Back to basics with pavlovs_dog: the £6k sprint

skint_spice

Tea and sympathy are served

Alchemilla

Hugs P.
Lets play wheel of life.

What are your scores?

edinburgher

Tea and sympathy (and I'll bite re. Al's idea):

Business/Career 5
Finances 7
Health 8
Family and Friends 7
Romance 9
Personal Growth 4
Fun and Recreation 9
Physical Environment 8

Alchemilla

Personal Growth 3. No time to read.
Romance 3. Sick husband. Two teacher. End of term. TMI.
Family and friends...immediate 9 extended 3
Health. 5. Touch wood.
Finances 5
Business / career 4 I am institutionalised.
Physical environment...9. I feel pretty damn good about it.
Fun and Recreation. 5 mainly thanks to the plops. Might go to 7 when off the waggon.

choccielover

Ok I'll play

- Business/Career 9
hard work but rewarding, at a higher management level than I anticipated for my age. Need to agree a new contract then I'm a 10
- Finances 9
Will be happy once new contract sorted, more money will be going into pension pots, I already have a sufficient plan to pay off mortgage in 10 ish years so can focus on starting saving in shares etc.
-Health 7
Long term health issue, somewhat in my hands to control but less stress would help, not going to happen because of career but right or wrong I have made my choice
- Family and Friends 8
My family is it for me, my everything. Due to the amount of time career takes I have little time for friends outside my circle of close ones, mainly mums with children the same age as mine
-Romance 9
Happy as the day we were married
-Personal Growth 8
I spent the last 12 months focusing on this specifically and feel I have made great strides and am a much stronger person because of it.
-Fun and Recreation 8
The little time I do have is wholeheartedly dedicated to this. I specifically plan full weekends and time off to ensure its time well spent
Physical Environment 8
Need a new kitchen/garden landscaping/redecorating.....nuff said!!


Hmm, sounds like I've got it all doesn't it.
Which makes me think there are some things in life not represented on the wheel.....as I look at each current aspect I am happy with my analysis and score. And I am on the whole happy, but not as much as this would imply I don't think.

Chocs

in_need_of_direction

Is there a set of questions that goes along with the wheel to help with scoring?

Alchemilla

Choccy and Ed I look like a proper misery!!

I think you just give each bit marks out of ten for how you think its going.

pavlovs_dog

thanks for being there :beer: I prescribed myself a hot bath to pamper myself and a decent night of sleep. I feel more like myself today.

INOD, Al is correct that you give yourself a score out of 10. I didn't bother with this aspect as it is a bit subjective (my scores yesterday would have been quite different to today's as an example. Perspective is a wonderful thing ).

I used it to collate my thoughts on strengths and weaknesses in each area. To be honest, it didn't tell my anything I didn't already know. However it was very sobering to realise just how many aspects of my life were playing second fiddle to my workload. The most depressing aspect of this light bulb moment was the realisation that, despite the complete lack of work/life balance, I was no happier in my job for the insane number of hours it commands.

Change starts here. I've booked a week in Sorrento for October half term in honour of my birthday (the big 3-0, it seems positively middle aged ). Not only was it a billy bargain by Italy standards (flights & 7 nights in a 4* hotel on b&b basis for £500pp), but the fact that we are going for a week enforces a week of rest. The usual October half term ritual of trying to get on top of all the things I didn't manage to do in the first term will NOT be happening this year. And do you know what? The world will keep spinning regardless. There IS more to life than work.

in_need_of_direction

I truly wish that 30 seemed middle aged to me.

Alchemilla

It looks positively young from here.

Well done Pavlovs. I know you are a seasoned campaigner but I do say to the trainees that any time you feel you are doing 75% of the job you are doing really well since 100% is impossible.