Stepping into 2014- walking in My Shoes with Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Think I am going to go rather insane if life carries on as it is!
I can't settle, I have stresses beyond the rediculous, and my energy levels are zero.
I will be so relieved to get on that Aeroplane next week.
10 days of rest and relaxation, with the only thing/person to worry about is what DGD is going to do next. ( well that's the theory, I doubt I will totally switch off from the family, and the situation at home, but at least I will be removed from it for a while.).
Cup of tea time, and breathe slowly, and purposefully, thinking mindful thoughts while I keep an eye on DGD2, who is in and out and up to everything. We've had paddling pool, painting, Playdough, dolls pram, all out.
Reckon I should change my cleaning help to a Thursday! As it was immaculate when we did it yesterday morning.
So come on positivity we can do it.

minimoneysaver

Very selfish of them all to not have cards, pressies and phone calls in the morning. It is not acceptable. I'd like to know who they would respond if you did the same to them.

So lovely of BF to ensure that DGD had a pressie for you! I think he really does care about you lovely.

Brighton_belle

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Very selfish of them all to not have cards, pressies and phone calls in the morning. It is not acceptable. I'd like to know who they would respond if you did the same to them.

So lovely of BF to ensure that DGD had a pressie for you! I think he really does care about you lovely.

I do appreciate you are hurt and upset Mooloo and I'm sorry you have been let down in something that mattered to you. Just to offer another outsiders perspective, the twins appear unable to think of others very often and are not capable of much empathy, so no acknowledgment of you seems fairly normal.
Your son is not an untypical thoughtless 20 year old lad ( apologies to the many thoughtful 20 yr old lads out there). Biggest sound like on the verge of major burnout/stress/ ill health and when you get to that point, thinking of other people's needs can be the straw that breaks the camels back. In fact, how many times has going that extra mile for your family, made you ill?
Biggest has had to over compensate for the rest of her siblings a lot.
I rarely get my mum a card or pressie for her birthday and never for mother's day, but I know these things are unimportant to our close relationship. It just depends what our individual needs and expectations are for feeling cared for. I think it possibly goes much deeper than just a card for you, and not getting any acknowledgment is a painful reflection of your family life as a whole at the moment.

Savvy_sewing

If I didn't ever get things from them then it would probably have not mattered. But usually they do ring me. Or even text me. I don't expect much from them granted. But I do expect a text at the start of the day ( well mid day as they don't get up early, some of them.)
Anyway they have all apologised, and it's ok now.
I've other things to think about.
Like go to bed early, wake up early and do another potter before Holiday club for DGD at 9 and work for me. Going to just grin and bare it until after my holiday.

Savvy_sewing

Morning, only up twice, and no particular bad dreams stuck in my mind. Yeah! I've been awake an hour, studying some old positive affirmations and thoughts. Turning my head around and going for the positives as best I can. I still have to take DGD to Holiday Club today, before I do any work. I was tempted not to go back to Thriftee, but will go in, armed with the positive thoughts that this job is not for ever, and that I will one day be working for myself as I had originally planned when I started up last year.
On return from my holiday I will revisit my business plan, analyse and move to the next step as a result. There is little point in changing the dynamics 7 days away from a holiday.
I may as well just plod on.
I will take my own scissors so I can cut things, I will take something pretty from my stash so I can create what I feel like more easily, and remove the negative thoughts somehow.
It won't take long to get the downstairs back up to scratch after the play day of yesterday, and bring calm once more.
My time this morning is a little less harassed as times are more flexible.
So catch up later- hoping positive vibes will help. No, I know they will!

Savvy_sewing

Keep the positive affirmations!!! It does help.
Got through the day at work.
Have been pottering since I got home. One sewing job collected.
Still not had a reply from another one though. Also waiting for a lady to collect a top that I hope sold on Facebook.
Just having dinner in a minute. Was too hot earlier.

Savvy_sewing

Morning, I am awake, but not really up. Although I did go down to make my cup of tea and bring it back up to bed. I've been reading my emails etc and updating the bank balances etc.
With the collection of the dress last evening I managed to bring in the final £15 and the Holiday Fund- cash neutral has finally happened. The target was £1390.18 the cost of the holiday, and with a combination of birthday money, selling clothes, cashing in bags of clothes, selling thermal bags, and taking in more alterations, and the differences in bank accounts moved about, I have achieved it, in around a month!!
Mind you every spare penny has been transferred to achieve it, but I didn't think I would achieve it before the holiday. I thought it would take until the credit card bill actually was due to be paid. So the last £1,000 is sitting in the savings account, until I have to pay the bill. The rest was paid over the course of receiving it, so when it came to having to make a payment to the cc at due date this month, I had paid in more than was on the bill, so no big payout. Although I still paid over what was in the savings over the £1,000
I am so chuffed!
The next challenge? To have a good holiday, and to come back firing on all cylinders.....
Hoping my mojo will be back.
Yesterday, after starting the morning with some mental affirmations etc, I was certainly in a better state of mind, dealt with a few small hiccups, when the kettle wouldn't work, when I needed to get an ironing board, and the dogs didn't get into my room anymore, as there is a stair gate now across it.
On my return home, I detoured passed twin1, to surprise her and check up that the flat was going to be tidy enough for her to have DGD, it had slid somewhat last week, and I hadn't inspected it as she had met me downstairs when I was handing DGD2 over to her Mum, so when I collected DGD1, I was not happy.
She said the reason she was late calling me on my birthday was because she was cleaning her flat. So what was it like? Erm,,,, well DGDs room was ok, the front room was borderline, the kitchen was iffy, and the girl from the family from hell was there. Discussion that it needed to be better still, and that otherwise she wasn't getting her daughter over, etc I was civil to the girl, but not thrilled, but I always knew once twin2 had gone twin1 would revert to letting this girl back.
so we will see how it is later today.
I have a lot of bitty things to do today, and DGD needs to be taken to get some shoes. There isn't a decent pair left anymore. Her school shoes are only fit for the bin. Although buying those will need to be nearer the return to school time, as she is growing so fast.
I should think about doing a trial pack, so we can see if I can manage the bags, and to do a check list so we don't forget anything.
The travel kettle is coming with me, along with some milk portions and tea bags, as all inclusive I probably won't be able to get a cup of tea in my room, and we all know I just don't function without my morning cup of tea.
DS had only 22p in the bank ( he still uses one of mine, dispite opening a new account a few weeks ago), and he has two more weeks till payday! Not good. He and his girlfriend still haven't put in their claim for housing benefit, and she was told when she signed on for her JSA that she's no longer entitled as she's living with DS. So there will be trouble ahead while they sort out the money etc. ( and it will not be me doing it, as I have told them what they have to do, and it's now up to them!).
biggest is going to visit her cousin this weekend, as DGD2 is with her Dads family, and her BF is away.
So hopefully all will stay calm, I will get my jobs done, and the suitcases packed, and DGD gets some new shoes today.
Have a good day, enjoy the sunshine, and hope we don't get a hosepipe ban.

patanne

Hi Mooloo - just de-lurking again with a suggestion. Have you tried googling the hotel you're booked into to see what the room facilities are. I did last time & it saved me taking my kettle as there was one in the room. Another hotel I stayed at you could get one from reception for a small refundable deposit. It would save you the space and the weight in your case.

Savvy_Sue

We've sometimes stayed in apartments predominantly used by Germans. If they know the Brits are coming, they put in a kettle, teapot and decent sized mugs ...

whiteguineapig

i always put my hotel name into tripadviser and see what everyone else has to say about it as well