MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

Crabapple

I call my 2.5 year old daughter a toddler. But strangely my 19 week old boy is usually referred to as 'little man'!

And they will still be our babies when they are 50!!

janninew

WOAD,

Oh that is really awful, I feel for you and know I would be worrying like you. In my (vast) experience with GP's they often aren't very good with babies and their many problems, we are lucky to see our Consultant Paediatrician every month and he is much more relaxed about things that our GP appears to stress about. Our little girl is very small, not even on the centile charts, GP acts like we are starving her, Consultant is perfectly happy and I always leave him feeling reassured. I would be getting a second opinion, see if your surgery has a GP with more experience with babies.

Please try not to worry, easier said than done i know. x

Bangton

gosh WOAD your doctor sounds like mine before I moved surgeries - a total ar5e!!

I give my son sandwiches. usually on a Saturday when we eat out. I don't see the problem. I use wholemeal bread and something like banana or avocado/bean spread/salmon spread (homemade from the blw recipe book). I think it's perfectly healthy especially with a few veg sticks.

The only thing is the salt in the bread so it's not a everyday thing. perhaps she thought it was everyday? Although more fool her for jumping the gun! !

I feed milk on demand too although this is getting less and less as he becomes more adept at eating. Since I posted about sleeping through he's stopped his night bottle for the moment but including that he was having 3 7oz bottles and a couple of 3/4 oz bottles.

Having said that feeding at our house is quite varied. Sometimes he'll have an extra bottle or skip one. Sometimes he will only feed himself/other times he's happy to be spoon fed a lumpy puree (by puree I'm talking soup/stew/tagine/curry/porridge - not just fruit/veg. It's still lumpy though. I don't use a blender like I used to when he was first weaned. I try to make food with pieces he can manage so I don't have to do anything with it).

I know it's upsetting and I'd struggle to get over it but I've had many a harsh doctor in my time. I think some are just like that. To me, the end result with weaning is teaching your child how to eat - different textures/shapes/colours. 'purees' have their place but so does allowing your baby to eat more solid foods. At the end of the day veg is veg whether you puree it or give it whole.

In my area HVs do their pre one year check at 8 months. mine is on Thursday - the day my son turns 9 months but is been rescheduled twice. I wouldn't worry though. . even if it was because of the doctor I think she'll have more knowledge on blw and is more likely to be supportive.

Your post reminds me why I have to be really ill before I see a doctor! !!

delain

Sammie_03 wrote: »

Ahh thanks, I can see so many positives now so worrying a lot less about the future and enjoying watching him grow.

We are off to Spain at the end of July. Looking forward to it.
How's Aiden getting on? I can't believe they are nearly 2 1/2, :eek: are they even classed as toddlers anymore or just small men?

I can't believe little miss is 2 1/2 either! Scary stuff :eek:

WalkingOnADream

Thanks for all your reassurances! I know I was probably overreacting but it really bothered me for some reason.

I did try explaining I make him baby sized portions of food in manageable sizes for him to handle and he also has fruit/veg - infact his favourite food is roasted veg. However she was insistent that he was far too young for any 'solid' food and should only have mushed food. I also tried to explain that he refuses baby food anyway, this didn't go down well either, I think she was of the opinion I should force him rather than give him a choice. But you know when someone won't listen to you and just goes on about what they think you should be doing?

Re keeping a food diary, I have always tracked lo's habits on my phone and carried on when we started weaning so I already kind of have one. He hadn't had any new foods before he became ill as he's always had bread etc in some form.

Originally it was thought he had a viral infection as he displayed other symptoms and was generally unwell but it doesn't seem to have ended although he appears slightly better in himself. He went off food which is unlike him and even his milk was literally going straight through him (sorry!)

I'm hoping it ends soon as it feels like I'm constantly changing his nappy and that's a fight in itself with him squirming away, or promptly removing it and waving it above his head!

Re sleeping through, lo is totally unpredictable, he's been awful whilst he's been ill and some nights has only had a few hours, others it's taken hours to settle him but then he'd sleep a 4/5 hour block and other nights he's needed a feed. However he's also a bit like this when not unwell, some nights he will be down for 12 hours without making a sound. Generally he doesn't feed in the night but some nights he won't settle back down without a bottle. I struggle with it being so unpredictable because I never know when I need to have an early night but what can you do.

Re baby proofing. I'm not planning on doing much, just moving obstacles out the way, putting those plug protectors on and getting another safety gate to stop him getting out the living room. There's already a gate on his bedroom so these 2 gates will prevent him from getting to the stairs. Also we already have safety locks on kitchen cupboards from previous owners.

Some people seem to insist that we completely remove everything from the room so he can have run of the full room, yes that includes the dining table!!! Apparently we should put it in another room out of the way. In my opinion, I think it's best to leave things as they are as they are going to grow up around that environment anyway, obviously you should move anything dangerous. Lo has a big space on the floor to play on but much prefers to use the sofa/coffee table/cupboard to try and stand up and I'm not going to remove all furniture!

