Oh come on! Stake through the heart. A little sunlight. It's like falling off a log"

in_need_of_direction

Glad to see a roadmap starting to appear. Break it into mini targets and we will all very kindly nag

Pooky

Sounds very positive!


Would your mum consider selling the house and moving into a retirement place? It might do her the world of good to have some people around her age. It would free up some money for her to live on and would give you and your sisters peace of mind that she's got 24 hour emergency help if required.


Hope you can enjoy the sunshine today

Snagggles

I would love nothing more than to see you happy, and I know you love your ex. I want to say xxx it, go for it, you only live once, but I heard a little warning bell when I read that he wanted you back in his life in 'some capacity'.

If it is his non-scary way of saying he was wrong and he wants you back, then great. But if he's saying he misses you as a companion/friend/whatever, but hasn't had a change of heart about your future as a couple, I am scared you will just end up hurt again, and you really don't deserve that.

I am a coward when it comes to affairs of the heart though. Eventually, broken hearts do heal, and I don't think you should live your life being so cautious that you miss opportunities to find happiness and love. But don't be scared to ask the important questions, and make sure you don't expose yourself to more pain unnecessarily.

LOVE you. xxx

WantToBeSE

Hiya Buffy,


just to let you know that the online forums on the NHS losing weight link that you posted, are good I joined a few weeks ago and have lost 4lbs. Only another 12lbs to go (groan!)! Why does chocolate taste so nice?


I still read your diary, but never feel that I have anything useful to say. However, you re doing a great job, and you have made the right decision about the ex. I had an on/off thing with an ex of mine and I regret it so much. I should have just left it alone, but loved the idea of being in love, more than the act of being in love.
nw I know it wasn't love, but a desperation to 'have the dream'.


Anyway, I am rambling now, sorry

Almost-free

New reader here, Buffy. In my ( very great ) experience ( I am ancient!) wanting you back in his life in some capacity generally means totally on his terms ;(
It may mean just friends - hitch can be very difficult to achieve when you have been mush more than friends at some point- or where resentment is present on either side. Or where one wants far more than the other.

Or it may mean he wants to just swan in and out of your life to suit himself . Generally when 'nothing better' is available. Sorry to be blunt, but I am pretty cynical about mean and relationships right now!

You say you have already made your mind up not to go back, but that may not even be what he is offering.Look after yourself . Only enter into the 'some capacity' if you are fully prepared for it to be on his terms and not precisely what you were hoping for.

Buffythedebtslayer

Thanks for all your comments XX


He messaged yesterday and I only saw it today. It's all something and nothing. But mostly nothing.


To be honest I think he just wants to make sure that I am over him and he can stop feeling badly about how he treated me.


I don't want to think about him now. Have spent all day wondering did I say the right thing will write back can't be doing with it all. Bloody too tiring and annoying. Was pootling along quite alright thanks!


xxx


Edited to add,


went on dating site, found a nice looking bloke had messaged me!
so I replied! x

please-let-me-be-lucky

Yay!! Onwards and upwards Buffles! Fingers crossed the new guy is The One Xx

Snagggles

There's a little part of me that wishes my ex would contact me just to make sure I'm ok. He won't though. He's too cowardly to face up to what he has done. Easier to run away and pretend we never existed.

And to be honest, it is for the best, because I'm like an addict when it comes to relationships. When they end, it has to be cold turkey, because if I allow even the tiniest bit of them in my life, I will be pulled back in and will have to go through the pain of withdrawal again.

We will be ok. We do not need men that mess with our heads. We already have plenty of people in our lives for that.

in_need_of_direction

Onwards and upwards Buffy. Just consider the ex as total number of frogs to be kissed minus one. The chances of me finding my OH were astronomical, for so many reasons, but I did and I'm so grateful for that (except when he's being a numpty).

Buffythedebtslayer

please-let-me-be-lucky wrote: »

Yay!! Onwards and upwards Buffles! Fingers crossed the new guy is The One Xx

Just let him be any one apart from the ex! :rotfl:

Snagggles wrote: »

We will be ok. We do not need men that mess with our heads. We already have plenty of people in our lives for that.

Indeed we do not Snags!


Current debts


Tescos = 123
Barclaycard = 4183.85


It will start with a three next month.........XX