Less than 12 weeks pregnant club! Part 4!!

daisiegg

t2d glad to hear your good news.

I am feeling a bit sorry for myself today. Still feeling really rough, with sickness that gets worse when I am tired. It is better than it was but still not great at all. As a result I have had 1 or 2 days off work sick each week for the last 3 weeks. There is not much I can do about it. Even on days when I go into work I am feeling awful, and on days when I stay at home I literally can't move for sickness.

It is our review week at work this week...like an internal Ofsted. I am being observed tomorrow and I am really worried about it. Everyone gets nervous about being observed anyway but I am feeling so rough at the moment I know I won't be at my best.

I just logged in and checked my work email to see two horrible things...one is the person who was meant to be observing me now can't, so it is going to be the headmistress. The other is that I have been called to a meeting with the head to discuss my absences

I am now doubly dreading tomorrow. The head is a hard observer and to make matters worse I have to meet with her about my absences? I know from other people that she is unsympathetic about pregnancy sickness etc. I just don't know what I can do. I am going in as much as I can. I am going in feeling like I could pass out and having to run out of lessons to throw up. I could quite easily have just got signed off work by the doctor but I am going in as much as I possibly can and doing my best. I am 10 and a half weeks now so hopefully only another couple of weeks of this.

I just have a sick feeling in my stomach (I mean a different one to the ever present morning sickness lol!) and feel like crying thinking about tomorrow. It would be bad enough being observed without having this meeting hanging over me too.

I just want to crawl under a duvet and hide

claire16c

Daisie legally they cant discipline you for pregnancy sickness so Im not really sure why shes calling a meeting. So in that respect I wouldnt stress, she cant do a d%mn thing about it, and neither can you, so Id just go into the meeting with your head held high. She should be scared of you reporting her for breaking the law, not the other way around!

Or who knows, perhaps shes had a change of heart and wants to help you out?!

lilmissreading

lilmissmup - thanks, it's good to know it's just another one of those things not generally spoken off, like a dodgy tummy!

ttc39 - hopefully you feel less alone with that particular symptom...I wondered if it was the folic acid. I can sympathise with your walk. I have to leave my office, cross a courtyard, and walk along a corridor to get to the nearest loo...

MrsC - I'm apparently 13th October!

Whattodonow - hope your booking in appointment went well? Bit late of me but I didn't have a doppler or any kind of physical examination. They asked lots of questions, gave us lots of leaflets, took my blood weight and wee and left it at that! As far as I can tell from delurkers it is hard to pick anything up with a doppler until about 16 weeks on.

t2d - glad to hear about your good news. It sounds like there's more than enough going without all the extra MRI scans.

alioops78 - we told my mum and grandmother at a lunch. We did a toast with Prosecco and I said 'to Nanny and Great Nanny.' Everyone chinked glasses and repeated it. They took a sip. They put their glasses down. It took my stepfather to say 'why are we toasting Nanny and Great Nanny?' To which I said 'because that's who sitting at this table come October all being well.' There was a stunned silence before someone put it together. In all fairness we told no-one we were trying, other than a close friend who has been trying over a year in case something happened then at least she had a warning.

daisiegg - how rubbish for you. I have been fortunate that my sickness has been manageable but it is definitely worse when I am tired. Everyone has been raving about the fantastic weather. I kept quiet as I completely missed it lying in bed, dozing on and off, wondering if ginger biscuits or ginger beer will help. I was probably over tired as (get this) I spent an entire 6 hours out of the house on Saturday being driven to Henley for afternoon tea and sitting on my bottom. No wonder I was exhausted.

Bad timing for you with review week and sickness review. It sounds very stressful. When I am in a stressful situation I find it helpful to ask myself:
1) What's the worst that can happen?
2) What's the best that can happen?
3) What's the most likely?
It can help me see things in a different light. Blooming bureaucracy - in one NHS trust I worked in the trigger was any 4 separate sickness events regardless of duration. This caused all sorts of hilarity during events like the snow and bad weather.

It might not feel like a plus but as you know she is unsympathetic about pregnancy sickness, you're well warned that this is going to be difficult - you're not going to be blindsided and can think about how you want to deal with it? Is it easiest to nod and smile and promise to try harder? Keep repeating that these things are beyond your control and have not been an issue in the past? That this is not forever? Really I'm sure you just want her to get over herself and realise what it costs you to come in.

Do crawl under a duvet and hide, watch a funny/heartwarming movie, have a bath, bar of chocolate, call someone who can cheer you up or sympathise, or whatever works for you. Have something nice planned for tomorrow to congratulate yourself for surviving.

Thanks to all those who recommended Emily Oster. Kept asking DH to order it but then internet went down, he lost the email, he kept forgetting...now I haven't even glanced at it as he has started reading and is engrossed! Bless.

Can I ask if people know when you are supposed to use Bio oil? MIL bought me some already but am lazy and forgetful. Should I start now?

lilmissreading

PS my mum works in education. She has a theory about it attracting peculiar, power hungry, deranged middle aged women. They follow her wherever she goes...three jobs in as many years and there's one waiting for her at every change

claire16c

Lilmissreading - just posting again to ask are you at the RBH? I wasnt sure if your name was 'reading' or 'Reading' but just noticed you are from berks too and then you mentioned Henley! I was there on Sunday for an outside pub lunch!

daisiegg

Thanks claire and lilmissreading. Logically I know you are right. It is just one day. I will get through it one way or another!

ttc39

Lilmissreading , yes I do feel relieved as I could find nothing on web about it being a typical symptom only constipation lol

Oh my, your loo journey sounds worse than mine !

Daisyegg - agree with others, go in prepared and don't let her get to you xx and def chill out tonight xx

daisiegg

ttc39 wrote: »

Lilmissreading , yes I do feel relieved as I could find nothing on web about it being a typical symptom only constipation lolx

http://www.whattoexpect.com/blogs/pregnancycareformoms/diarrhea-during-early-pregnancy

http://www.pregmed.org/diarrhea-during-pregnancy.htm

http://www.womenshealthcaretopics.com/preg_diarrhea.htm

There is a lot more...

My midwife said it is common and can be a side effect of folic acid

Whattodonow

lilmiss i started with my biooil weeks ago! And i'm 9 weeks!

No dopplier - silly me. Didn't realise about the 16 weeks thing. All went well.

I'm having major mood swings though and taking it out on my OH. I think I'm stressing a bit because my symptoms have really died down. Just hope to get through these three weeks til next scan.

Peonie have you seen this?

http://www.nhs.uk/Service-Search/Maternity-service/Liverpool/Results/6/-2.99/53.412/1802/13089?distance=25

Might help you decide between the Women's and your local hospital

x

lilmissreading

claire16c wrote: »

Lilmissreading - just posting again to ask are you at the RBH? I wasnt sure if your name was 'reading' or 'Reading' but just noticed you are from berks too and then you mentioned Henley! I was there on Sunday for an outside pub lunch!

It is in fact a 'witty' play on words as I enjoy reading and live in Reading! My lord, it took me HOURS to get through to RBH scan department on the phone. Nearly went over there on a work day with the plan of just hijacking the diary and putting myself in.