family names

McKneff

Yes, you are being overly sensitive. Big time.


Live and let live, youre a long time dead pet.


Hopefully these babies might draw the family a little closer together.


And don't blame your mum, she was maybe just keeping quiet cos she didn't want to see you
having a strop.

marisco_2

Just because you chose to give your child a certain name does not give you exclusivity to it. I think it shows how damaged your relationship with your sister is, that your main focus at this time is how similar the baby's name is to its cousins, rather than being happy that it arrived safe and well.

You accuse your sister of being back stabbing and generally nasty but then start this kind of thread about her. What a family!!! I feel sorry for the kids caught up in the middle of all this bad feeling and hostility between their relatives whatever their names are.

mandragora_2

If you're not fond of her, and presumably don't see her much, how will it affect you?

Oakie

Just treat it as a compliment

Nicki

So you have cut your sister out of your life, she has virtually no contact with anyone else in your family, yet you still think you have a power to veto what she calls her own children, children that you will most likely never meet and who will never have any contact with your children.

Why on earth would you think that to be at all unreasonable?

The Duchess of Cambridge has given her baby a very similar name to my four year old son's by the way. We don't move in the same social circles and the two boys are unlikely ever to meet, but I bagged that name first. Should I phone the palace and complain about that?

itsanne

pooki wrote: »

am i being overly sensitive?
many thanks

Definitely.

Why shouldn't someone else be allowed to use the name just because you got there first? It's not even the same name!

This isn't the first thread where people have been upset with a family member choosing the same or a similar name to their own offspring. I really don't get it. Thousands of people have the same name. Many families have "family" names. So what? There are many more important things in life to worry over.

Toto

One of my closest friends is called Mary named after her mum (and nan, and great-grandmother etc.) That's all good, only her younger sister is also called Mary, so are both of their daughters. My friend Mary uses the name Claire (this isn't any of her names) but only with a certain group of friends. It's all a bit confusing especially at family gatherings when they are trying to tell stories of what Mary said to Mary and then Mary got upset


OP yes you are being a bit sensitive. I think perhaps your feelings have more to do with the relationship you have with your sister than the choice of name.

indsty

Your 3 yr old will be very excited to have a little cousin with "his" name. Your mum is in the middle and no doubt pleased to have mended things with her daughter - she is not going to spoil that by starting a silly argument about names. Accept the new addition to the family and make sure your sister knows how pleased you are she liked and chose the same name - if it was done maliciously (which I doubt) then she knows she has failed. There are much more important things to worry about.

Savemesomemoneyplease

I don't think you're being over sensitive. I have family members (who are cousins) called Oliver and Olivia and I thought that was strange enough.

I'd be pretty annoyed if my sibling named their child the same/ similar as mine. Not because it's exclusively my name, just because it seems pretty rude!

meritaten

my cousin who is about 10 months younger than me is called Karen and my name is Carol (not letting out any great secret here - most regular posters know this), my mum was miffed too! but I don't mind one bit! as kids we just called each other Ca and Ka and burst out laughing.