Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

lilmissreading

Daisiegg - in your face worry! What brilliant news!!! All that worry turned out to be nothing :A Next time you can tell the worry that it's not going to change the outcome and actually it's not very good at predicting the future so you don't have to listen to it.

DanielleNic87 - leave google alone. No-one posts the good stories of when things went well. It's like the news. No-one wants to hear the ordinary and humdrum only the exceptional. What difference does googling make? What difference would it make if you didn't? I like the little exercise below to work out what the real pluses and minuses for for me in a situation.

Google - Cost and Benefit
Don't google - Cost and Benefit

If you lay it out like a grid you can see it clearly.

I know it's not easy to not worry as otherwise you would be doing it already but try not to let it dominate a happy if queasy and exhausting time. It's blooming hard enough as it is!

God I am so unfit. I left a London job in November and hadn't joined a gym as I spent oodles of time running for various forms of public transport and running up and down stairs not just commuting but also during the day as part of my job. the grand plan when getting a job nearer home was to join the gym after Christmas. Now feel so drained of energy not sure of the point at the moment. We lived the dream yesterday and went to Halfords to get a back support for the car and had a mooch around B&M. I was so exhausted I was asleep from 3.30-6pm. Yoga seems a good idea.

claire16c

*delurking*

Lilmissreading is right Danielle, googling won't help!

I had a mmc and googling stuff before I knew didn't prevent it or help - apart from knowing it existed. But this time around I did similar googling when for around 20 minutes one day I stopped feeling sick & thought it was happening all over again - but it wasn't! Having said that most of the stuff I read was quite positive and people who lost symptoms were fine! So it was reassuring but then it's not like what happens to someone else has any effect on what happens to you so if its making you anxious just stay away! To be blunt though don't waste money doing tests they will just show positive. Why don't you each time you feel the urge to buy or do a test, put £2 in a pot and then use it to buy a cute outfit after your scan

samtoby

DanielleNic87 wrote: »

I'm 8+5. I'm googling things that go wrong up to the 12 weeks like mmc. Reading horror stories on the net. I'm driving myself and hubby insane. Oh and I'm still taking HPT's.

I second what claire16c has said. I had a MMC before this pregnancy and when I fell this time my partner got very upset when I kept looking at the chances of it happening twice in a row etc.

Of course it happens, I can't say it doesn't but worrying won't help. It is all a waiting game and I think everyone has an element of worry in the first 12 weeks and depending on the reason of that worry does not make the worry any less. This pregnancy the first 12 weeks dragged so bad, but now its flying and yes I do worry - its natural but google is not the best place to go.

Maybe talk to a friend or family member about your worries, or even write them down. Even if the writing goes no where; you have let it out so to speak!

Hugs xx

P.S - You do not need to take anymore HPT - as terrible as this might sound even after I had mc I had a positive pg test weeks later. I did test with this pregnancy to see a clearblue go from 1-2 ---- 2-3

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3+ but after that stopped. Its expensive!

jenand8285

Would a private scan perhaps put your mind at rest? It may be worth the expense for piece of mind?

I did my last HPT at 8 weeks and got 3+. I felt really quite assured. It was a two pack and I have not felt the urge to do the second since.

Bluebell1000

Daisie, lovely news

Jen - exercise? Erm, what's that again? I've gone from walking about 5 miles a day before pg to barely making it to our local Tesco and back at the weekend (would have been about 10 mins walk). I just seem to be tired and wobbly all the time at the moment. Whereas last pregnancy I was walking around to work, shopping etc (albeit a little less distance pre-office move) right up to the day DS arrived, plus exercising in the evenings on the wii fit. I have noticed a huge difference this time around in my energy levels.

As for showing bumps - well I'm very slim (lost loads of weight feeding DS too) to the point where I finally managed to get my BMI back up to around 18.5 just before I fell pregnant. All my clothes are quite fitted, otherwise I look completely swamped... and I am really struggling to find anything that hides my rapidly expanding bump. Apparently it is worse with number 2 because your ligaments stretch more easily, but I'm at the point when the students spotted it this morning. Though it didn't help that a colleague congratulated me in the corridor this morning when a couple of the students were walking past, and asked when my scan was!

time2deal

I admit to POAS on the weekend. My symptoms aren't strong, but I think I have come to terms with what is normal now. Feel ok in the morning, very tired in the afternoon, and the odd major b00b pain in the evening.

Had a minor bout of nausea today, but to be honest I probably wouldn't even really notice it if I wasn't keeping an eye out.

Test came up positive nice and quickly, and although I know it doesn't mean all is well, it did relax me a little.

Went to the dentist today, and they wouldn't fix my broken tooth! She said she didn't want to do an X-Ray unless it was an emergency, so just filled it (needs a replacement crown) and said to focus on dental hygiene and come back after the baby.

Is it strange that I still get a little buzz out of saying 'I'm pregnant'! And you get the treatment for free. Just put down the baby's due date (another little moment of happiness for me!). And people smile at you. It's SOOO much nicer than when I had to tell people I had cancer! Then you get a sad pity face that used to drive me crazy!

Whattodonow

I can't even walk the stairs to the train platform anymore never mind exercise. I used to always think able-bodied people who took the lift were right lazy so-and-sos. Now I'm one of them!

Realised I am subconsciously really really worried about this scan. Spent whole weekend with headache and bad neck, and only got two hours sleep last night. So I'm tired headachey and feel sick! The joys! Really hoping it means everything is ok. 24 hours to go!

jenand8285

No long for the scan now bluebell, I know you have yours the same day as me

I have not told anyone at work yet, but I do feel really weird discussing things and making arrangements for later in the year knowing I will be off on maternity.

t2d, I can not wait to get my maternity exemption cert signed at my 12 week scan. I am overdue the dentist and opticians, but think I might as well wait now.

Wtdn, good luck for tomorrow x

time2deal

Jen, no one has asked me for a certificate. I just ticked a box, and a few weeks ago at the pharmacy I just told them and they said it was fine. I guess it depends on the provider.

Eta: good luck wtdn!

FallenArcher

Is it wrong that I'm really pleased to hear that others have also
lost energy for exercise!? I have been able to cycle, but nothing like as regularly as pre-pg and it's now been 4 weeks since going for a swim, and about 3 weeks since going for a run!! I'm kinda missing my pre-pg self although know the reward at the end will be worth it!! I just want my energy levels back, exhaustion is taking over my life. Have felt rubbish all day, was even sick at work today - thank god tomorrow is a work from
home day.

Google is a funny one, like someone said can be hugely reassuring (that what you're feeling is normal) but I definitely agree that generally it's those who have had bad experiences who take the time to post.

Am also waiting for my certificate for free prescriptions - desperately need to get to dentists!!

Good luck to those with scans coming up ��