Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

Miss_Imaginative

daisiegg wrote: »

I am only 6 and a half weeks...feels way too early to tell her...

Ahhh, see, I know exactly how you feel. I ended up having to tell my bosses at 6 and a half weeks too, due to all the drama happening in my pregnancy. I really wanted to keep it schtum until 12 weeks too. :S It's your call at the end of the day, as I know it's still early days - but your Head Teacher may appreciate your honesty in saying you can't commit to anything next year, rather than you guys discussing all these plans and then things all having to change in a matter of weeks. On the other hand, things like this happen all the time and much later down the line and they deal with it!

Mrs_I

daisiegg

Miss_Imaginative wrote: »

Ahhh, see, I know exactly how you feel. I ended up having to tell my bosses at 6 and a half weeks too, due to all the drama happening in my pregnancy. I really wanted to keep it schtum until 12 weeks too. :S It's your call at the end of the day, as I know it's still early days - but your Head Teacher may appreciate your honesty in saying you can't commit to anything next year, rather than you guys discussing all these plans and then things all having to change in a matter of weeks. On the other hand, things like this happen all the time and much later down the line and they deal with it!

Mrs_I

My immediate boss (head of faculty) knows as I had to tell him because I have been unwell at work. But I don't know how I would tell the head before this meeting tomorrow, and then if I did tell her, how it would be possible for the meeting to go ahead without my colleagues finding out what is going on! It is just so early and there is still so much risk. On the other hand...I have had two days off sick so far due to this pregnancy and that means I will be called in to see the head, and I will have to tell her then, because otherwise I will get in trouble for absences but if it is pregnancy related they can't tell me off. But she is often quite slow about these things so there is a chance I might not be called in for another few weeks, and then I might feel better telling her about it.

Oh, I don't know! Also, I know my husband doesn't want me telling too many people yet. And he is not even here to discuss it

Miss_Imaginative

daisiegg wrote: »

My immediate boss (head of faculty) knows as I had to tell him because I have been unwell at work. But I don't know how I would tell the head before this meeting tomorrow, and then if I did tell her, how it would be possible for the meeting to go ahead without my colleagues finding out what is going on! It is just so early and there is still so much risk. On the other hand...I have had two days off sick so far due to this pregnancy and that means I will be called in to see the head, and I will have to tell her then, because otherwise I will get in trouble for absences but if it is pregnancy related they can't tell me off. But she is often quite slow about these things so there is a chance I might not be called in for another few weeks, and then I might feel better telling her about it.

Oh, I don't know! Also, I know my husband doesn't want me telling too many people yet. And he is not even here to discuss it

Well at least your immediate boss knows - you know never know, they may have told the head (they might have a legal obligation to?). And I see your dilemma in how you tell the Head before tomorrow's meeting and then the whole doing it without your colleagues finding out... so maybe it is best for you to attend and see how things go. Given your time off already, your Head might have said something to your immediate boss and they may have said you're expecting, hence why you've not had a meeting about it yet - but it's all ifs and buts and impossible to guess!

I appreciate it's something you want to discuss with your husband, I know I feel exactly the same re: the pregnancy related things, especially when it comes to telling people! And it's even harder when he's away from home, it's not a discussion you want to have on the phone, is it?? So I say don't fret for now, take the meeting tomorrow as it comes and it will all work out. Promise.

Mrs_I

daisiegg

Miss_Imaginative wrote: »

Well at least your immediate boss knows - you know never know, they may have told the head (they might have a legal obligation to?). And I see your dilemma in how you tell the Head before tomorrow's meeting and then the whole doing it without your colleagues finding out... so maybe it is best for you to attend and see how things go. Given your time off already, your Head might have said something to your immediate boss and they may have said you're expecting, hence why you've not had a meeting about it yet - but it's all ifs and buts and impossible to guess!

I appreciate it's something you want to discuss with your husband, I know I feel exactly the same re: the pregnancy related things, especially when it comes to telling people! And it's even harder when he's away from home, it's not a discussion you want to have on the phone, is it?? So I say don't fret for now, take the meeting tomorrow as it comes and it will all work out. Promise.

Mrs_I

Thanks! in the absence of my husband I will talk to my mum this evening and get her advice. She is usually good to talk to as well.

Hope you are feeling ok x

Miss_Imaginative

daisiegg wrote: »

Thanks! in the absence of my husband I will talk to my mum this evening and get her advice. She is usually good to talk to as well.

Hope you are feeling ok x

Now that is a very good idea! Getting someone's perspective slightly outside of the situation (but close enough to know you well enough) will help too.

