Oh come on! Stake through the heart. A little sunlight. It's like falling off a log"

Buffythedebtslayer

It is. However to rent a one bedroom flat in an area near Mum is about 1000 a month. I could house share but not with the pets.


Equally this business with the old man this morning has made me realise how vulnerable Mum is.


I am so miserable tonight! Going to watch a film with Mum and try not to let stuff get to me.


By stuff I mean the fact that many of my friends got together today for a kid's birthday party - I wasn't invited, which is fine as I don't have children and don't keep in touch with them. just makes me sad that is all. I miss them but life moves on and when you don't have kids your social life changes. And it is fine too. I have just been away and am out tomorrow and during the week. Just hard seeing in Technicolor what I am missing. It is especially difficult as the friends I holidayed with don't have kids and have that kind of selfish low tolerance for people with children who are apparently all selfish (?) and stupid. I feel I don't fit into either camp - I love kids and wish I did have them but it didn't work out like that and I certainly don't hate/dislike those with kids - I just can never really go out with them anymore. I have to confess there are only so many birthdays/anniversaries/weddings/family BBQs you can go to alone. It just gets too bloody hard.


So, once I have finished stuffing my face with chocolate and watching "Gone Girl" I shall go to bed and sleep this low mood away.


On the KM front I have done the bathroom. Looks good.


Tomorrow it is the shed - I am not really following KM initially I am too overwhelmed with crap literally everywhere. I need to declutter first. In true chaos style crisis clean!

Buffythedebtslayer

Just realised am getting the second run delivered tomorrow! which means I can do the garden


And the rabbits will have a good day!

LouiseJ

Hope you enjoyed the film, I know that I did.
Good luck with the KM and the shed today.

in_need_of_direction

When I die i want to come back as one of your pets.

Chocforever

Is it viable for your Mum to downsize to something easier to maintain and perhaps release some equity? Don't feel you have to justify a "no".

There_Is_a_Light

Just an old timer with a shiny new account (valid reasons) popping back in to subscribe. I have also started a DFD if any of you lovelies would like to pop in I am always happy to receive company.

Sparkles87

Could you take on the mortgage at your mum's? Effectively buy her out, not to force her to move but you may get better rates and terms

Buffythedebtslayer

Evening all,


thank you for your replies, INOD the weeks when I have a migraine are not so good for the small furries! but generally yes they have a good time.


Nothing is going to change house wise and I feel like I am going round in circles here. Am contemplating a new dairy. Need to save more money. Have a goal. Aside from over the top food spending I have kept out of debt. so skint this month. Will have to cut into savings - but I guess at least I have them.


Shall go have a think.

Buffythedebtslayer

Right,


As ever with the holidays I am having a "depression"- lack of routine means I think too much. I have just read something here though on my diary - ie that I do this VERY regularly! It is funny what you learn from keeping a journal.


Lately I haven't been here much totally don't get the new layout, can't find Sun Addict's diary and hate the fact that all diaries start with the first post which makes me think I am in the wrong place. I have been on FB and in fairly anonymous groups regarding housework (!) and Kon Mari.


So instead of starting a new diary now, I am going to finish this one with the big summer purge (see fb groups) and then start a new one at the start of the new term.


Last night I signed up to a 5KM race on the 1st November - I am GOING TO RUN IT. Not walk it as I usually do.


Today's plan involves picking up my car, Mum going to the dentist and me attempting Sainsbury's


I never did put the rabbit run up - it was too hot for them (they free range upstairs - litter trained!) so might give that a go this afternoon - tho I am SO tired in the afternoon


Currently I have 2750 in my ISA - I think it might be possible to aim for 5000 by the end of the year. This may involve Snaggles' spreadsheet.

There_Is_a_Light

The KM thing sounds interesting, not sure how long it would take me to do my whole house though!! Shudder at the very thought so best of luck with that xx

Isa is looking healthy and £5K by the end of the year seems a realistic target. What is the Snaggles spreadsheet? Is she still about on here? I am also spread-sheeting today and there is also an overpayment calculator somewhere that I need to find, snowball calculator I think its called.

I know exactly what you mean about that awful depressed feeling in the holidays. I think that in our line of work we look forward to holidays to basically do more work! I am also still receiving emails regarding work which is stressing me out as there are some urgent things cropped up which need actioning today and tomorrow.

As you may have seen I have been out and about lots this summer but one place stuck me in particular which was the lake district. We stayed in a lovely small family run hotel in which the owners live in a little cottage out the back and although they do work hard it looked like such a lovely existence.