Lo has progressed so much but I find that he tends to do one skill over and over for days then when he learns a new one he stops the old one. He used to babble loads and roll onto him back when put on his front but doesn't really do this much anymore. Instead he tries (and mostly fails) to get onto his hands and knees from sitting, but can go from hands and knees back to sitting? Pulls himself up and generally throws himself around with no concept of danger. He's still not crawling but seems to be able to get around on his front somehow, kind of shuffling on his belly, it's funny to watch.

dizziblonde

Sammie_03 wrote: »

Hi Nutella,

Noah loves drawing so I will look into the pens you recommended, thanks. We do have a travel aqua draw so will take that too.

Noah is doing really well thanks, still no speech or babble but he is learning to communicate through makaton. His favourite sign is 'more'! Typical! :cool:
He starts preschool in September which is exciting and scary all in one, I'm sure he will be fine but because he can't communicate I worry. Everybody is pleased with his progress though which is great and very reassuring.

Thanks for asking after him.

Round here every single pre-school, children's centre and nursery that gets LEA funding has to use Makaton to support spoken English - it's the official county policy.

Erin is REALLY good at Makaton - I'd like to claim it's my awesome parenting - but in reality it's Mr Tumble.

Baby proofing - I think it varies but if you've got a climber like I do... everything that's not nailed down gets moved - Robyn can go up the coffee table, across the fire guard and onto the mantlepiece in the blink of an eye... and she's only 15 months old (with absolutely no fear or sense whatsoever) - Erin wasn't even walking at that point! I'd suggest drawer locks in the bedroom as well - otherwise if you get that phase of emptying everything out being fun you'll lose the will to live putting every single item of clothing back in every single day. For some reason at the moment Erin has a grudge against pillowcases and will remove her pillow from them every single night.

They start trying to chase you for the 1 year check here around the 9 month mark - nearer 1 year when ours actually got done (I deferred Erin's cos at 9 months she was nowhere near hitting any milestones), then again at bang-on 2 years - they're a lot less flexible with the timing of that one.

katiechoc_2

WOAD I'd be inclined to ask for a different doc and possibly put in a complaint tbh. I don't suppose you went to a weaning workshop at your local surestart? Where I was living when G was that age they were all about blw, and as far as I'm aware they are in most areas these days.

Re baby proofing I started trying to move everything but OH pointed out that he'll never learn unless he's told "no" sometimes - stuff that is genuinely precious or dangerous is moved but they have to start learning their boundaries somewhere, and its easier to get 'em while they're young! Although somewhere along the line G has decided its fine to roll his huge noisy fire engine directly into the dog when he's trying to sleep. Our naughty step is getting alot of use at the moment!

Hi Sammie! Glad to hear Noah is doing well I drove past my local Kiddicare the other day (we've moved North now) and thought about you guys and when we met at Southampton (and didn't get any freebies grrrr )

*Nutella*

OH: 'hmmm, tennis or football.... what shall we watch?'

LO: 'Peppa Pig!'

sunshine_1988

Spain sounds lovely Sammie, have an amazing time.

Katie, does G underatand the concept of naughty step? Ive thought about it for A, there have been a couple of occasions where he refuses to say sorry....although on the whole we are fairly lucky he is easily distracted.

One thing though, in the last three weeks he has bit twice. Not in a naughty way though, its always when we are playing and he gets too excited and goes to bite, like he doesnt know what to do he is that excited. I mentioned it to the hv on Monday as we had our 2yr check, she said not to make an issue of it and move on as he is t doing it in a naughty way, which we are happy to do. Has anyone else experienced an over excited biter?!

X

katiechoc_2

G def gets the naughty step, we've done timeouts for a while - before we moved he went in his cot but now we've got actual stairs we do the step. For most things he gets a warning ie "stop doing x please George" then a count to 3 "stop doing that now please George... I'll count to 3 then you'll have a timeout on the naughty step" Most times thats all it takes and he stops. If he does go on the step after the time is up he gets called over and I explain what he did and why he should/n't do whatever it was, and to apologise (kiss, as he can't say sorry yet). Somethings he goes straight on with no warning - he's really pushing his luck with the dog at the moment, deliberately riding his trike right at him, pushing cars really hard into him and that gets him straight on the step, no messing.

I've thought we're maybe a bit strict on him, but tbh I've spoken to other mums who have real problems with discipline and so many people tell me how good G is at doing what he's told and sharing etc that I think really we're doing ok.

G very rarely bites now although he's got me a couple of times recently, he used to be bad for it when he was overexcited like A. We've always naughtystepped him for it - as much because he needs the time out to calm down, if I tried to hold him to calm him he'd just get worse. And I always say you mustn't bite, it hurts mummy and makes me sad or something along those lines.

Bit of an essay, sorry