Feeling alright, thanks - much calmer than earlier. The stats and advice you gave really helped calm me down. Worrying isn't going to help and I'm going to try and get in touch with my midwife in the morning. I've also had a really good natter online this afternoon with my best friend - she doesn't know about the pregnancy yet (again, hoping to tell her in person this weekend), but she never fails to cheer me up.

Mrs_I

daisiegg

Miss_Imaginative wrote: »

Now that is a very good idea! Getting someone's perspective slightly outside of the situation (but close enough to know you well enough) will help too.

Feeling alright, thanks - much calmer than earlier. The stats and advice you gave really helped calm me down. Worrying isn't going to help and I'm going to try and get in touch with my midwife in the morning. I've also had a really good natter online this afternoon with my best friend - she doesn't know about the pregnancy yet (again, hoping to tell her in person this weekend), but she never fails to cheer me up.

Mrs_I

Glad you are feeling ok

My mum thinks I should tell her. But she wears her heart on her sleeve and can't keep a secret (her own secrets, that is - she can keep other people's confidences!) She is going to get my dad to call me later when he gets in from work as he is very wise, he is also a manager so he could give that perspective as well.

time2deal

I saw those stats about seeing the heartbeat, so I was hoping against hope I would see it today. But I had done some googling on the way so I knew there was a good chance I wouldn't see it.

I was quite dizzy at the hospital, but realised it was probably as I hadn't eaten or drunk all day, other than half a glass of water to take my morning tablets. Felt better after some food, and a good solid afternoon nap.

DH was out today on a Red Letter day experience that I got him for Christmas, which both he and I had been very excited about. It was never planned that I go, so I decided in the morning that I wouldn't tell him about the bleeding. There was nothing he could do, and I didn't want him to skip the event or worry about me all day. He wasn't super impressed when he got home, but I think he understood. I was the only person at the EPU by myself though!

Feeling nervous tonight. I've been on the sofa all day, but I get a bit tense standing up - I feel like it's all so tenuous. Really happy I have a scan next week now, it feels much closer and reassuring.

daisiegg

time2deal wrote: »

I saw those stats about seeing the heartbeat, so I was hoping against hope I would see it today. But I had done some googling on the way so I knew there was a good chance I wouldn't see it.

I was quite dizzy at the hospital, but realised it was probably as I hadn't eaten or drunk all day, other than half a glass of water to take my morning tablets. Felt better after some food, and a good solid afternoon nap.

DH was out today on a Red Letter day experience that I got him for Christmas, which both he and I had been very excited about. It was never planned that I go, so I decided in the morning that I wouldn't tell him about the bleeding. There was nothing he could do, and I didn't want him to skip the event or worry about me all day. He wasn't super impressed when he got home, but I think he understood. I was the only person at the EPU by myself though!

Feeling nervous tonight. I've been on the sofa all day, but I get a bit tense standing up - I feel like it's all so tenuous. Really happy I have a scan next week now, it feels much closer and reassuring.

Wow, that was really brave of you to go on your own - how thoughtful to want your husband to enjoy his day.

It would still be very early to expect to see a heartbeat. What they did see was reassuring although I am sure you are still worried....I would be too. I bet next Wednesday can't come around quickly enough for you!

I can't believe how stressful this all is. No one tells you this! Do you think everyone is like this or do you think we are panicking more than usual? (We as in all of us...not just me and you t2d lol). I know you (you t2d this time) have more reason than lots to worry due to medical issues and how long it took to conceive, but even those of us with more standard histories (like me) seem to be so scared and worrying about every little thing. I have no idea if it is normal or not!

Gemguin

Ladies, sorry I have not commented for a while but I have been reading and keeping up to date. I have my 12 week scan on Friday 14th Feb at 9am. I will hopefully be 12+4 by this time. I'm starting to get really nervous about going and hearing the worst news possible, I haven't had any concerns yet to warrant early scans (which is a blessing i know) and I have been too afraid to have my best friend use her Doppler.
I'm just really worried little flip won't be there. Is this normal or am I being a bit odd? Hope you can help. Gem

daisiegg

Gemguin wrote: »

Ladies, sorry I have not commented for a while but I have been reading and keeping up to date. I have my 12 week scan on Friday 14th Feb at 9am. I will hopefully be 12+4 by this time. I'm starting to get really nervous about going and hearing the worst news possible, I haven't had any concerns yet to warrant early scans (which is a blessing i know) and I have been too afraid to have my best friend use her Doppler.
I'm just really worried little flip won't be there. Is this normal or am I being a bit odd? Hope you can help. Gem

Good luck.

I am beginning to think that all this worry is very normal! (See my post above). Fingers crossed - really hope it will all be ok.