Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

any_name_will_suffice

Thanks- maybe I need to talk to the doctor about taking it the other way!

teaandcakeordeath

Thanks everyone. In the immortal ttc lingo I know I just need to 'relax' and shut my brain up. I'm my own worst enemy at times. Not helped that today i've been off work with d&v feeling sorry for myself. Thank you all!

Peonie, I see M. She's amazing. I think without her I'd have given up long ago. Hopefully she can carry on seeing me. I'm going to speak to the midwife on Thursday to see if they'll see me earlier due to being high risk anyway. I'm probably not going to tell them about the early scan already though which is a bit naughty of me I think.

I think it's a big change that I was never expecting to happen- even if we'd have had ivf. I just need to accept it and enjoy it rather than stressing myself out.

time2deal

TCD - for your early scan, was it internal or external? I'm a bit nervous now about internal scans.

My skin has gone a bit strange. Every time I touch it now I get dead skin coming off! I don't know if anyone has done a turkish hamman, but it's like when they rub that hard scrub all over you. Anyway, I've given myself an 'emergency' facial exfoliation which seems to have fixed it a bit. My skin is normally really dry, maybe it's getting a little more oily and my normal products aren't working so well.

I also gave in and did a test today - a FRER. Super strong positive. The test line stole most of the ink from the control line! Very reassuring. Although I then proceeded to forget to take all my medication, and only remember at 10am. I'm working from home today thanks to the joys of the tube strike.

lollypopswater

Hi ladies - on my phone so can't really scroll back but hope you are all ok?

6+2 today and feeling a bit queasy... Main thing that helps is stuffing my face !!

Feel bit reassured in some ways but also feeling sick at work is pants!

Xxx

Whattodonow

Ok someone tell me if I'm being unreasonable here.
MIL knew about our IVF but we were vague about test date saying a couple of weeks after ET. She's obviously taken this literally as today is two weeks, although sun was our test date.
So today which is two weeks exactly she rings me at 9:30am (I don't answer) and then texts asking if I've done my test yet.
Now I did the test Sunday but she thinks it's today.she also lives very close to us.
I'm annoyed because she's basically asking us the news a couple of hours after she thinks we've taken the test. What if it had been bad news? Does she not think that we would need a few days or at least a couple of hours to let the news, good or bad, sink in? If she really couldn't wait could she not have called rpund later tonight to speak face to face?
When I didn't answer she rang my OH who caved in and told her.

jay20043

Congratulations to all the newcomers :-)

WTDN -I don't think your being unreasonable, I would be annoyed if it was me in your position.


Purcy & any name - you have just put my mind at ease, I've been getting pains in my tummy, nothing major just pains every so often even when I'm lounging on the sofa.


T2D - That's the mantra in using, after the MMC I am embracing all symptoms.


Is anyone else having back ache? the tiredness has kicked in as well. I've been going to bed at 8.30 just recently. My evening shifts this week are going to fun, I don't think getting home at 2am is going to be pleasant. :-(


My letter from the midwife can through this morning, my booking appointment is the 12th March. I think I need to drop into the reception at the doctors to get the medical exemption card forms and all the other leaflets.

time2deal

WTDN - I think it was a bit rude, but try not to let it bother you any more. Nothing you can do to change it now. At least she is excited to find out!

I heard back from my oncologist, and he really just gave me a couple of names of specialists. The one he recommended the most is actually based at a Hammersmith hospital (right near me) so I called them and referred myself. I should get a letter in 10 days or so. The lady on the phone said I would be assessed and then referred across to the medical unit for high risk pregnancies. I was impressed how easy it was! I called my private health insurance, and they only cover a limited set of complications, so I was a bit worried, but very pleased to know I can get the same specialist on the NHS.

The oncologist reminded me not to forget my normal followup, and to schedule an MRI. I'm due one in Feb, but I'm going to see if I can wait until I'm closer to 12 weeks. There isn't supposed to be any risk to the baby, but I'm suddenly terrified of a recurrance. It feels like it matters more now...

I was booking in dates and realised that this day last year I was in hospital, still recovering from my first cancer surgery. And preparing for the second one on the 25th of Feb. It just so so so amazing to have gotten this far!! The lady booking the midwife assessment was very sympathetic, but to me it's just all behind me. Makes me realise that I really am so lucky to have gotten this far.

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I just realised it's a bit presumptuous to assume everyone knows my history. I've been here so long! For those that don't know - I'm 37, been TTC since I was 33. We had decided to move onto IVF after 2 years, and one of the pre-tests they ask you to do is a smear test - one thing lead to another and I was diagnosed with cervical cancer in Dec 12. I had 3 operations, the last to remove my cervix and got the all clear in March 13. With no cervix the pregnancy will be risky. The main risk in addition to the usual ones is late miscarriage/premature delivery. I had read online that I should hope to get to about 32-36 weeks, but my oncologist did say he tried to leave some cervix behind, so hopefully that will help me be at the upper end of that group.

I expect I'll need an operation around week 12 too to insert a 'cerclage', which is a stitch in the cervical area to try and provide extra support. And possibly bedrest sometime in the second trimester. Up until 12 weeks I just have the normal risks we all have. Happy to answer any questions, but to an extent it's all just a longer path to this point. To me the cancer was just another bump in the road to TTC!!

daisiegg

time2deal, I did not know your history - wow, you have been through so much. Here's hoping for as normal and worry-free a pregnancy it is possible for you to have, with excellent support and medical care throughout xx

daisiegg

I internally laughed when I saw people online freaking out as their symptoms disappeared/changed, or when lines got lighter....now it is me today I feel as exhausted as I have done but sickness/tummy pain has gone. Right now, I can feel a bit of growling in my tummy because I am hungry - and that is not making me feel awful! previously to today I would be grabbing a biscuit and feeling terrible. So of course I did a couple of Internet cheapie tests and I could swear the lines are slightly lighter than last time I did them, though I didn't keep them to compare....argh! So of course I am immediately worrying and thinking that I feel like something is wrong. I know I am so stupid. This horrid feeling I have had when I get hungry as been really nasty, and here I am wishing for it to come back!

daisiegg

Ok, I am feeling slightly less crazy...just did another pot of wee (I feel like most of my wee reaches a toilet via a tub these days!) and did my last CB digi and three Internet cheapie tests...CB still says 3+ and I was very reassured because the three Internet tests had completely different lines. One was really dark, one medium, and one almost light. And they were done on the same pot of wee, and the same wee that got a 3+ on the CB digi...so I am telling myself it means the darkness of the line doesn't matter at all!

Plus, I talked to myself logically and reminded myself that I had salmon, rice and vegetables for lunch, which was probably a perfect lunch to keep me full and stop me feeling bad. AND I just had a 2 hour nap, and I think the sickness/tummy pain is worse when I am tired. So. All of those things mean I must STOP WORRYING!

Tell me to stop worrying?!