family names

BAGGY

We have cousins Lynn, Linda and Linden. No probs. Just proves it is a popular name.

pollypenny

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

That is a ridiculous assumption to make...

Well BIL, the self-centred git, has taken no notice of my gorgeous DS at any stage of his life.

I'd say that, unless there is a very big age gap, if a name has been used, it's taken. Otherwise at family togethers you'd have to use middle names, too.

Would you like a drink, Michael Andrew? What about you, Michael Robert?

Shades of The Waltons. :cool:

Person_one

pollypenny wrote: »

Well BIL, the self-centred git, has taken no notice of my gorgeous DS at any stage of his life.

I'd say that, unless there is a very big age gap, if a name has been used, it's taken. Otherwise at family togethers you'd have to use middle names, too.

Would you like a drink, Michael Andrew? What about you, Michael Robert?

Shades of The Waltons. :cool:

We have big Tom middle Tom and little Tom at our family gatherings, and if the whole extended family's there then enough Johns to form a male voice choir.

In my closest group of 6 friends, there are only 3 first names and 4 surnames, and that's not even relatives, just coincidence.

It's really not a big deal!

fabforty

Im sorry but I do think you are being too sensitive :-).


Personally I would be more upset by the fact that my sister has a child that I have never seen/have no relationship with, and would focus my energy on trying to fix that - not getting upset over something petty.

fabforty

pollypenny wrote: »

Well BIL, the self-centred git, has taken no notice of my gorgeous DS at any stage of his life.

I'd say that, unless there is a very big age gap, if a name has been used, it's taken. Otherwise at family togethers you'd have to use middle names, too.

I'm sorry but that is ridiculous. I doubt if a few family members having the same name has caused major problems in anyone's family. We have a couple of very common names in our family and we have never had to resort to using middle names.

Make-it-3

I was a bit miffed when my husband's work colleague chose the same name for their daughter just a month after ours was born. (Ours is fairly unusual - only just makes it into the top 200 names that year) and I couldn't help but wonder if they would have chosen that name if they hadn't got the idea from him.

But you say your sister has a habit of winding people up, maybe she likes the name and knowing it will bug you added to the joy of choosing it too.

As others have said it would be rare to go through life without encountering another with the same name as your child (unless you chose something completely ridiculous like "Cabbage"). If you and your sister no longer speak and the cousins are unlikely to meet then try to ignore it, if anyone mentions it then at least you aren't the copycat.

Savvy_Sue

Oh, I forgot, DS2's name was also my uncle's name. Again, he wasn't named after him, it just happened.

We tend to talk about "your" Fred, "my" Fred, "Freda's" Fred and "Uncle" Fred. Obvious from the context. Uncle is dead now so it's a tiny bit simpler.

BTW, I know a couple where both mum and dad are called Lee. Spelling may be different, but they are known as He-Lee and She-Lee. Simples.

fabforty

Bennifred wrote: »

I'd be miffed, but pleased that I used it first.
My sister used the name I'd told her we wanted for our first child for her third who was born a month before, having never mentioned it before during our many discussions on the matter. I was very upset. Luckily my child was the opposite sex and I got over it - although I have never forgotten or made the same mistake again.........

That would upset me too, but it is different. If your sister had used a similar name three years later, would you have been equally upset?

Tiddlywinks

pollypenny wrote: »

I'd say that, unless there is a very big age gap, if a name has been used, it's taken. Otherwise at family togethers you'd have to use middle names, too.

Would you like a drink, Michael Andrew? What about you, Michael Robert?

Shades of The Waltons. :cool:

I come from an Italian family... lots of kids, lots of saints' names to choose from but we seem to have some family favourites which several members share... so what? Never have we had a family argument because of it.

Just because your family has an 'issue' don't assume we are all just as petty.

Tiddlywinks

Make-it-3 wrote: »

I was a bit miffed when my husband's work colleague chose the same name for their daughter just a month after ours was born. (Ours is fairly unusual - only just makes it into the top 200 names that year) and I couldn't help but wonder if they would have chosen that name if they hadn't got the idea from him.

So what?

It's a child of a work colleague - you don't gain ownership and a trademark over a name when you choose it for your child.

Perhaps you could be flattered that they may have liked the name after hearing your choice.