MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

sunshine_1988

katiechoc wrote: »

G def gets the naughty step, we've done timeouts for a while - before we moved he went in his cot but now we've got actual stairs we do the step. For most things he gets a warning ie "stop doing x please George" then a count to 3 "stop doing that now please George... I'll count to 3 then you'll have a timeout on the naughty step" Most times thats all it takes and he stops. If he does go on the step after the time is up he gets called over and I explain what he did and why he should/n't do whatever it was, and to apologise (kiss, as he can't say sorry yet). Somethings he goes straight on with no warning - he's really pushing his luck with the dog at the moment, deliberately riding his trike right at him, pushing cars really hard into him and that gets him straight on the step, no messing.

I've thought we're maybe a bit strict on him, but tbh I've spoken to other mums who have real problems with discipline and so many people tell me how good G is at doing what he's told and sharing etc that I think really we're doing ok.

G very rarely bites now although he's got me a couple of times recently, he used to be bad for it when he was overexcited like A. We've always naughtystepped him for it - as much because he needs the time out to calm down, if I tried to hold him to calm him he'd just get worse. And I always say you mustn't bite, it hurts mummy and makes me sad or something along those lines.

Bit of an essay, sorry

Cheers lovey Im going to monitor it and if he keeps doing it I may change our tactics. Def might try naughty step for other issues though!

Hope your new house is coming on nicely? We have been here six months now and it feels like 5 mins! X

Bangton

mummies of boys - would you dress your little one in tights? I've found a website called slugs and snails that makes tights in 'boy' designs. I think they'd be great in cold weather - no socks to pull off or trouser legs to ride up. But. ... They're tights!

WalkingOnADream

Bangton I probably would put them on my lo. While the weather has been nice I haven't bothered putting pants on him at all as I imagine it's nicer to feel more free. When he does wear pants I tend to buy either (boys) legging style or tracksuit style pants but I don't really like dressing him in tracksuit pants. I use cloth nappies so him bum is huge and I have trouble getting pants that are roomy enough and comfortable so I think tights would solve my problem! I don't bother putting socks on anymore as he just pulls them off all the time but I worry about him getting cold feet in winter.

I've seen boys tights on the high street somewhere, think it might be next?

I was recently looking at buying baby leg warmers so his legs can stay warm without me having to battle putting pants back on after a nappy change and to protect his little knees which are looking very sore as he fails at learning to crawl.

fran-o

Thanks for adding me to the lists

I'd put baby in tights if I liked them but I might have to convince hubby! We had a few pairs of trousers with feet like this http://www.mothercare.com/Mothercare-My-First-Velour-Jogger---Blue/LU0952,default,pd.html which were great in springtime. Not a great choice in the shops though...

*Nutella*

Re. naughty step - works well here too. She hates sitting on it, so most of the time even the threat of having to sit there is enough to get her to behave. No warnings for biting and hitting though - she goes on the step immediately, although I've only had to do that twice.

SmlSave

The leg warmers with a cloth nappy are great WOAD I think they look adorable too but DH wasn't so sure...

I got the cow and gate weaning book through my door the other day. As a blw'er reading their advice that babies should only be given puree to start with made me grumpy all day. I know they want to sell their stuff but a nervous mum with no help or other advice would just take it as gospel.

Made me think of my friend who mentioned on fb that her over 1 year old son was trying peanut butter for the first time and someone told her not to! Idiot scaremongering imo, you might just as well not let them outside in case a bee stings them or let them breath air because there might be pollutants....Grrr

Bangton

WalkingOnADream wrote: »

Bangton I probably would put them on my lo. While the weather has been nice I haven't bothered putting pants on him at all as I imagine it's nicer to feel more free. When he does wear pants I tend to buy either (boys) legging style or tracksuit style pants but I don't really like dressing him in tracksuit pants. I use cloth nappies so him bum is huge and I have trouble getting pants that are roomy enough and comfortable so I think tights would solve my problem! I don't bother putting socks on anymore as he just pulls them off all the time but I worry about him getting cold feet in winter.

