him a dose of calpol which has stopped the grumpy crying we had in the few hours after xx

continualdiamond

Afternoon all.

Wow 10k over the asking price....I'd love that if that could happen for us. We're also in a flat, but when we had it valued last year before I had LO just to see it was worth less than what we paid. We're thinking of putting it up for sale March time as I have my parents & sister over for all of February.

Cannot wait to see them as haven't seen them since Aug 2011 and of course they haven't met my LO yet. Though at the same time dreading it as of course February will be fab but then when they go home it will be back to having no family.

I think my LO has nightmares in the day, as she can be sound asleep and then all of a sudden opens her eyes really wide and stretches her arms out and looks around and then calms down as if its like 'phew I am safe' kinda thing.

re babysitters, I wouldn't know who to ask really. I have some nice nct friends but would feel bad expecting them to suddenly look after 2 babies. My parents have already said that when they visit they want to look after LO so my hubby and I can go out so that will be nice.

My inlaws aren't horrible by any means but whilst in the beginning it was over the top inviting us around it's now back to normal where we don't see them for weeks on end. Maybe I'm being harsh but just sorta thought they'd offer to babysit occassionally. Only time my mother in has was the 21st December when it was my husbands work do, even then my father in law backed out as he was too nervous.

Anyway, moving on. Has anyone done tinytalk? NCT friend goes and I've looked into it, thinking of starting in March. Its a 30 min class with then 30 min of time for mums to chat, have a drink and choccie biscuit. Again thinking it might be easier to make friends this way as already you have something in common. Like I said with doing the baby yoga I am more comfortable around the other mums.

Katie - I'm goint to have to check out netmums now, thanks for sharing.

Mrshaworth2b

Hi continual, we don't have that company doing classes near me but we have a company called talkfirst. I went to my first class in Friday and it was so fun! We did lots of singing and signs and everyone seemed really nice. It was actually the first thing me and lo have done together and I had so much fun

kerri_dfw

I'm another that thinks LO has bad dreams, probably sbout nappy changes as she hates them. She now makes noises in her sleep too.
We've been discharged from the midwife today, LO now weighs 7lb 7oz at 10 days old, mw hinted I could feed her less often. ..I thought breast fed babies should be fed on demand? Accidentally dinged my car on the way to the doctors, then left my purse in mw office, not the best of days. Although I have 100 free nappies after yodel messed up my amazon order yesterday. Not sure we'll use them all if she keeps gaining weight as she'll be in the reusables at 8lb.

Oscar_the_Pug

Hi Kerri! Good work on getting discharged, but yes it's still feeding on demand, and most mums I know who bf felt that there are often days when you feel that you have done nothing but feed! I also know that my LO was going through 10 to 12 nappies a day in the first few weeks so you may get to use them all!

Afm, LO has put on 14oz in 2 weeks and is following a line just over the 9th centile really well so I am a lot happier.

vic3

Hi kerri, I breast feed on demand. Little one put on 10oz last week!