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*Nutella*

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Hope you and LO are well. Sounds like your sleeping has massively improved.

We're good thanks, and yes her sleeping has (finally!) improved loads. She's slept all night in her own bed every night for almost a month now I feel so much better and no longer need daytime naps - I get a proper night's deep sleep and have even started having dreams again. We still get up early, but I can cope with that when I've had a good chunk of sleep. Having said that, the current 5am-ish wakeups (today it was 5.35!) is soooo much better than 4am!

How are things with you? Sleep any better? Hope you're having a nice day off

sunshine_1988

*Nutella* wrote: »

We're good thanks, and yes her sleeping has (finally!) improved loads. She's slept all night in her own bed every night for almost a month now I feel so much better and no longer need daytime naps - I get a proper night's deep sleep and have even started having dreams again. We still get up early, but I can cope with that when I've had a good chunk of sleep. Having said that, the current 5am-ish wakeups (today it was 5.35!) is soooo much better than 4am!

How are things with you? Sleep any better? Hope you're having a nice day off

Oh fab, you are definately due a few good sleeps after almost 2 and a half years!!

Our sleep is great too, its been about 7-8 months now. He goes down at 7 and wakes anywhere between 530-730. On nursery days its usually 545ish which is fine with me as I am up anyway, sometimes at weekends he doesnt wake till 715 which is amazing!! Occasionally he has a rough night but it is usually due to something brewing like a cold or back teeth.

Have you moved to your new house yet?

Lovely day off, I really cherish my nwd with him. We had my sister and her 2 round for a picnic and just about to pop to tesco for nappies. Potty training is not happening here yet

On another note, seriously need to lose some weight, my jeans are feeling very snug!!

busyladee

Hi all, I'm new to this thread and have a wonderful 4 week old baby boy. I am having issues with the MIL passing opinions on how long he should be sleeping during the night (3 hours apparently isn't long enough for a breast fed baby) and just generally makes me feel like I am doing a rubbish job because she would do it differently

He is my first child and her first grandchild. I'm struggling to bite my tongue and dread to think what I would say if I let it all out! How have you dealt with interfering MIL without causing problems? Thanks

BeNiceToMySelf

hi busy

congratulations!

I think most people have issues with everyone giving opinions on their parenting especially grandparents! 3 hours sleep seems a decent enough interval especially for a breastfed baby who needs to feed frequently to keep mum's milk supply up. At 4 weeks baby's tummy is still pretty small. kellymom.com is a great website to find out more about breastfeeding if you feel you want more back up about it. To be fair, lots of formula fed babies wake up in the night too!

As for how to deal with unwanted opinions and advice, I tend to smile sweetly (perhaps say 'that's interesting') and carry on doing what I think is best! I have to spend the most time with baby so I have to deal with the consequences of parenting choices the most so I figure what I say goes!


Nutella big thumbs up for LO sleeping better

Sunshine sounds like you do really well for sleep. Mine goes to bed about 10 and wakes at 7. I'm hoping he'll be so tired when he goes to nursery (6 weeks to go!) that he'll magically go to bed at 7.

Saffa hope your night out goes well tonight x

turtlemoose Alton towers sounds great. I think we'll take littlie when he's about 2 'cos he loves In the Night Garden.

hi lazywife and dizziblonde and Freebie and MrsH:)

Delain glad the chickenpox has gone

Bangton I hope the little boy with meningitis is ok

Bangton

congrats busy! I used to get annoyed with comments too but I think you slowly just toughen up. As a new mum it's hard as people always like to share their opinions. I was amazed how rude people could be as I'd never dream of making comments about someone's parenting skills.

3hrs is great too!I have friends who bf and were up almost every hour! In fact what helped me was talking to lots of mums and finding out that none of us get sleep. .bf or ff!!

Nutella - that is fantastic! !! I'm so pleased your getting more sleep. The gro clock sounds fab!

afm - lo did his first full day at nursery (9hrs) and wasn't even phased! I'm so glad but whereas my OH and family members have a giddy/excited boy when he sees them I didn't get anything! He just crawled off! feel a bit wounded. so he's not struggling with nursery but I'm struggling!!

