family names

pollypenny

I don't think you are bring over-sensitive. It suggests that your sister is dismissive of your son.

One BIL gave his son the same name as DS. As it happens, his second wife soon kicked him into touch and reverted to her maiden name.

Tiddlywinks

pollypenny wrote: »

I don't think you are bring over-sensitive. It suggests that your sister is dismissive of your son.

That is a ridiculous assumption to make...

KxMx

I'd be miffed but I do think you are being over sensitive.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Just wait until your little one starts school. Odds are that there will be four or five kids in reception and year one with the same name, not to mention the numbers in nursery and years 2 - 6.


Very few of us actually pick an unusual name, we might think we do, but even my eldest's name is now fairly common, as it's associated with a famous singer (who was 5 years old and living thousands of miles away when DD was born).


It's not worth getting worked up about.

sassyblue

Bennifred wrote: »

I'd be miffed, but pleased that I used it first.
My sister used the name I'd told her we wanted for our first child for her third who was born a month before, having never mentioned it before during our many discussions on the matter. I was very upset. Luckily my child was the opposite sex and I got over it - although I have never forgotten or made the same mistake again.........

Now that is bad!

mountainofdebt

Imitation is the greatest form of flattery

Person_one

Bennifred wrote: »

I'd be miffed, but pleased that I used it first.
My sister used the name I'd told her we wanted for our first child for her third who was born a month before, having never mentioned it before during our many discussions on the matter. I was very upset. Luckily my child was the opposite sex and I got over it - although I have never forgotten or made the same mistake again.........

She may well have thought of it and wanted it long before you did, just didn't mention it.

You can't 'call dibs' on a name, they don't belong to anybody!

Savvy_Sue

I have done a Very Wrong Thing (actually I did it over 20 years ago but hey ho.)

One of my sisters has a very similar name to her OH (she has the female version of it). I gave DS2 her OH's name. And we have a friend who shares both his first and middle names (we weren't naming him after this friend, it's just a good combination).

But I have form: I gave DS1 an adult cousin's name. And again, we have a friend with both his first and middle names, and that was most definitely not someone you'd name a child after!

DS3's middle name really belongs to his uncle. That's the only one which was a conscious 'naming after' decision.

Sometimes a name just strikes you. That's what happened with DS1: I saw the name in a book of names, and it just hit me between the eyes as if I'd never seen it before in my life. In fact we had half a dozen friends of that name, but THAT was the only possible name for our firstborn, and at that moment no-one else had ever thought of it before.

The OP's sister may have had a similar revelation.

Bennifred

Person_one wrote: »

She may well have thought of it and wanted it long before you did, just didn't mention it.

You can't 'call dibs' on a name, they don't belong to anybody!

Well obviously you can't "call dibs" on a name.
The thing is, my sister already had two children (one of each sex) and had (obviously) free choice over the names she chose for them. During all our dicussions of "names we like" over the years, not once did she mention the name I liked and said I'd choose for my first if it was a girl. So when we were pregnant at the same time and discussing names, (which we did, often) she and I came up with choices that were different from each other (mine were what DH and I had always agreed on) but then when her child was born, a month before mine, she gave her the name (she knew!) we had planned on giving our first-born! Now, I know that it shouldn't matter, but it really did So it was lucky that I had a boy.
She went on to have three more children, and I had two more, but I never discussed names with her again, despite her asking.

onlyroz

We'll my daughter has the same name as my cousin and she's thrilled that I chose it.