Trying to get on track

Fortune_Smiles

Hi inood :hello:


sounds like a very sensible course of action to me. We can't be specialists in everything and often seek expertise when we need help with decorating, finances, diet and fitness etc. It's just the same with our mental health, in fact I'd say much more important. Sometimes advice is needed and it makes sense to get some expert input. There's no failing in that.


Fortune x

Eager_Elephant

Oh INOD - sending


As the others have already said, you are not a failure.


Nobody who seeks treatment for their mental health is a failure, it means you have been honest about how you are feeling and are getting the help you need.


It's not about how much anyone has been through - it is about how your own body reacts to things that matter.


I obviously don't know your history but if you are on medication for mental health please do not feel a failure if you are on them for a long time, some people just need them for a long time.
My DH has been on anti-depressants for the last 20 years, he will never be able to stop taking them and as long as they help him get through life who are we to worry??

girlatplay

in_need_of_direction

thank you all. what a brilliant group of people

joeyjimbles

Just popping on to say that in any other area of our lives, we would go and seek professional help for something that we were confronted with that we couldn't sort out ourselves. Mental health is the same and you are very brave and very strong to have got yourself to where you need to be. Go you x

stepuptothepl8

Hugs.. You have been, and continue to be, inspirational. You're doing great things x

supersaver1000

I second what everyone else is saying INOD.

Have a look at this TED talk too 'Why we all need to practice emotional first aid'.

https://www.ted.com/talks/guy_winch_the_case_for_emotional_hygiene

Hugs xx

beanielou

You are not a failure in any way.
We all need a wee bit of help now & then & it take the better person to admit it.
I had a meltdown the other day.My life is a disaster zone at the moment.

millionaire_in_training

INOD you are far from a failure. Just take the counselling as it comes and go with the flow. Might make a world of difference to you xx

satchmo1

Dear INOD, it takes great strength to ask for and follow through on getting help. Prioritise yourself, in order that you are fit to help others.


My DH has suffered MH issues all his life, due to abusive parenting (violence, alcoholism, suicide). He suffers, his siblings suffer, and they won't talk about it. I tried having conversations about it with his siblings, but didn't get far. I now tell people that he is struggling, and in fact I'm getting surprisingly positive responses from my relatives and friends. DH gave me permission this year to talk about his black dog struggles, which has helped me enormously, as my support system has been strengthened, which in turn enables me to maintain my support.


I had some counselling sessions recently, which helped me cope with stressful family issues, and also helped me set objectives. I read somewhere of a GP practice that asked "what do you want to achieve today". Sometimes what you want to achieve is complex; sometimes it's as simple as "Today I'd like to resist sweets/sugar/drink/arguing/ slothing/crying/spending/avoidance".


PM me if you want, you know I'm here for you. In the meantime, I'm praying for you.