We found out the little boy with meningitis has meningococcal meningitis but. luckily he's on the mend. my lo didn't need antibiotics as it was only those exposed to him for 8hrs. poor fella but he should be ok which is fab news!
Have a good weekend all xx

SmlSave

busyladee wrote: »

Hi all, I'm new to this thread and have a wonderful 4 week old baby boy. I am having issues with the MIL passing opinions on how long he should be sleeping during the night (3 hours apparently isn't long enough for a breast fed baby) and just generally makes me feel like I am doing a rubbish job because she would do it differently

He is my first child and her first grandchild. I'm struggling to bite my tongue and dread to think what I would say if I let it all out! How have you dealt with interfering MIL without causing problems? Thanks

You are doing wonderfully hun. Just smile, nod then moan at DH when you get home. I have found no way of stopping my MIL of offering her unwanted, unhelpful and sometimes just plain wrong advice. Ignore anything that makes you feel like your milk isn't enough, that your not feeding right etc. See if there's a breastfeeding group near you/on Facebook for support - mine is a life saver some days.

3 hrs for a new born is wonderful too.

My MIL would have me .....
Formula feed
Not let them sleep on me
Let them CIO
Feed them mush at 4 months
Etc....

She totally does not like blw and thinks that if I'd just feed baby a bit more(properly) they'd sleep through :eek: Arrgh :mad:

Ohhhh and the recent comment that the toddler doesn't eat well and then I see her feeding him sweets 20 mins before dinner.............if I see her doing it again I'm going to shove a snickers down her throat and then expect her to eat a full meal.



And I'm done.

Any other MIL moans out there?

Crabapple

Many congratulations busyladee!

Your baby is doing wonderfully, and there is nothing wrong with 3 hours. MIL comments are sometimes far from helpful! I've no idea what she thinks you could even do to make him sleep longer!

Try and remember that the newborn days fade in the memory fast (just ask those of us who have 2 or more) and you forget how little they can sleep! It's important for them to feed during the night as well, especially so early when they are still building supplies. She may also be from the era when 4 hour feeds were impressed on everyone as vitally important (based on no research frankly) and babies were left to cry in between because they couldn't possibly be hungry any earlier.

Try telling her you've spoken to the midwife or HV and they have said it's perfectly fine and really good that he is feeding regularly (don't bother actually asking one, it's just that people take it better if they think it's from a health professional).

I'm sorry, but I'm a lucky one with a MIL who doesn't stick her oar in:rotfl:She's a bit mad, and listening to her with the kids being silly can drive me a bit nuts, but my toddler loves it!

busyladee

Thanks everyone for your replies, it just winds me up and hate feeling like she's judging me all the time. Best practice my through gritted teeth smile! It's nice to know I'm not on my own

Saffagal

Afternoon ladies

hope that you're all having a lovely weekend and babies are sleeping nicely

Welcome busyladee and congratulations on your little one Someone once told me that there are lots of books on babies, opinions on babies and advice about babies however, your baby hasn't read any of the books and you know your baby better than anyone, so do what is right for you and your baby.
Practice your sweet, agreement smile, and then carry on regardless as you were.

I had my first night out without A last night and had a lovely time with the girls (a group I've met through baby group). It was really good to feel like me rather than just A's mom

take care ladies x

dizziblonde

Can't offer much advice on dealing with MILs - the relationship between mine and me has all but completely broken down over the way she's gone on since the girls were born (telling them they could fling sand freely after I'd spent months getting them to use their sandpit safely was the final straw - the woman just opens her gob and disengages her brain). I just smile and keep contact to a reduced level till she remembers I'M the kids' mother and not just a uterus on legs - looks like SIL is lining up for having her second which will mean we're all but forgotten again and I'll get some peace though!

Just been up to my folks for a few days since the toilet broke and I just got the kids out of the ensuing chaos while it was all fixed - they've had a whale of a time and I must have picked up about £200s worth of toys from the really good charity shop up there so I'm now having a mega toy clearout - relative's just had a baby so going to see what she wants of the baby-aged toy stuff. Found a toy hoover in there which I'm hoping will help get Erin over her utter terror of ours a bit (she starts shaking in fear if she sees it)

Bobbi's started to talk as well - I sense I'm going to need earplugs soon when the pair of 'em get going at it.