Stepping into 2014- walking in My Shoes with Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Well the morning was spent sewing another Thermal bag. Then lunch time.
Since then I have been sorting things out on my iPhone. Car parking booked for the airport.
Using a Wowcher Voucher, I have ordered DGD a small child's Tablet, £32.99, rather then her always using my kindle! As I never get to read anything anymore as she's always playing games etc
I thought it would be handy for the travelling to holiday etc as well.
Time I got back to the sewing machine. Feel a bit stir crazy not having been out since Monday! May venture down the street in a bit, but waiting for the lady to pay for her thermal bag, then I could post it at same time, may be the morning if not.

Savvy_sewing

Waiting missed the post but it's paid for now, and do post office tomorrow.
Did alterations this afternoon but been watching tennis before trivia on TV this evening.
(Soppy me is really missing EX, old habits die hard. )
Such is life.
Time for bed I think, as more sewing still to do after a post office run and a call on a friend about a sofa

Savvy_sewing

morning, DGD is back to normal this morning, ( she's grumpy at me because I won't let her have my iPhone to play on) Erm I'm actually using it! So NO!
Had hoped for a lay in, but she was up well before 7.
Pottering first then the post office. She would like a trip to Bicester just to look at the fishes and have an ice cream!!!
we will see but no dashing off to Bournemouth this weekend!
Have a good weekend people.

Eager_Elephant

Good to see Twin 2 is starting to get sorted.

Sorry to hear you are having a tough time with ex - are you actually missing him as a person or just missing having some company while you watch TV??

Have a good weekend with DGD!!

Savvy_sewing

Missing his company, closeness, etc to be honest I'm hurting at my decision! But it was my decision, at the moment I'm confused.

grey_lady

Even if you know its the right thing it can still hurt, but i bet there's a nicer man down the road for you. Think about how angry you felt with him when he said what he did. Think about the pros and cons of being with him, like not being able to go out for a family meal with dgd because he won't take children to a restaurant, all the travelling, not being able to stay over with dgd, him having the relationship more on his terms. How angry you felt at New Year etc

gallygirl

Mooloo wrote: »

Missing his company, closeness, etc to be honest I'm hurting at my decision! But it was my decision, at the moment I'm confused.

Mooloo I've only ever lurked on your thread but feel compelled to post on reading this.

In all the times I've dipped in and out of your thread I've only ever heard bad things about him - indeed the only good has been when you try to defend him.

The man is a knob and doesn't deserve you (:think: wondering if that will get through the swear filter.....). Go back to the first page of your diary for a reminder of what he is like. You derserve so much better. Far better to be lonely for a while than putting up with that bell-end (wonder if that will get through as well......).

Going back to lurking now, but you don't live too far away from me so any signs of wavering I'll be coming over to bash you with one of your thermal bags .

Be strong.

GG x

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

Missing his company, closeness, etc to be honest I'm hurting at my decision! But it was my decision, at the moment I'm confused.

You'd feel exactly the same if your much loved ten year old dog died.
To address your confusion, take a pencil and a piece of paper and write down all the benefits you gained from the relationship in one column and in another column all the disfuncitiona behaviour. Then see which list is the longest. I'm confused about you missing his company when he gave you so very little of it.
Honestly, some relationships are simply toxic no matter how much 'love' is swilling around them.

Savvy_sewing

Oh I am probably my own worst enemy. I'm certainly really confused, and going around in circles. I suppose it is a lot of habit, and I am stuck in it, suppose it's a bit like trying to give up smoking, but still having them in your handbag.
anyway, I suppose I will get used to it eventually. I do realise that some loves are toxic, and this certainly seems to have been pretty toxic at times, certainly pretty one sided, in some ways, and even though I feel lost, I certainly can't see anyway forward if I had stayed.
I am trying to adjust, I know I will in time, just find the weekends the hardest to deal with.

I am changing my living room furniture, one of my friends is selling off her conservatory furniture, which I love, and so I'm now having, and then I was thinking I will have to get rid of mine somehow, when a request for help with "everything" was needed came up on local FB selling pages, so said they can have mine for free, turns out they are only 5 doors down! So that's good, I won't have to get a man with a van to remove it for me, or pay £30 to the council as I expected I'd have to do, and they can have the odds and ends here that were Twin2's as she doesn't need them, and DS has stuff already. feels good to help others as well.
next weekend DS moves, and the following one Biggest of Mooloos moves.
All change once again.
Twin1 is on the bus home today and she's going to have DGD for a few hours tomorrow, so I can have a bit of respite after the pair of us being couped up in here all week.
I have plenty of sewing things to do as well.
Got to wait in now for the people to collect the furniture, so DGD and I won't be venturing off anywhere this afternoon. The rain has stopped so I'm going to put the cover on the line that I washed today.
Still a bit wet to be trying to garden though. Think I've lost most of my beans to the slugs dispite traps and slug pellets! So much for my little veg patch, it's going to be a learning curve that's for sure.

Errata

I suppose I will get used to it eventually

Of course you will, that's how life works. And it may happen more quickly than you expect.
Concentrate on your business - it won't keep you warm in bed at night but it will give you better life, and unlike your ex it won't just txt you because you're not worth the bother of having a telephone conversation with.