Need help thinking up an excuse for Santa

quidsy

whitesatin wrote: »

Basically, I have always said that I believe in anyone who brings me presents. Bring them on.

My new life motto :cool:

notanewuser

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I think it's very sad that some people seem to be saying that letting your children believe in Santa means they will have trust issues in the future when they discover that he isn't real.

I never saw believing in Santa as anything other than part of Christmas although not essential of course.

That's certainly not what I'm saying. Neither DH nor I want to set DD up for the disappointment we felt as children when we found out Santa doesn't exist. Not beginning the belief for her is part of that.

seven-day-weekend

In Spain they have the Three Kings Festival (Tres Reyes) and the Kings bring presents for children, just as they did for Jesus. The children all know it is their dads/uncles/neighbours dressed up as Kings, but still enjoy the presents. I like this festival and I personally would rather do this one than Father Chrsitmas, as it is a community event with celebrations and a big party

However, we don't do Tres Reyes in this country, so I'm a bit stuffed.

Person_one

notanewuser wrote: »

That's certainly not what I'm saying. Neither DH nor I want to set DD up for the disappointment we felt as children when we found out Santa doesn't exist. Not beginning the belief for her is part of that.

You're setting her up for a completely different kind of disappointment though. You're setting her up to be on the outside amongst her peers while they all share something special and magical and exciting.

Torry_Quine

notanewuser wrote: »

That's certainly not what I'm saying. Neither DH nor I want to set DD up for the disappointment we felt as children when we found out Santa doesn't exist. Not beginning the belief for her is part of that.

Maybe not but it has been said by some that 'lying' about Santa meant they couldn't trust in the future which to me seems a bit far-fetched.

As I've said it's up to the parents but the default is to belive in Santa so your daughter may be disappointed anyway if others do believe.

I don't see why it would be such a disappointment as you can still belive in Santa whatever your age.:xmastree:

Person_one

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

In Spain they have the Three Kings Festival (Tres Reyes) and the Kings bring presents for children, just as they did for Jesus. The children all know it is their dads/uncles/neighbours dressed up as Kings, but still enjoy the presents. I like this festival and I personally would rather do this one than Father Chrsitmas, as it is a community event with celebrations and a big party

However, we don't do Tres Reyes in this country, so I'm a bit stuffed.

A Spanish friend of mine is married to an English man, their children get both. Father Christmas visits at their house in England on the 25th the they fly to Spain in time for the three kings to come.

Both are nice traditions.

seven-day-weekend

Person_one wrote: »

A Spanish friend of mine is married to an English man, their children get both. Father Christmas visits at their house in England on the 25th the they fly to Spain in time for the three kings to come.

Both are nice traditions.

That sounds great!. Lucky children

OrkneyStar

Person_one wrote: »

You're setting her up for a completely different kind of disappointment though. You're setting her up to be on the outside amongst her peers while they all share something special and magical and exciting.

DS doesn't believe in Santa. At school he is still sharing in: giving cards to each other, acting out the nativity, having a Christmas Craft Day/Disco/Party, having a tree in the class, talking about what they want/have been given, heaven knows what else.
I have said it before and will say it again, he knows not to go about telling other kids santa isn't real!! Hopefully NANU's daughter will do exactly as DS does with sharing in the celebrations, and also realise she doesn't need to blurt it out (and even if she doesn't someone else might, and the children may or may not accept it!).
For the record, we are Christians and so Christmas IS special for us, without santa, as we have something much more special- not magical, but special and exciting!

notanewuser

Person_one wrote: »

You're setting her up for a completely different kind of disappointment though. You're setting her up to be on the outside amongst her peers while they all share something special and magical and exciting.

I'm going to say this as clearly as I can one more time.

IF SHE WANTS TO BELIEVE, WE WON'T BE STOPPING HER. WE JUST AREN'T STARTING/HAVEN'T STARTED IT OFF FOR HER!!!!!

It's up to her whether she wants to conform to whatever her friends believe. We aren't foisting it onto her, that's all.

Is it really that hard to understand?

Person_one

OrkneyStar wrote: »

special for us, without santa, as we have something much more special- not magical, but special and exciting!

Oh the irony of refusing to 'lie' about Santa for a few short years but happily telling them about a virgin birth and a magical carpenter as if it were absolute fact.