I've seen boys tights on the high street somewhere, think it might be next?

I was recently looking at buying baby leg warmers so his legs can stay warm without me having to battle putting pants back on after a nappy change and to protect his little knees which are looking very sore as he fails at learning to crawl.

next and h&m sell them but next sell out really quickly as I've kept my eye out since lo was a small baby (he didn't seem as boyish then though - now we've naturally gravitated towards 'little men' clothes iykwim. like things that if they were bigger would be fine on a man! )

tights is a big style change for us but I never intended to dress him like we do. It just seems to suit him more than baby things like dungarees.

We usually do tracksuit bottoms but I rarely like how they fit him. I always go for a tapered/skinny sort of style as he's big but not fat so I have to get big sizes. . namely to cover his legs but normal fit then bag at his bum and make him look wide!

I've ordered some tights at hm but they are plain grey/navy so look like they could just be girls tights. I can always try a pair I guess.

frano - I was going to get them!!! I could only find pale blue and white. wish they did more colours in a jersey material!!

Bangton

oh my hv came today too. She was nice enough but was dismayed to learn lo has a mainly veggie diet (as do I ). She said he needs orange juice with meals now and that he should only be having a morning/night bottle at 9 months old. eek!! Also he can have peanut butter which my previous hv said no to.

Oh and my fire isn't safe enough. aside from that all ok. and WOAD he was eating a sandwich when she arrived! ! It's fine! !

WalkingOnADream

Fran-o I had those when lo was little and loved them but it's a shame they only do the basic colours and I couldn't find anything similar anywhere else bar the odd outfit, usually the Disney themed ones.

SmlSave wrote: »

The leg warmers with a cloth nappy are great WOAD I think they look adorable too but DH wasn't so sure...

I keep meaning to buy them but haven't got around to it yet. They look so convenient, especially whilst we're having up to 10 nappy changes a day.

Bangton I know what you mean about getting tight trousers, the leggings I usually buy are practically like tights as they're very fitted. I have to put lo in bigger sized clothes to fit over his nappy so they don't fit properly except around the bum. I know this is ridiculous but I prefer lo in fitted clothes so he doesn't look fat. People are forever commenting on how huge he is and it's really starting to bother me. He's only just above 50% for weight but is really long and he isn't a chubby baby at all, only his thighs are chubby like with all babies but we constantly get comments about how people can't believe the size of him and he's much bigger than what babies normally are at 8 months!

Oh my hv came too, she was lovely and said lo should definitely have started normal food by now. So I explained to her about the dr and she said to ignore her as I shouldn't be mashing his food if he can handle it and to continue feeding him what I have been and keep encouraging self feeding. So I felt a lot better about that. She said the mums worries are normally the other way around as she comes across lots of babies who refuse to eat anything with lumps so it's great that lo has no issues with it.

All this talk of the naughty step is making me nervous as I know toddler-dom is just around the corner but I'm in denial that my baby is growing up

WalkingOnADream

katiechoc wrote: »

WOAD I'd be inclined to ask for a different doc and possibly put in a complaint tbh. I don't suppose you went to a weaning workshop at your local surestart? Where I was living when G was that age they were all about blw, and as far as I'm aware they are in most areas these days.

Sorry I missed this. I've never had a problem with that dr before but I know when it comes to babies some people have very strong beliefs! I'll just avoid seeing her again, the annoying this is she is the only female dr at the surgery, the male drs all seem to have less if a clue when it comes to babies.

I didn't go to a weaning workshop, infact it hadn't even crossed my mind. My hv came out at around 4 months to discuss weaning but at that point said she wasn't allowed to comment on blw so just gave me some leaflets on traditional weaning and left. I'm guessing the nhs advice has changed in the meantime. All the people I've come across in baby groups are doing blw so it definitely seems more popular now.