MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 3

delain

I love that, Nutella!! That's pretty much how I felt this morning when I had to drag myself out of bed for the third time in 7 hours... Surely this isn't meant to be still happening when you have two toddlers?!

Monday is my mental day, and I'm already pretty sick of it.

Little miss is at pre school now, have bought Squeak home in the buggy, she's asleep atm but I've got to leave again in an hour, and loads to do before then *sigh* and it's not going to stop until 8.30pm... assuming that it stops then and there are no wake ups tonight. Ha! I should be so lucky.

Sorry for that slightly whingy post. I feel better for getting it out though!

Bangton

Delain.. hope your Monday wasn't too bad in the end!!

I had a great day yest. Went to see my mum and LO was such a little star smiling and giggling all day.
He adores my sister who was also there and it was so nice to see him babbling away to her. Mum can't lift him after her op so he kept looking quizzically at her!

Then OH came home and ruined a great day. Out of nowhere he started an argument and sloped off to bed at 7. Tbh and I don't mean to vent on here - we are not getting on at all much anymore. He thinks it's me and I think it's him!

I take back what I said on mothers day though. I did get a card and I did get taken for coffee and donuts so he was just pretending to be an !!!!!!

lao_cat

Bangton tbh I think that lo test the strongest of relationships, we and DH have had some issues since C was born, I think sleep deprivation and the change in roles takes its toll. Mostly we argue when we have had A rough couple of weeks and I have to say I def struggle with having lost my own income as it feels like our joint budget is based on his priorities. We are working on communicating better but it's tough going x x x

delain

Bangton my OH and I have had a fair few issues as well, Lao_cat is right, having children is a huge strain on any relationship.

I got woken up last night to:

'Mummy, mummy I weed in my bed' :eek: this was Squeak (She's 3, for those not knowing!) so there's me getting all clean bedding and stuff out and it's literally only damp knickers, but she was so upset she'd even done that I ended up changing the bed anyway as she just cried when I told her it didn't need changing!

Between her and little miss I honestly can't remember the last time I had a whole uninterrupted night's sleep... I'm just going through the motions in a horrible tired foggy sort of way atm

Little miss had an epic sleep today, bt I don't feel like I can have a sleep even though I'm knackered because OH will undoubtedly walk in and make some sort of comment about no housework getting done because I'm lazy, and never mind the fact that he never EVER gets woken up in the night :mad: :mad:

This morning he actually laughed when I was trying to explain how I was struggling with getting no sleep... Tonight I might have one of his piriton tablets. They knock me out for about 13 hours, there'll be no chance of me getting up then, and he'll HAVE to do it!

Bangton

Thanks Delain and lao-cat. I keep telling myself it's just the big change to our lives. We've had issues in the past (together 13 years) but not for a long long time and I'd forgotten what a wicked tongue he can have!!

Aww delain huge hugs. I find myself getting so worked up at men who think we're sat home all day with our feet up. Luckily that's not really it with OH as he took 8 weeks off when LO was newborn and did alot of his care whilst I was ill. He doesn't get up much in night now though and I find it annoying when he repeats how many hours he's doing at work. Tbh I could go to work on the levels of sleep I'm having so I can't empathise!

Not sure what it is really. I guess I do neglect him sometimes in favour of LO and I get irritated with him having the telly on all the time!

Anyway in other news my little boy has started to play with his bits when he's in the bath or his nappy comes off. Sure it's normal but he pulls so hard. Last night we laughed so hard lo cried from the shock of all the noise we were making!

*Nutella*

I agree that having a baby can affect your relationship - OH and I have probably argued more in the last two years than in the previous 13 years put together. It's such a shock to the system and life as you know it, and sleep deprivation means that pointless little things get blown out of all proportion. I can't really offer any advice, but I do empathise and it does get easier x

continualdiamond

Snap for arguments with OH.

Like others have said they just assume it's easy not physically going to work. My OH has Wed off as he work Sat and today he was moaning that jobs had to done around the house (hoovering and mopping the 2 bedrooms).

If only he knew that at 8am yesterday I was hoovering and mopping the lounge, kitchen, hall and bathroom as LO had gone down for a nap since being up at 5am.

I didn't say a thing, but in my head I was like 'at least you get from 1pm - 3:30pm home alone whilst I take LO to baby yoga'.

On other news heard from work today re working part time. No surprise that they told me I am working Wed - Fri, so my conversation in January with them when I mentioned I'd found a child minder but my only problem was that I'd at least need Fri off and they said 'well someone has to work the end of the week, we'll find someone' now just seems like it was ignored.

A month ago they said it was looking likely I'd be working Wed -Fri and since then I have been phoning and emailing asking what is happening and it took me phoning again today to finally get an answer.

So now have a busy time from now until the 4th June to either:

A) Work out different childcare just for the Fri or
Find a different child minder or nursery for Wed - Fri

Trying not to get stressed but am, as now hoping it's not too late to get LO booked in for the next swimming block that starts after Easter and also will have to stop going to my weight watchers Fri class when I go back to work as cannot attend evenings as OH isn't home when they start and LO is always in bed at the times they run.

Mrshaworth2b

Hi ladies,

When do you get lo measured for shoes? How long after first steps? Sorry to read and run, I'll be back later

Gillyx

Hi MrsH, I'd go for shoes once they can independently walk and regularly 15 steps with no stopping they're expensive so I wouldn't worry about rushing to get them

Also people seriously underestimate how much having a child can affect a relationship, we are still suffering now, it's a combination of exhaustion, the drudgery of life and I think as much as we love our son, the fact we're not as care free as we once could be I.e go anywhere at anytime, because obviously we have to consider A and not everywhere is child friendly or suitable, plus he has quite a strict bed time (for his sake really) so after 7ish we're on lock down he works v long hours, and I'm at home with A all day, so when he does get in and we get dinner out the way, and bath and bed done, we both want to chill, individually, as we both need time to just do whatever we want, so we don't spend a lot of time together either. It's v stressful but I figure it has to get better eventually and we both are trying very hard to be considerate to each other and do the small things for one another xx

Crabapple

There's no need to rush to get shoes until they are walking a fair few steps as Gilly said, and when they need to be walking outside.

I had to get my daughter some about a week after she first took unaided steps as she was about to go to nursery and they insisted on them. Funnily enough when she changed nursery they don't wear shoes indoors at all!

I have a really good hubby, he does loads with the kids and now that we have the two he gets our daughter up and dressed before work as well as doing her tea and putting her to bed when he gets in (which he has done for a long time). He also pulls his weight with the housework and doesn't complain if he gets in and I have done absolutely nothing! I do try to but with a bf 6 week old and a whirlwind toddler it can be hard to stay on top of the mess she creates let alone do anything else...

However, he's trying to help with the baby in the evenings and let me get some sleep in before I have to do the night shift. He is a grumpy so-and-so when he hasn't had sleep (hubby that is, although it goes for baby too!) and I can't deal with him like that so I often feel like as much as he wants to help I could almost do without it! Not too many rows so far but it is really hard on a couple, we get very little time together without children being the centre of attention, and he sleeps on the sofa most nights (although I have got WAY too used to having the whole bed and duvet to myself so when he comes back there could be trouble )

Great, baby is squirming in his basket and the toddler is crying upstairs - so much for a bit of time without them!