Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

lilmissmup

jenand8285 wrote: »

Daisiegg, I think it must be so normal to worry!


My mum has said I have to stop being so negative. I am not sure if it is because of a lack of symptoms that I do not feel pg or because I daren't get attached before the scan but I do not feel I have bonded with the bean as much as others might have. My husband pats my tummy, kisses it and sometimes even talks to it already yet I have no urge to do such things. Is this just me?


I am still convinced there might not be anything there at the scan

Until my scan last week I didnt feel pregnant even though I was being ill etc but when you see the baby in there its amazing and I can't wait until my next scan now!

Peonie

I was out last night so did not check the forum. I'm sorry the two of you have bled. I know exactly what you're going through as I've been through it. Unfortunately I was in the 2% group.

Since Saturday I've been depressed and scared that this pea is not going to stay. I was so sad on Saturday Mr P asked what could we do to get me out of it. So we went to Mothercare to look at prams and other bits. I've never allowed myself to go shopping for us before. But if something goes wrong and this is as far as we ever get I wanted to have at least looked. It was nice to plan and learn about things.

I swear, last time I was not like this.

It does not help that I have a majorly stressful week at work; getting worse over the next 3 days and Mr P is away until Friday.

lollypopswater

Hugs to all of those worrying and having bleeding or other symptoms. It's just such a stressful time isn't it?!

Got my flu jab today, nurse was just back from mat leave and was really lovely. Asked how I'd been etc and said that being sick is actually not all that common which surprised me.

I totally don't think I'll get my head round things till I have a scan lilmissmup, still all seems a bit unreal right now!

teaandcakeordeath

I'm avoiding mothercare, perhaps I should just go and enjoy it for as long as it lasts... Am pretty rubbish at being pregnant which I suppose makes sense as I was rubbish at ttc too. Lol.

Bluebell1000

Jen, I don't think I really bonded with DS until he arrived! Even when I went into labour with him I remember having half an hour or so of panic to start with (my waters broke first) at the idea that I was actually going to have a baby. You'd have thought that I'd had enough time to get used to the idea by then, but no, apparently not.

Hope everyone is feeling OK today x

I had my booking in appointment this afternoon, and it was lovely to see the midwife who looked after me last time around is still there. She delivered DS as I had a home birth, and was very supportive of me going for a home birth again. She did warn me that I'd be called in and the hospital would try to convince me otherwise (had to transfer into hospital after birth with retained placenta) but that she was happy to go ahead with me staying home. That was really reassuring as I really don't want to go back to hospital if I can avoid it.

She also managed to take bloods for testing at the first time of trying, I'm usually not that easy to get blood from, so I was very impressed!

Bluebell1000

Also there was a weeks worth of free vitamin tablets in the pack from the midwife. I have never seen such huge tablets. I am really bad with tablets and have to crush them anyway, but seriously they were about the right size for an elephant. Not a chance of me taking those ones!

Miss_Imaginative

I think the worry about "what if" will always nag in the back of our minds and the constant worry of whether our little ones are safe and that all will be well. So many mother's tell me now that it's just the beginning and we will always worry about our little ones! But I share the fear that many of you have about being told heartbreaking news at the next scan and am wary about getting too excited about things - as you say, a self-preservation thing if you will? Like Peonie and many of you, I have also stopped myself from looking at anything baby-related let alone buying anything for fear of tempting fate!

I rang my midwife this morning and managed to get through to her. She immediately calmed my fears about the scan on Friday and admitted that it sounded like the midwife yesterday did a very poor job of reassuring me. She doesn't see any obvious reason for anything to be wrong given that baby has been fine at previous scans and that the bleed on Sunday sounded very minor in comparison to my previous two bleeds (that I've had scans afterwards) and arguably more likely to be old blood than anything truly fresh. But she does say it's a good thing to be checked over, if only for my peace of mind if nothing else and if we find a reason for these bleeds then that's a bonus. So all in all, feeling much calmer, especially now Hubby has told his boss we're expecting and now has the okay to come to the scan on Friday. Although still very apprehensive about Friday... I think I will always be anxious to be honest!!

My midwife also found out re: me potentially needing an Anti-D injection - she said my jab on Friday will cover me for the next six weeks, hurray! It's after 20 weeks that I will need jabs after each bleed (should the bleeding continue). So at least that's one worry off the mind.

Daisiegg, how did your meeting go today??

Peonie, please try and take it easy. Properly pamper yourself in the evenings to try and calm yourself down after these stressful days.

Bluebell, I had those freebies too! I swear I've never seen tablets so big!!

Mrs_I

daisiegg

Miss I, thanks for asking. The meeting was fine. I made the decision to tell the head beforehand about my pregnancy and I am pleased I did...just glad to have things out in the open and of I end up having more time off or not being myself, she will know why and not think I am slacking or whatever.

Hope everyone is doing ok. I am so tired I can't see straight so I am not going to comment on everything tonight but I am reading and thinking of you all.

Just wanted to add I have made a decision today that I am going to try really,really, really hard to stop stressing and worrying about every little thing and actually try to enjoy this. As far as I know, today I am pregnant, and if anything will go wrong I can't change it. I spent the evening at my parents' house today as my husband is away and they were fussing over me and I think it is the first time I have actually let myself enjoy this being pregnant lark. I probably will not be very good at this but I am going to do my absolute best to stop worrying so much.

Hope everyone is doing well, night night xx

claire16c

any_name_will_suffice wrote: »

i have had three early scans now, last one was at 9 1/2 weeks so I know there's a good chance everything is ok.

Ali my appointment is at 9am, so thought he would be able to go in late, but he thinks not. I am guessing he hasn't told anyone at work I am pregnant, otherwise if he explained what the appointment was for I am sure no one would mind.

I am wondering whether to bring a friend along. Trouble is, she will likely have her 14 month old with her, and I am not sure I need that if it's bad news.

Could your DH tell his work he's got a drs appt?

Whattodonow

Hi all

Hey p. Sorry I hear you are stressing. I hope you can try to relax - it's best for bean. Don't forget our bodies are still trying to get used to these new hormones so it's natural to feel a bit up and down.

I'm trying my hardest not to worry but won't allow myself to go lookin at baby stuff yet. At least until our scan in a couple of weeks.

Don't feel like I've bonded either yet! And time is going soooo slooowly!

Weirdly enough I think I got used to being an infertile. I think I'm still in that mindset.

Did get my bio-oil yesterday though