Eating meals at friends / family's homes

SavingPennies_2

No I wouldnt. I dislike eating in other peoples houses anyway - I much prefer to cook what I want and how I want, and if someone elses house was dirty, no chance! Even if its "safe" its still very offputting and not enjoyable. Yes a little bit of dirt might be okay, but if its as bad as you say, like "how clean is your house" style... urggh its an insult to invite you over for food in IMO!

Edit: I feel sick just reading this! Invite her to eat or yours or meals out only!!!

tinkerfairy

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

No I wouldn't eat there. Untidiness I can cope with, but dirtyness is a big no no. What's their personal cleanliness like? I'd be worried that they didn't wash their hands or worktops before food preparation.

I'm not a total clean freak by any means, and realise that in times gone by before there was anti bac cleaner etc, people managed perfectly well. But there's a difference between a slight bit of dirt (probably won't harm you) and down right dirtyness.

I'm very sensitive to smells, and if something smells greasy or dirty, then I'm outta there. I have a very low gag reflex.

Some of those houses on HCIYH are disgusting, and if your MIL's house is like that, then I don't blame you for not wanting to go or let your kids eat there.

She never washes her hands before food preparation .

I too have a low gag reflux which is why I can not eat there.

tinkerfairy

It has totally ruined my christmas as I had planned Boxing Day bought all the food for us etc. we as going to visit my dad who has just came out of hospital after having a major operation due to cancer then relax in the evening with a little buffet just us and the kids.

She told him she's bought food for us and he said we are going . My plans been thrown out of the window.

It's really ruining my christmas knowing I have to sit there and be nagged at for not eating. I don't like the thought of the children eating there either.

Nicki

My mum's house isn't as bad as this but is also a bit manky, and my 14 year old son refuses to eat while he is there. He's always perfectly polite and pretends he isn't hungry or feels unwell but he won't have as much as a cup of tea there. My younger two don't mind and my husband and I force ourselves and thankfully have never been ill. It is a huge minefield though. I always insist on doing the washing up afterwards to thank her for the meal and give the worktops and cooker a good going over with hot soapy water at the same time but that is after the event. She doesn't have a dishwasher either and so her baking dishes and saucepans tend to have old crusted food on them too as she isn't patient enough to wash them up carefully by hand

gingin_2

It's a hard one. I know of someone similar and have always assumed it's down to depression. She sees the mess and dirt but just can't seem to get it together to clear it up.

Does she want for it to be clean or is she happy living that way?

tinkerfairy

gingin wrote: »

It's a hard one. I know of someone similar and have always assumed it's down to depression. She sees the mess and dirt but just can't seem to get it together to clear it up.

Does she want for it to be clean or is she happy living that way?

She is happy she doesn't see it as dirty. We used to do her cleaning weekly but she told us a year ago she didn't want us to do it anymore.

Valli

Alikay wrote: »

Bear in mind that it's the nasties like salmonella and e coli which cause the problems, and they're more to do with insufficient cooking and poor food storage than general household grot.

and poor hygiene - if she isn't keeping her house clean then maybe she isn't washing her hands after using the loo either *shudder*

It's a no from me - but what a dilemma!

Bennifred

tinkerfairy wrote: »

It has totally ruined my christmas as I had planned Boxing Day bought all the food for us etc. we as going to visit my dad who has just came out of hospital after having a major operation due to cancer then relax in the evening with a little buffet just us and the kids.

She told him she's bought food for us and he said we are going . My plans been thrown out of the window.

It's really ruining my christmas knowing I have to sit there and be nagged at for not eating. I don't like the thought of the children eating there either.

I would not be dictated to like that. :mad: Let him go on his own, and you do what you want.

gingin_2

tinkerfairy wrote: »

She is happy she doesn't see it as dirty. We used to do her cleaning weekly but she told us a year ago she didn't want us to do it anymore.

Then I definitely wouldn't and I think you could be honest to her about why if put in a decent way.

gardner1

tinkerfairy wrote: »

No he grew up with her. He says himself how dirty it is and how can she not be embarrassed having visitors, work men etc around.

The dirty floors I can cope with if she didn't pick utensils, food, dish cloths up off the floor and use them without washing them. She never ever does any housework and doesn't wash up just swills things off but baking trays etc are just left in the oven for the next time.

Her personal hygiene is just as bad she doesn't shower often and smells, has dirty nails and doesn't brush her teeth (we bought her an electric toothbrush last Xmas and it's still sealed).

you wouldn't get me past the front door.....and if huffed the mil or my wife...tough
dirty house I might just manage but when someone doesn't care about personal hygiene (think of all those times she goes to the loo) no way would I eat there